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Concerned About Stellablue / Her Daughter's Baby

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We spoke briefly today and yesterday about something that threatens to really fuck things up with no chance of a return to normalcy!
Her daughter is giving birth soon, as you mostly probably know.
However, she was recently diagnosed with pre-eclampsia and now Stella and her protégé are at the hospital, likely worried out of their minds.

StellaBlue Via Phone said:
"Tell everybody on Bluelight that I just want them to have an update: you can find the thread* about STELLA'S DAUGHTER'S NAME and tell them they're going to induce her at 29 weeks; there're a lot of people who are going to wonder where I've been and what I've been up to. After I go through this I really don't want to have to explain it all again to everyone, so make sure they know that she's got what they call pre-eclampsia."
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*I couldn't find the thread about her daughter, so I'm posting here, sorry

This is pretty-much verbatim what she told me on the phone today.
So much for happy times, eh?
I'm worried that if anything goes wrong with either her daughter or her daughter's child, Stella will do as she typically does and end up getting all filled with sadness, guilt and self-hatred.
She's had a little bad luck in the past, which is like saying that the surface of the sun is a little bit warm.

What can I do to help her?
What can anyone do to help her and her daughter?

I'm on the end of a phone-line, thousands of miles away and she's there, with her family, but her family aren't exactly going to be cradling her when their niece or grand-daughter is in dire trouble and needs a cuddle and a reassuring hand on her shoulder to tell her that it's all going to be alright!
It's impossible for me to visit her at the moment and I can't leave the country due to a number of irrelevant reasons.
Literally, I have nothing other than my voice and the hope that she'll be able to answer her telephone, and if I hear uncontrollable sobbing, I'm not sure what I could say that could make it better; it's her daughter, let alone someone from these very forums whom she's trying to help!

But, ultimately, she asked me to tell all of you guys because it matters to her: I'm unsure of how many of you guys know her incredibly well, but I'm jealous of you: I barely know a thing about the woman and I really just can't stand to see her suffer.
So, this is a little unorthodox of me, but it's for her sake: help me, please?
 
I wish i could help, stella has a heart of gold but i haven't spoken to her in a long time. I'm very sorry to hear of this. If you speak to her please pass on my love, xx

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That really sucks. Maybe you could pass along to her that the pre-eclampsia foundation has a GREAT discussion forum, which has a ton of support, tips, etc.

I was diagnosed with pre-e at 28 weeks and with bed rest and much monitoring was able to carry to 37 weeks and have a full term baby. I hope she checks that forum out!
 
My daughter is in surgery now. I will let you know how she and baby are doing as I know. God I am so nervous and scared.
 
Blessings to you, Stella, daughter, and grandchild. I'm glad that little Stella and babe are under care for the pre-eclampsia. Your daughter isn't due for awhile, right? Bedrest sucks but books make it better. Much love.
 
<3 stella, I thought about you not too long ago and wondered how things were progressing. I was hoping for an update sometime soon--but of a better tone. <3 sending good vibes to your daughter and the baby <3.
 
I talked to her before about her and her daughters situation. Hope everything turns out okay!! I know it will though, you're both strong. Thinking about you both <3
 
My grand daughter was born yesterday at 5:22 pm. She was 3 pounds and 15 inches. She is already breathing on her own. I will post some pictures as soon as I get home. My daughter is doing great. She has been taken off the magnesium. So she is able to go visit her daughter in NICI. Thanks for all your support.
 
Congratulations, Stella! I'm glad that everyone is doing well. Now you can worry about spoiling your new granddaughter! <3 :) <3
 
Yay! Excellent news Stella. Must have come as a huge relief from the worry leading up to it. Congrats on the arrival of your granddaughter, hope you get the two of them home safe soon as possible and enjoy all the fun baby stuff! :) <3
 
Thank you to everyone. I am so excited and yes very relieved.

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^AWWWWWWW> Hello little person. You had a rough start but here you are. You are safe now and SO LOVED already! Welcome to the world! It is a beautiful place.<3 Hugs to mom and grandma and the aunts.<3
 
^ I know herby, I am just so in love with this little person and I am just so happy to have seen this little miracle happen. She is truly a beautiful little soul, and I intend on spoiling her as much as possible. ((:) <3))
 
It is freaky to see all of the cords, but it is necessary to keep a small newborn safe and warm. <3 Your daughter made a very brave decision and I congratulate you both in welcoming a tiny human being into the world. Please spoil her with the benefits of grandmotherly love and education rather than physical possessions. The 5 lb mark where a newborn's lungs are effectively developed can come very quickly, so I hope you are ready for a safe release from the NICU once the lungs and digestive tract pretty quickly. Seems like this little one was eager to get into the world. Welcome, sweetheart, to what I hope and expect will be a beautiful life. If the sky is as blue there as it has been here, what a beautiful day to be born.

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