Basically my best guy friend and I decided to do this friend's with benefits thing. The only problem is.. I have feelings for him..now he has said that he likes me but isn't looking for a relationship. a couple years back we were on the verge of a serious relationship, when I turned him down..for fear of getting hurt.even after me turning him down..oddly enough that drew us closer. Again best friends for about six years... now that we have decided to do friends with benefits I am worried about getting attached.. (which technically I probably have in some way). even though we both admitted to liking each other.. why does he even bother trying to talk to me all the time..supporting me at my events..or even taking me out to a movie that he has already seen ( paying for it)..playing basketball.. or taking me out to ice cream( paying for it) anything like that..we we are just FWB? wouldn't it make sense to only talk to each other if we were going to have sex?
Confused( friends with benefits?)
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Welcome to Bluelight (and Bluelight Blogs), rr7!
I've tried that fwb thing and it is rather tricky. Its hard to get intimate with someone without feeling some sort of way at some point.
It looks like you are confused because he is paying just as much attention to the 'friends' part as he is with the 'benefits' part. Don't sweat that stuff since it seems positive (I can see how it can be confusing, though).
Hey, have you checked out our Sex, Love and Relationships forum here on BL? You'll find much more experienced folks in such matters and most likely, some decent input.
Again... welcome!
I've tried that fwb thing and it is rather tricky. Its hard to get intimate with someone without feeling some sort of way at some point.
It looks like you are confused because he is paying just as much attention to the 'friends' part as he is with the 'benefits' part. Don't sweat that stuff since it seems positive (I can see how it can be confusing, though).
Hey, have you checked out our Sex, Love and Relationships forum here on BL? You'll find much more experienced folks in such matters and most likely, some decent input.
Again... welcome!
I don't know if I could ever handle a FWB relationship. You are attached to him already and you know it. You should really talk to him more. Say that you don't think you can handle it without getting too attached. Say he already acts like a boyfriend to you ... how much harder could it be to actually be one (with the label)?