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Channeling anger

Muzda Jonxx

Muzda Jonxx

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Hi all,

What do you guys do to channel anger when you get proper angry? I've got this problem where whenever I get really frustrated, I punch inanimate things proper hard. I've just bust up my left hand because I found out my lodger owes a month and a halfs rent, has lost his job just as im brassic and coming off of pods.

Needless to say, a broken hand hasn't helped a great deal, although was a great stress reliever at the time. So, what do you guys do to channel and release anger without breaking bones?
 
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I either channel my anger into making changes that will improve the quality of my life or I walk away and let it go if it's something out of my control. Life is full of frustrations and annoyances that will absolutely destroy you if you allow them to fester and consume you. That being said, out of my many issues anger isn't really one of them, at least not anymore as I have changed my situation, so I don't have any specifics to give you. I would query CBT Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and anger management techniques, though I am certain other BL users will respond with more insightful tips. Sorry about your situation and your busted hand - that really sucks and will take time to heal so you have a constant reminder :/ At least you acknowledge the problem so that is a big step in the right direction. Good luck!
 
Good reply, thanks.. I wouldn't consider myself someone with much of an anger problem, aside from these odd moments that occur one or twice a year when it becomes frustration overload. I'm not violent and never would want to be, so always end up whacking some inanimate thing. Stupid really..
 
I do understand. Back when I would drink I would get in blackout mode and would punch the wall when upset - I broke a few fingers a different times and dislocated my thumb pretty badly. The pain would then serve as a constant reminder of how I was self destructing, which was the source of my anger lol. Now when I get upset I either paint or excersize which is much more productive.
 
That's interesting. I'm a creative at heart, I love to paint, animate, create music. Back in the day I was a dj and whenever I was pissed off id channel that into dark, loud music. Never used to pop with frustration back then. Id completely forgotten about that. Trouble is I'm now of an age where thunderous dark music isn't really very befitting.. I do like the exercise idea though, and other forms of creativity like painting I've never tried pissed off. Might turn up some interesting results!
 
I think my original term 'anger' was wrong, actually. It's more epic frustration that needs some kind of outlet. How does one do so whilst remaining at peace, though? It could be bottled, but that's even worse..
 
I go into my garage and start throwing and punching boxes then start smashing things with a bat. If you are able to lift weights and while you are lifting think about what is pissing you off.
 
My mom actually taught us this when we were little. We had a giant punching bag/pillow that she said was an "anger sponge" =D Anger isn't something that I often feel (just morphs right into sadness for me) but boy did my brother get some use out of that pillow!
 
Have you tried sports, like sex or something adrenaline fueled?

I too have gone to the hospital because I punched the wrong thing.

For me various board sports work wonders. I like that I can just grab my skateboard any time. Snowboarding is really fun for me.

In the past I had built a skate box with coping so it was like having my own private ledge to skate. Also I made it stackable so I could do more with it.

But it is the hobby thing. Building something, doing something. I also genuinely enjoy some types of work and it does not feel like work so maybe get a job you actually enjoy.
 
Sex would be great, but unfortunately it's just Pam and her five friends for me right now.. ;)

I've got hobbies and outlets, I'm not stressed all the time. It's just when really annoying shit happens (like finding you're broke through no fault of your own because your lodger is an unreliable twat), I get a massive surge of frustration that requires a physical outlet. If I could find some other outlet then that's fantastic, hence this thread.

It's also worth mentioning I'm in withdrawal right now, so bound to be a little all over the place.
 
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