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Confessing to an ex-crush

RhythmSpring

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Does anything good ever come from telling an old crush that you crushed on them? High school or college crush. Now thousands of miles separate. Any experience with this?

I want to get it off my chest and let them know, but i have a feeling that it would make things awkward for the future, even if they liked me. Should I just keep my mouth shut?
 
I actually find this cute :D. Well I don't see anything wrong with telling your crush so I think you should go for it. :) Do you plan on dating her by any chance?
 
Plans are funny. I mean, I would love to, but she's on the other side of the country (US). It wouldn't be realistic for any time within the next half year. Maybe after that; I'm graduating this Winter and I'll be free to roam in the Spring... But I don't think I'm going to move across the country to try out a relationship that might not work.
 
Oh okay well either way I think you have nothing to lose if you tell her. It may or may not be awkward at all and if you don't tell her you'll never know and this will keep going on and on and on...

There is a story that was told to me many years ago about two best friends who had feelings for each other but they didn't tell each other until one of them passed away. I am not sure if this story was just made up but in the letter that the one who passed away noted this:

"I never knew how to tell her, I never knew how it would be if I told her, I think I will never know but I am writing this letter to let you know that you were always the one, you were always the one I loved."

As far as I remember, the letter was found by one of the sons/daughters and gave it to the best friend. When the best friend read the letter she broke down in tears and wished she told him how she felt.

So heart breaking isn't it? I still remember this story even if it was many years ago and it still makes me sad when I think of it and wonder how many people in the world are best friends and wouldn't confess to each other their feelings. <3
 
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I told my old crush about my past feelings. We're good friends now (and were at the time when I told her). It wasn't really awkward, probably because she said she had suspected that anyway.

I think you have nothing to worry about.
 
Okay, thanks guys. I appreciate this a lot. Now for the second problem--I don't really have her contact information. She has a facebook profile that she very rarely visits. I could possibly find out her phone number or email address from one of her friends... But will I seem creepy if I do that? I guess not if she likes me at all.

Could I do it in an email? Could I do it with a fox? Could I do it in a box? The thing is I don't if I'll ever see her in person again.
 
I think it would be ok to tell her, and ok to get her email address from a friend.

I would definitely keep it light, like " wow, hey there. I hope you are doing well. I was just thinking of you the other day and laughing about how big a crush I had on you way back when. " etc... And then leave the ball in her court and let her respond.
 
I told my old crush about my past feelings. We're good friends now (and were at the time when I told her). It wasn't really awkward, probably because she said she had suspected that anyway.

I think you have nothing to worry about.

this, we got over it and now there's no better friend in my life than this girl.
 
FB or email her. Be like, hey, just wanted to get this off my chest: I had a crush on you in HS. ;)

I think it's cute too! But no need getting phone numbers or being creepy.
 
I've done it before and nothing bad ever came out of it. I got it off my chest, we could laugh about it, no hard or awkward feelings and we're still friends. If I were you I'd maybe get in touch by email - don't say it straight off but start talking to her on there again and then you can always mention it. Could also say you've got something potentially awkward to say and ask if she doesn't mind, it could be an easy segway without making her feel uncomfortable. In any case, just don't make it awkward and it won't be!
 
I've had friends, both male and female that I've lost touch with over the years for various reasons. One friend I got in touch with via email and she answered me within a couple hours saying she was so happy to hear from me. So yes, she did acknowledge me and promised she would call me later. That was probably 5 months ago but she never did call me and I was a little sad. I figure my drug/alcohol abuse was no secret and perhaps she didn't feel comfortable but that's okay. I can't say I didn't try right?

On the plus side, I had an old dear friend from Michigan call me back just a couple nights ago after I friend requested on facebook a couple times. I could see that she posts several times a day so there was a good chance she would get my visitor's message. She was laughing her ass off trying to figure out "who was this green-haired little elf girl with the unrecognizable name?" I hadn't spoken to her since 2004, she moved to Tennessee and got married. I'm still figuring out how facebook works. If you send someone a message who you're not friends with, it goes to a different box I guess?

So I found her by simply first and middle name (not a common name at all) She told me when she added me to her friend list, my messages and photos came in all at once. We are two old chicks and I was a little persistent so Yay, that was very cool! Sorry for rambling, I'm still giddy! :) In your situation, it's probably better to try and email her but how would you get her email address? I think sending a friend request would be my first step. But if she rarely goes on there, you could be waiting a while. I would only contact her friends as a last resort and only if you know them. Hope you eventually get in touch with her. <3
 
Oh my god... I am such an idiot. When I made this thread, she had a facebook profile. I've been balking at sending her a message.
Today, she has no facebook profile. It's gone. Time to talk to her friend (whom I know).
 
So I've been out of high school 9 years and when I was 16 a beautiful girl sat in front of me a year older 17, I had a huge crush on her all year but never spoke and don't think she knew my name

A year ago I saw her at a bar and told her I had a crush, we made out an added her of face book. No contact for a year then 4 months ago I messaged her saying remember that nigh at the bar, well I had a huge crush on you in hs, lets get a drink maybe?

Now it's 4 months later and I'm in love with her and its the best thin I've ever had.

So the point is put yourself out there, rejection is better than knowing what could have been even if there is a little chance. Messaging her was the best thing I ever did
 
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