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Cleaning out the trash...

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psyckokilla

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Im getting sober and and progressing in my life im in therapy every week im really working on finding myself again..the only thing holding me back is breaking away from the friends that have been in that scene for yeeeears and all they create is negativity or more abuse...Its killing me...it causes me to relapse and become destructive and go into manic states i cant get rid of them and i can't go beyond this point until im detached..Any experiences with something like this??
 
Why can't get you get rid of your scene connections? Any special reasons? If they only drag you down, maybe you can forge new relationships with people via the therapy you mentioned, a support group helps tons, just a thought.

The fact remains, those people that have succeded at living sober have burnt all the bridges to their former circles, at least I know no one who can live in both worlds.

Perhaps you could elaborate on your situation a little?
 
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sure that all is triggering for you, perfectly understandable - but causing and killing and cant are the stuff of stones, stones that you are carrying around and identifying as having more control over your life then you yourself do.

ask yourself simply, what is more important:
being rid of the circumstantial factors which have had great detriment on your life, to further excel yourself?
or hurting those fools feelings by not answering their calls?
(im sure they will get over it)
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why not try AA or NA, you dont have to follow the routine of finding a sponsor and going through the steps. i would find it admirable enough and not judge if someone went just because they can, and also see it as a positive environment.
i would go just to get out of the house, listen, and bullshit with people personally. ive meet some very cool people in AA NA whos life wasnt dictated by the step-work - i have no idea how one could not expect to.

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Edit:

a lighter side note!
love the thread title you chose - i want to lift it, and make a 'mega-thread' titled "taking out the trash";-)
 
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You definitely need to surround yourself with people who don't use. Keep an open mind about NA/AA.
At the end of the day, it's just a group of people trying to help each other stay in recovery.
 
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