Cunnilingus - So hard

[Epic_Epidemic]

Dude, just try spelling out the alphabet with your tongue. It worked the few times I've tried that technique.

 

[Jaza]

Just remember to take it easy man.. The tone of your words, whilst not sounding forceful, have implications of pressure and such.

If there is any pressure on her to cum, either from you or her, be it on purporse or inadvertant - she won't. I've had a 'tricky' girl before and it did my head in - the absolute most important first step is to take all the focus of cumming and just have her enjoy everything along the way. It will come...

 

[belarki]

^^ well put Jaza, it sounds as though her troubles may be mental; she might not be relaxed enough and any pressure to perform will likely throw her off. A lot of the tips in this thread could be handy there, even ones like talking dirty - either it'll turn her on or make her laugh, you win either way.

 

[felix]

sadly she isnt comfortable with anal stimulation.

that's a shame.

if she doesn't like a finger up there (yet ), try subtly resting the knuckle of your bent index finger up against it. i bet you in no time she'll be pushing herself into it, and once she's comfortable with that you can take things to the next level. %)

my ex used to go fucking insane with a finger up the bum when i went down on her, i literally had to pin her down with all my strength to stop her squirming about. she fucking loved it.

 

[justsayknow]

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i cant even make her cum with a vibrator

we almost did it once, she even brought her vibrator to my place, but then we were both to tired.

So she owns her own vibrator?

Does she know how to make herself cum with it?

I reckon you should let her be responsible for her orgasm first and then worry about her cumming with you later.

If she cant make herself come, you shouldnt feel so bad that you cant either. If she can then let her do it in front of you 1st then work towards other stuff later

 

[iskalla]

she does own a vibrator. and depending on how horny she is, she can make herself cum with it in 40 seconds flat. i told her i wanted her to use it in front of me and shes gonna do it once shes back from her trip in a week. she says she has doubts she will cum though. its a mental thing, 100% mental. i told her i know ive put pressure on her, but its too late to reverse that now, as its stuck in both of our heads, and we should just get the orgasm over with. she agrees.

concerning anal, i put my hand on her asshole a lot, i massage it gently during sex, but most of the time she will reach around and place my hand elsewhere. and ive been doing the asshole thing for quite a while now, i really think she isnt very into it. i still do it regularly and usually retreat before she redirects me.

another thing is that a guy has made her cum from oral. on vaccation a few years back. she said it didnt take long at all, but thinks its because she knew hed never see him again and it was a horny, relaxed, drunk situation.

 

[JohnnyComa]

As good as a lot of this advice is, she probably won't cum unless she's comfortable enough with her own body. I've found that the girls that I have slept with who are inexperienced are much harder to make cum than an experienced girl, mainly because those with more experience know exactly what they want.

Think of it this way - when a girl is giving you a hand job, you know exactly how she should do it because you've been masturbating since middle school. If she doesn't masturbate, how the hell is she going to know what to do other than say "faster, slower, faster"?

Edit: Didn't read the second page of this thread, sorry..ignore the above

You're probably on your own here. Take into consideration most of the advice that has been given in this thread, such as doing the ABC's with your tongue, or rubbing the G-spot.

Another thing to take into consideration is that oral sex is usually implemented as foreplay. Since a lot of women prefer more sensual sexual experiences, don't just jump on down and start eating her out, work your way down next time. For example, start out by kissing her neck, and then working your way down to her tits, and then kiss down to her clit.

What usually works for me is clitoral stimulation for a little bit and then supplementing with g-spot stimulation. It's usually a good idea to do both at the same time.

Let us know if any of this works out for you, and good luck!

 

[64tf]

You'll find the right trick eventually. All women are different, and you need to customize for each.

My favorite tip, when you think your getting close, go lighter. Faster is O.K., but when your getting close back off the presure.

 

[Winding Vines]

Don't try so hard.

Make it a game that you both can enjoy, oral is about both parties not just her or you. Again, the more that you TRY (to get her to cum) the more a woman can sense.

Experiment with her engaging. Rub her with your fingers, in many different ways, change pace. It shouldn't be about how fast can you get her to cum. Even for myself being with someone for 4 years, sometimes it takes me a while to cum because I either am so turned on by what he is doing that I get wrapped up in being pleasured or he may not be moving things right or at the perfect rhythm. Maybe have her touch herself with you watching, it could give you some clues on what/where/pace basically how she ticks.

