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Cuddle Buddies?

ballsdeep927

ballsdeep927

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So this kid that I'm pretty close to cuddles with me all the time, but we never really even kissed. We've talked to eachother like we were planning on having sex but havn't yet. I want him as more than a friend, but right now am just concentrating on getting a kiss from him. what do i do for him to make a move? because I don't have it in me to make a move at all. And he always gets jealous over other guys and tries to come in between me and them, but he hasn't made an effort to be with me.
Please help. This kid means alot to me.
 
Well, since the other party is not making a move, perhaps, if you want something done, you should do it yourself? It has always been my solution to someone else's inaction, and generally worked pretty well.

Hopefully, you do not require the consultation of strangers on the internet as to how to physically undertake kissing the fellow, so I'm gonna say, undertake doing so! As well, it may not be the worst idea in the history of humanity to talk to this person and tell them straight up how you feel/what you are thinking/etc. Perhaps the other person is too shy or not otherwise confidant with doing so? Maybe they do not think you reciprocate the feelings? Any number of things... So imo, let them know.

I see you say you do not have it in you to make a move... but you probably do. Its not so bad, once you take the initial step, it flows easily and carries it self forward.
 
I dunno. If he is tripping out with jealousy over other guys when you two haven't done more than cuddle, then it sounds like he would too much, too possessive, etc. to be more than someone with whom you do more than cuddle with. Not cool, big red flag. Or maybe it could just be sexual frustration?

But if you really want to kiss him then just go for it. Don't play the game of not making the first move. Next time you are cuddling with him, and when you are gazing into each other's eyes, smile coyly and lick your lips and dive in. This generally has been fairly successful for me.
 
Make a move!

Why do women always expect men to make the first move? It's a universal thing, it can go both ways! I for one, am very shy and will never make a move. Maybe this guy is just like that, too shy to make a move first? If he is cuddling with you, he obviously likes you.

And in my experience, Cuddling is equal to two people saying "I want to fuck you, but I'm too shy". I use to do that all the time in my teens, I'd be cuddle buddies with somebody, but be too shy to straight up tell them I liked them. Just go for it!
 
J.Wallace said:
Make a move!

Why do women always expect men to make the first move? It's a universal thing, it can go both ways! I for one, am very shy and will never make a move. Maybe this guy is just like that, too shy to make a move first? If he is cuddling with you, he obviously likes you.
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I think it's because women don't want to make a move and get rejected; the fear of rejection for a man is great, for a woman it is always greater. I think if dudes find out a chick doesn't like them, they can laugh it off, and start sexually harassing (I'm exaggerating ;)) the next chick they fancy, whereas, if a girl gets rejected, she is like WHY DID HE REJECT ME WHYYYY and she obsesses over it, mostly because she fears it must be something wrong with her, or something she could have done to made him interested.

1) dudes have bad days too

2) just because dude A didn't find you attractive, or wasn't having a good day, doesn't mean dude B is on his A+ game and is ready to poke you, there are 6 billion people in the world, don't obsess on just one.

3) women take it harder I think because they feel the "emotional love" connection before the "raw sexual attraction" in general, whereas men start with raw sexual attraction and work to the other end in general.
 
Captain.Heroin said:
I think it's because women don't want to make a move and get rejected; the fear of rejection for a man is great, for a woman it is always greater. I think if dudes find out a chick doesn't like them, they can laugh it off, and start sexually harassing (I'm exaggerating ;)) the next chick they fancy, whereas, if a girl gets rejected, she is like WHY DID HE REJECT ME WHYYYY and she obsesses over it, mostly because she fears it must be something wrong with her, or something she could have done to made him interested.

1) dudes have bad days too

2) just because dude A didn't find you attractive, or wasn't having a good day, doesn't mean dude B is on his A+ game and is ready to poke you, there are 6 billion people in the world, don't obsess on just one.

3) women take it harder I think because they feel the "emotional love" connection before the "raw sexual attraction" in general, whereas men start with raw sexual attraction and work to the other end in general.
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Interesting take on it, but I'm not sure I entirely agree. I see things as going both ways, what may happen to one can happen to the other. I for one am a man, and I take rejection very poorly, which is probably why I'm always too nervous to make a move first. I figure it's better to stay nowhere, then try to get somewhere and end back at nowhere, ya know?

Social stereotypes such as women being more sensitive to rejection is purely subjective and based on the individual. A man can be just as fearful of rejection as a women, so those social assumptions always cancel themselves out for me.

Still, I say make a move. If your waiting, and waiting...obviously he is too shy. If he is cuddling with you, he obviously has an attraction to you.
 
Make a move. I'm a guy. I personally hate to make the first move (I don't think I've ever actually done it). I don't really believe in social conventions though, I know I have a lot of submissive energy therefore I'm attracted to dominant women. Whereas society would have you believe it should be the other way around.
 
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