can i help beat his addiction, or atleast understand it??

[missy737]

hi i'm new to this site and was just looking for some advice, or somesort of explanation to help me understand and support my boyriend.
he's 22 and i'm 20, we have been together now for two years.

when we first met he had just finished a detox off heroin. two months later he had an operation and was prescribed tramadol which he abused. the problem then got worse him abusing on to dfs, subutex, suboxone, and fentanyl (as far as i am aware of). after many stints in detox centers, and failed detoxes he seemed to be alot better, but he now dissappears alot, never has money and has lost his job. now we are expecting a baby. hes on a valium programme, which is abused and he injects 0.5-2mg of subutex per day (again thats what he told me), my fear is that he could be back on the heroin and not being honest with me, with the extent of his addiction.

he keeps saying that he cant get off the lil bt os sub he does each day and he cant cope with the withdrawals. he has gone cold turkey now for two days, but he picks up a prescription for valium tomorrow, which i know he will swap for subutex. anyway i can help or understand this?? i want him clean for the sake of our little boy before its too late

 

[Captain.Heroin]

You can't make your boyfriend get clean; he obviously wants to keep doing heroin and isn't over that whole trip yet.

And if he disappears a lot, doesn't have money and lost a job, it sounds like you're expecting a baby more than both of you are...

 

[sneakdiss]

He's definately lying to you about his usage. In my opinion (being a former addict) he's still injecting heroin or possibly oxycodone. To be quite honest suboxone doesn't make someone act as desperate of your boyfriend seems to be acting for a fix. The withdrawals aren't that bad either at the dosage he claims to be injecting. A little Immodium AD and the valium he gets would be enough to get through that.

 

[smackem]

He is addicted.

 

[ILOVETORELAX]

No..

 

[Unknown]

OD to TDS --->

 

[keygen]

i SERIOOUSLY doubt he is injecting subutex. prrolly selling theem for dope money. i hate to say this but u cant believe anything he tells u when it comes to his drugs. i know this because ive been in the game for almost 10 years and seen many relationships fucked by dihonesty involving heroin. i feel like im snitching here but if theres a baby involved you need the whole story and the best information available. and that is that you really cant trust a heroin addict. he probably loves you. but he also really loves drugs. theres not a lot you can do to change his behavior and you have to focus on what is best for you and your kid cuz ur dude is not going to be able to provide for you if hes got a habit. its very rare to balance a family and an addiction. as in needle in a haystack rare. just fyi. congrats on the baby tho and best of luck ill pray for you all seriously. EDIT: just to reiterate its NOT YOUR FAULT and YOU CANT FIX IT. focus on YOU and the baby.

 

[izzy66]

^^ +10

as most ppl have said, you can't fix your boyfriend. right now you have to take care of yourself and your baby. your baby has to be your number one priority. your bf has to fix himself.

i was born addicted to amphetamines and barbiturates and grew up w/ fk'd up addicted parents. it's not about your bf or you anymore; it's all about your baby right now. i'm not trying to be mean or unsympathetic but you've got to put your little baby boy first.