I really recommend buy a subsciption to bubblegirls.com

Or maybe buy her a toy.

 

[QuestionEverything]

You'll find the right trick eventually. All women are different, and you need to customize for each.

My favorite tip, when you think your getting close, go lighter. Faster is O.K., but when your getting close back off the presure.

+1 to customizing for every individual woman.

I have to say though, as far as backing off the pressure when you think she's getting close - for me that's the worst thing a man could do. When I'm that close I need everything to continue exactly how it is or I'll lose the sensation and be back to square one.

That can be fun sometimes though - building up to that point without climaxing over and over and over again makes for one hell of an explosion when it finally does come.

 

[MDPVagrant]

usually i decide to start screaming "Sale! everything must go, up to 50% off!"

that really gets em going.

Try adding "Shoes!!!" next time, for that extra touch that means so much...

 

[MDPVagrant]

i cant even make her cum with a vibrator btw,

Sex is mental. Do understand it isn't really you "making her" cum, it's basically her own thoughts. If she understood this as well, the whole thing would probably happen naturally.

 

[Vandalaay]

sadly she isnt comfortable with anal stimulation.

concerning anal, i put my hand on her asshole a lot, i massage it gently during sex, but most of the time she will reach around and place my hand elsewhere. and ive been doing the asshole thing for quite a while now, i really think she isnt very into it. i still do it regularly and usually retreat before she redirects me.

Teeny tiny suggestion: stop touching her ass if she doesn't like it. Some of the replies in this thread are really good, IMO. But she's not going to benefit from any of it if you're not sensitive to her preferences. Sensitivity and responsiveness are just as much a part of the equation as technique. Girls need to feel comfortable, ya dig?

 

[iskalla]

Teeny tiny suggestion: stop touching her ass if she doesn't like it. Some of the replies in this thread are really good, IMO. But she's not going to benefit from any of it if you're not sensitive to her preferences. Sensitivity and responsiveness are just as much a part of the equation as technique. Girls need to feel comfortable, ya dig?

im pretty sure shes slowly getting into it. she was a virgin before i met her, so its only natural that things like this can take a little time for her to be comfortable with. just recently she started playing around with my ass, so i guess thats a good sign.

she is very comfortable with me in bed, im sure of that. its just the orgasm thing. and its not a taboo either. we joke about it and shit, but its something we need to get out of the way. maybe on saturday!

Thanks for all the great comments, theres nothing you can do for me right now. ill be sure to keep you updated on further progress.

 

[Winding Vines]

Oh and one more thing:

She may be uncomfortable with herself sexually at this point. I know I was, even after no longer being a virgin, I thought I didn't enjoy oral but all it took was some mutual understanding that it ain't about getting off and being comfortable with my body.

 

[L O V E L I F E]

(1) Suck on her clit;

(2) While you allow ET (or some other 3,100 vibrations per minute machine) to help
your tongue and fingers stimulte her clit and g-spot, respectively,

(3) Insert ice cubes (teasing each one in, of course, AFTER melting them into smaller cubes by rubbing them ever so gently over her wet (and now even wetter) lips, into her now-begging-for-it pussy, one at a time, as long as she can hold them, the freezing cold ice being offset by the heating feature on ET (only 30 bucks or so, if you know where to look).

And with enough dirty talk on your end (you ARE her master, after all), you can fit a whole lot more ice cubes in there than you first thought (think: fisting) you could.

*END LESSON ONE*

 

[larrylove23]

practice makes perfect....

 

[mewithoutyou]

Tell her not to think of the purpose to be oragasm, stressing over it is not going to help. Tell her just to relax and enjoy the way you are making her feel.

Perhaps, tell her to fantasize while you doing it.

If I cant cum when my bf is giving me oral, thats what I do.
OR maybe pop in a porno to get her mind more into it.

Or tell her to get her clit pierced.
Its the most wonderful persent a girl can give herself.

 

[IcarusRisen]

And with enough dirty talk on your end (you ARE her master, after all), you can fit a whole lot more ice cubes in there than you first thought (think: fisting) you could.

Am I the only one that doesn't enjoy the idea of stuffing a girl's vagina full of things like a pinata?

 

[Innocuous]

Dude, just try spelling out the alphabet with your tongue. It worked the few times I've tried that technique.

The alphabet technique is gold. Sometimes it's more about around rather then on the clit. The mental angle seems likely too. Good luck.