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childhood crush has come into picture after i've already met a guy

walkercoonhounds

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i have been seeing guy#1 for a while seriously& things were going great and i was very attached to him. i then came in contact with guy#2 who i grew up with for a while and we have been talking as friends (constantly) it seems like ever since ive been talking to guy#2 i feel distant and not excited to see guy1. ive noticed little things guy1 does that irritate me. i recently went to a concert with guy2 and we had a wonderful time and the next day he brought me breakfast into the spareroom that i stayed in and we had a great time seeing eachother. i do not know if i am noticing these lil things bout guy1 because im thinking bout guy2. my problem is idk if i should quit guy1 for guy2 who i have not had time to connect with &dunno if he feels the same and lose guy1 who i do really care for and am just annoyed with him at this moment(maybe bc im thinkin of guy2?) or let guy2 go bc he is possibly altering my judgement of guy1. but i fear that i might miss a good oppurtunity with guy2 if i do that
 
I feel that the 2nd guy has got you wondering if your choice in the first may be wrong. It happens subconsciously I believe and I've been there too, where the other one annoys you for no good reason. If you find yourself going in a serious direction with the guy, break it off with your boyfriend. It wouldn't be fair to him otherwise.
 
if the grass is seeming greener then maybe your not happy with what you have

how happy were you with guy 1 3 weeks ago? because relationships go through phases, marriages included but also honeymoons end...
 
nooneanymore: You give legitimately the worst advice of anyone in SLR. You should consider being a government policy advisor or something, as you are highly qualified for that job.
 
From the little I care to read in this thread, I can only gather this question:
Are you a child, OP?
 
If I was guy1 I'd be happy to get rid of u for the simple fact your with me yet waking up in guy2s spare bedroom. To me you sound to immature to be w any guy seriously.
 
You are being unfair to your current partner. You come across as fickle. Judging by your post, it would appear that you may not be ready for a serious relationship. Or, perhaps your current partner just isn't right for you. Either way, let your current partner go. Put yourself in his shoes...think hard....can you see how selfish you are being at the moment?

Let him go. See how things progress with guy 2. If they don't work, they don't. It appears that you have the intention of staying with guy 1 whilst investigating the possibility of a relationship with guy 2 at the same time...and that's just a horrible way to treat someone. So don't.
 
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