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Could you be friends with someone offline whose online persona shits you?

up all night said:
I guess I like people in general, and it would have to take something fairly significant for me to dislike them IRL.
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Same here. In fact I love being proved wrong about someone when I meet them. Moe for example; KB, Wazza, Plazma. All much less intimidating than I assumed ;) Pussycats even :D

It's rare I don't like someone *at all* in real life; I am pretty good at finding at least some common ground with people, even if they have differing opinions or are totally polar opposite to me.

There have been several times I've liked someone's internet personality so much that I've pursued a real-life friendship only to find a total lack of "connection" in real life - not a dislike, just an absence of the personality I assumed they had, or a total awkwardness in contrast to the seamless communication we shared online. That's disappointing, but is probably more due to my unrealistic expectations than any fault of theirs.

Luckily the former scenario (being pleasantly surprised) happens more often.

ps. on reflection, it's generally one or the other. I can't think of anyone I know who is exactly their online personality offline. Why would they be? It's a projection after all, and words can't properly portray every human nuance.
 
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Having become friends with, or at least, been satisfied by offline time spent together with a fair few people, I can say yes. However this comes from experience within geek/gamer communities (ie. LAN parties, venue and private).

A large number of these people's online persona would suggest they're profoundly retarded, bigoted and disasterously inept. Those I became friends with, IRL this was not true at all, mostly. It would probably seem so to non-gamer circle people - but it's just a rabid self-knowing sense of humour that tends to perpetuate in these crowds.

That's not to say there are not a lot of sickeningly simple gamers. But hey, they're socially inept, like me, so it's ok.

I am no dynamic chic social butterfly (thankfully), which is why I'd probably be more inclined to interact with these people without the annoyance filter of the Internet than the majority of Bluelight. Different things shit different people.
 
Raz said:
Simple question...could you be friends with somebody in real life even though their online persona shits you to tears? And how do you reconcile it?
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Aaaand, I rambled and didn't answer your question :o . My answer is yes, and I reconcile it by trusting what I feel in real life, not the projection someone chooses to present of themselves in an inanimate medium.
 
I dont take first impressions into account because i know they dont hold much meaning.
Online persona's are one aspect of a persons personality, which il take into account but i wnt base my overall opinion on that.
Especially when the written word is so easily misconstrued.

I like to take the time to really get to know people. Most prove to be worth it, some dont but its a risk i like to take as some of the best people i know werent easy to get along with in the beginning.

But yea, i wouldnt hold someones online persona against them:) I may be a little hesitant to meet someone who always argues cos i dont like conflict but usually if you meet someone like that in real life it doesnt come out as a conflict but rather as an interesting discussion.

When i first joined bluelight i never expected to meet anyone, ever. Then i did & i went into it with an open mind.
Every one ive met though have eventually turned out to be very similar to their online persona. Mostly i have met some fantastic people.

Edit: yep this is a long as rant/apologies.
i would hold one thing against someone online. If someone posts their insensitive shit in a serious forum like TDS or in some cases slr then they are a fucktard & i most likely wont like them in person.
 
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Strawberry_lovemuffin said:
Same here. In fact I love being proved wrong about someone when I meet them. Moe for example; KB, Wazza, Plazma. All much less intimidating than I assumed ;) Pussycats even :D
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Heh, wait til you do something to offend me in person. 2-3 weekends ago I had a yelling match with some *insert censored word* of a person because she was meth'ed off her head and tried to have a debate/arguement with me about serotonin + it's role in the body. I gave up trying to get through her thick head my point until she said "Ha! See no one can compete with me when I've had speed" So I laid into her verbal abuse/paybacks/arguements that made her scream literally and run out the house. She wasn't found for a couple hours while I was still there. Dumb bitch.. So look out :P

On to be On Topic, I could easily be friends with someone offline when I dislike/loathe their online persona. There is one great example of this from a poster on here. Hate their posts with a passion (for the most) but like them heaps in real life.
 
I post on a certain other forum where I have met some of the more vicious trolls and annoying troll-wannabes and all of them have been real softies face to face. I don't really mind these people online or off after I meet them but I don't consider any of them more than acquaintances. However, some of them tend to take things too far online such as going out of their way to antagonise my actual friends. That's where trolling becomes harrassment and does not sit well with me in any situation.
 
Sure. I am presently, like most people on here who've made an effort to meet people here offline.
I've even built up a few little groups very similar to yours, MP.
 
Oh yeah, my answer to the actual question is yes, I would.

In fact I abhor some of my real life friend's posts on BL =D
 
I think that like what MP said there is three different groups. ive found that most people i meet offline are somewhat similar to the person they portray but most of the time the person is so 2 dimensional for me that until i meet them i cant really imagine what they are like.

I guess there are a few people ive met that are extremely similar to their online personality, i think raz is probably the best example, as when i read his posts, i can hear his voice in them and he sounds exactly like he does in real life. others however i find project a totally different image of themselves, and maybe post like a person they want to be like, but actually in real life they are the total opposite.

but i could (and am) friends with people who shit me online, but i guess i believe the internet is a way of saying stuff you would never dream of saying in real life, and its not a measure of how someone really is.
 
unlike a lot of people online, i actually give more of a shit about what the person is like in person..

i really couldn't care what the person says online, or who their "persona" is when on bulletin boards...


my life (and my friends) occur in a physical environment called the world... i care about what goes on there, and not what happens on a computer screen..
 
Mary Poppins said:
In fact I abhor some of my real life friend's posts on BL =D
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Word.

I don't really like to pass judgement on anyone until I've met them a few times in real life. There's been the odd person who's posts I've found so offensive I have no interest in meeting, but in general while a person's online persona can be a useful indicator about what they might be like, it's hardly the be all and end all.
 
No. I don't like fake people. I certainly don't like people that need this sort of soap box for an ego trip either.
 
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