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phenmetrazine

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This is an issue that I really would like to discuss and get some feedback on. I don't know exactly where to begin on this but as of recently, like the past year, I have been increasingly feeling like sex and masturbation are futile. Now of course they generally are futile besides procreation from sex, but whenever I do have sex or masturbate, I just feel like I'm losing power and filling my head with sexual thoughts that cloud my judgement. It is at the point that I will delay orgasm again and again while masturbating and finally stop when it gets to the tipping point of pleasure and displeasure. I just broke up with a pretty serious girlfriend about two months ago partly because of this issue and am currently attempting to become celibate. I have been doing pretty well with it for the past week or so but I met a girl recently at a party and it as if I cannot control my thoughts once again. I don't know how to handle her and really don't know what to do. I realize I could have sex with her without orgasm but don't even know if I should do that or could even stick to it. It's like I'm fighting being a human and the animal in me is winning. I know nobody can really help me out with this situation but I would like to hear people's experiences, opinions, ect on this issue.
 
If you met someone and you're struggling with your desires, then perhaps you don't really want to be celibate after all. If you do really want to become celibate, I strongly suggest you break it to this new person immediately and get back to whatever program of discipline you think is more valuable.
 
I don't think you really want to become celibate, hence why you've allowed yourself to become involved with another girl, but your attempt at it is a suggestion that you want better control over your urges. I wouldn't recommend long term celibacy as a male unless you're attempting some kind of spiritual goal.. we're here to reproduce, and as long as you block that part of yourself you will experience great inner tension and discomfort as the body rebels against your thinking.

I would start by cutting out masturbation first and see where your head is at after awhile. Masturbation produces more mental turmoil than sex does.
 
Why do you think sex is 'futile' and why do you think procreation is not futile?

What 'power' do you think you are losing through sex?

What is the point of endless masturbation without coming??

And why if you have these odd ideas about sex did you name yourself after a stimulant with a reputation as a powerful aphrodisiac????
 
^I suppose by what you are saying that everything is futile. I was simply saying that most sex or masturbation people have serves no real purpose besides hedonism.
The "power" I was referring to was just my general sense of well being and alertness that seems to go down whenever I engage in sexual activity of any sort.
Orgasm is what provokes these feelings of fatigue and dysphoria the most, hence the desire to inhibit orgasm. I certainly would consider myself much different than what would generally be considered normal, but I know many others report similar aftereffects from sex. Phenmetrazine was chosen as my name because it is chiefly regarded as one of the most euphoric stimulants, perhaps I unconsciously chose it as well because I'm a hyper sexual creature?(lil sarcasm)

I certainly can agree to some extent with the other two posters, and I certainly struggle with ambivalence as a deep seated part of my personality. I am just going through a really trying time in my life and am trying to adapt to and handle the pressures. I kinda feel like I am seeking something like a spiritual goal without any clearcut path. I definitely will take the advice of SS and cut out masturbating though because that certainly seems to clear my head. I am unsure what to do about the girl, but I think it will work out one way or the other. Thanks for the advice bluelighters and please stay safe.
 
Phenmetrazine, I am also celibate, for very similar reasons as you. I'm hella sleepy right now and will leave it at that (you're not alone!), but hopefully I'll come back to this thread and elaborate, or maybe once you hit 50 posts we can PM each other.
 
I just came back to this thread and found the last two posters had similar feelings as myself. I knew that there was no way that I was alone in these feelings. I ended up getting back into a relationship with my ex girlfriend and that pretty much pushed plans of celibacy out the window for me. However, she broke up with me again and I'm back in the same boat. I'm really starting to think that I have Postorgasmic illness syndrome, which surprisingly is a real illness. The reason being because it seems that I have an allergic reaction to ejaculation; I get real itchy and uncomfortable almost every time. This is pushing me in the celibate again direction obvious. I know that this needs to be evaluated by a doctor to be certain though. One thing that I found on the internet that really seemed to make sense to me that I think people should read when struggling with sexual desire or contemplating celibacy is this article

http://http://www.beliefnet.com/Faiths/Buddhism/2003/06/Practicing-With-Sexuality.aspx

It really made a lot of sense to me and was the best thing I could find on the web dealing with this subject. I hope this helps someone.
 
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