XSI11V, I didnt mean to sound selfish, nor do I think that I am being selfish.
My whole point was, that at the moment I would prefer to enjoy myself and live my life to the fullest. I am only 20, so I have a long time to go before I even consider having children (although I am engaged).
My partner and I have talked the whole thing over, and we are both quite happy the way we are. I think that if i knew drugs could harm future children and still continued to take drugs while planning for a child, I would be acting selfishly.
Who knows what will happen in the future though. I know a couple that were married for nearly 15 years, who never planned on having children. She accidentally got pregnant, and they now say it is the best thing that has happened to them.
All I was trying to say is, although it may be slightly selfish, at this point in my life, I am thinking of myself, my partner, my friends and my lifestyle over what I may plan to do in the distant future. If it turns out to mean that I cant have kids, then so be it.
Voodoo