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pls help if youve been in a situation like this or just feel free to put in your input!


so i started dating someone i normally wouldnt go for (a nice guy) i know shocker. but i also started hooking up with one of my guy friends that really likes me and its nice and all but hes going back to school in a different state in 2 weeks which sucks. and im super confused now about which one i want to be with eventually because obviously one of them is going to get hurt, which sucks once again, cos theyre both pretty amazing people. and im scared to be exclusive with someone but at the same time i want a boyfriend. i dont know whats wrong with me.

i think im leaning towards the nice guy tho cos it just seems like theres more of a sexual chemistry but i dont know him half as well as i know my friend. and with my friend i can talk to him for hours on end but theres not that chemistry if that makes sense. one thing that bothers me about my friend is that he is the same zodiac sign as my ex, but maybe i shouldnt let that be the sole reason i dont give him a chance.so eventually if i get with the nice guy exclusively ill be fucked when i go to edc with my group because my friend will be there and i feel like 1. if the nice guy knows he might feel threatened (mb he doesnt need to know whats going on) or 2. since we’ll all be rolling, my friend and i will end up dancing and possibly hooking up, so then ill have cheated on the nice guy.
i know im totally overthinking things, im just so confused, i dont know which guy i want and even worse than that, i dont want to lose either one of them.


what do i do?
 
nice guy

your overthinking things

who do you think is better for you?
 
Zodiac signs are bullshit, so let's throw that out :)

You don't mention either guy mistreating you, and both are interested in you, so you're good on both fronts.

Now, your decision boils down to answering one question: Why do you want a boyfriend? Really think about what you need from a partner. There are two choices it's obvious you're considering from your post, companionship or sex. There are more reasons for wanting a boyfriend (fear of being alone, money, etc.), but you don't mention them, so I assume they're not what you want.

Okay, what do you miss about being in a relationship, companionship or sex? Don't try to find the right answer, what you should do. Truly find the right answer, who you are.
 
basically making a decision based upon horoscopes is very illogical

you need chemistry for a relationship to work. simple. otherwise its a friendship with weird sex
 
pofacedhoe said:
basically making a decision based upon horoscopes is very illogical

you need chemistry for a relationship to work. simple. otherwise its a friendship with weird sex
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totally agree with this. my ex and i had this kind of relationship and it was totes weird. im just worried that me and the nice guy wont connect on a mental/emotional level tho. but then again i dont know him that well.
 
Tude said:
Zodiac signs are bullshit, so let's throw that out :)

You don't mention either guy mistreating you, and both are interested in you, so you're good on both fronts.

Now, your decision boils down to answering one question: Why do you want a boyfriend? Really think about what you need from a partner. There are two choices it's obvious you're considering from your post, companionship or sex. There are more reasons for wanting a boyfriend (fear of being alone, money, etc.), but you don't mention them, so I assume they're not what you want.

Okay, what do you miss about being in a relationship, companionship or sex? Don't try to find the right answer, what you should do. Truly find the right answer, who you are.
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ya ive been single for a good 10 months after having a really toxic relationship which is why im not even sure if i want to be in a relationship,but then again i feel like ive grown enough as a person and im finally ready to move on. but both of those things are really important to me. maybe companianship a little more than sex, but i dont want to have a boring sex life / not have the spark cos that sucks
 
amazing sex on tap is the reason why i want a relationship/have one

companionship is lovely but i have a large network of friends for advice and talks and lols' etc. a relationship should provide some of those but it should also give me what all my friendships cannot. i.e. sex in bed for breakfast/hugs and cuddles/ intimacy and opening up about things/ the potential for a future life together/ meeting our lifegoals together

but all that is useless if there is not sexual attraction- the spark for me must be massive and the dude must be hot and have good character. i wont settle for any old shit, that much is clear
 
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