Mental Health Combating Emotional, Impotence - post the inspiration to make life make sense for you

[Asclepius]

I would just like to add to his speech - not only 'abuse' effects the adult/child but also, anything which may have inhibited attachment with the child and mother/care-giver (eg. post-partum depression; stress; basically, anything that can effect the baby's security bond with the mother - even through no fault, consciously, of hers). There are so many reasons explored and unexplored but the main aim is not to blame others /ourselves (unless it makes sense to heal ourselves; by coming to terms with the circumstances - which imo is very, important INITIALLY, AS A STEP toward progression with a view to moving beyond and into being free - revisiting is healthy but obsession is not) but to empower because after acceptance, it's the only way.

 

[Cosmic Trigger]

An incredibly spot on video imo. As a child of physically and emotionally abusive parents I believe without a doubt and fortunately have for many years that my addictions are the result of my childhood rather than any intrinsic fault of my own. I hope all you addicts hear and grok this in fullness. You are not to blame.

Thank you so much for sharing this. It means a lot to me. I can never hear too much verification of what I have come to believe. Frankly I'm an addict and I have come slowly to admire and love myself. I'm a really great human IMO. I am forgiving, empathetic, intelligent, creative and a junky for all sorts of things. Food, sex, drugs, materialism, etc etc. It's how I survived.

 

[herbavore]

Cosmic Trigger. It can never be underestimated how much early destruction of basic human trust wreaks havoc in a developing mind.

Thanks for posting this, A. I actually have talked to Gabor in person about this as I used to carry so much guilt about my son's addiction. I felt that even though I loved him and nurtured him to the best of my abilities that I must have caused some terrible trauma that I could not see. Gabor reminded me that simply being ultra sensitive (which he very much was) can traumatize an infant or child. Gabor Mate is a very interesting man.

 

[Erikmen]

Fantastic video!

It's a great relief to me when I understand addiction as a result of our infanthood traumas and that some of our brains do not get enough endorphin. It changes a lot how I have always perceived myself.

Sadly, most of people who target drug users as bad people don't change their minds as I thought they would after hearing the truth and facts behind why we do this.

Thanks a lot for sharing.

 

[Asclepius]

^Pleasure! Very true, Stereotypes, especially when internalised are very destructive.

An incredibly spot on video imo. As a child of physically and emotionally abusive parents I believe without a doubt and fortunately have for many years that my addictions are the result of my childhood rather than any intrinsic fault of my own. I hope all you addicts hear and grok this in fullness. You are not to blame.

Thank you so much for sharing this. It means a lot to me. I can never hear too much verification of what I have come to believe. Frankly I'm an addict and I have come slowly to admire and love myself. I'm a really great human IMO. I am forgiving, empathetic, intelligent, creative and a junky for all sorts of things. Food, sex, drugs, materialism, etc etc. It's how I survived.

Glad it was of value to you CT. He is a fantastic person and wish there were more physicians out there with his understanding and insight. We are always, firstly human - behaviour alone, does not always define us but represents a covert, type of communication that needs to be explored. In order to take responsibility we must endeavour to get to know who we are and embrace our own and each others' 'flaws' (which everyone has) and refuse to be trapped by labels; in order to understand and empower, ourselves. Shame and stigma makes everything worse and is the antithesis of any healing, or pursuit of a quality of life.

 

[Asclepius]

Cosmic Trigger. It can never be underestimated how much early destruction of basic human trust wreaks havoc in a developing mind.

Thanks for posting this, A. I actually have talked to Gabor in person about this as I used to carry so much guilt about my son's addiction. I felt that even though I loved him and nurtured him to the best of my abilities that I must have caused some terrible trauma that I could not see. Gabor reminded me that simply being ultra sensitive (which he very much was) can traumatize an infant or child. Gabor Mate is a very interesting man.

Glad you got to talk to him about your guilt - you are an amazingly, strong person - I can not imagine what it is like to have to process so much pain, especially pain that you were not responsible for. Sensitivity is something that is very shunned and misunderstood in our society and it makes me furious to think of how ignorance; perpetuated by superficial standards, in society contributes to it being misrepresented as 'weak', thus causing damage and oppression. Social Darwinism (as distinct from actual Darwinism - which is scientific) is proven to be a fallacy and yet, propaganda that elicits it, is ubiquitous in many of the destructive social and economic systems which dominate our 'popular' culture. I know without question, these systems are subconsciously, destroying those who oppose it.

Someone, recommended this to me, Herb http://sensitivethemovie.com/. I have not seen it yet (only the trailer but listened to the podcasts and had been reading about HSP's etc for some time). It details how the nervous system of sensitive people is 'wired' - a natural and healthy system, which evolved for survival. Yet, sensitivity is labelled as a characteristic which renders a person into being a blundering jelly-like masses of weak and frail, mess that holds back progress - non-alpha and therefore, useless - it is popularly, perceived in the same way as illness is - a very, potent scare-tactic used to make people feel inferior and of course, used to oppress them/us!

 

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