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Can cuddles be taught?

Good to hear PK... But really, how could a guy not learn to like cuddles when he has someone who is obviously affectionate and most surely gorgeous and cute as well? The guy has no chance!
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[This message has been edited by Tarsarlan (edited 24 August 2001).]
 
*bows gracefully*
Hmm, can't believe I spelt gorgeous wrong... I seem to be using that word a lot lately, I should be able to get it right...
*goes back to reminiscing about recent cuddles*
 
well PK, my jury is still out on cuddles as such but i've found that after being quite a shy person most of my life, i like most people can talk to anyone while on pills (and i will. at length. whether they want me to or not.)however, i'm pleasantly surprised that this trait has carried over into my normal, straight life. so therefore, perhaps the more he cuddles on pills, the more it might become a part of his personality. ummmmmm.......did anything i just said make sense? oh my fragmented, scattered brain!
 
I've got this same problem as well. I can't show much affection to anyone. Even when on pills.
Its starting to cause problems, because most of the girls I've been with have expected me to initiate all this kind of stuff. Then they end up thinking I don't like them or something.
 
ABsolut: I used to have that problem too... 'cept not really while on pills, but when not on pills I was quite reserved about physically manifesting my feelings... Not anymore tho, but I still do what I did back then... If I like someone, I tell them, I make sure that if they can't tell through body language, then my words spell out exactly how I feel...
Hasn't actually worked for me yet, but well, one of these days... (sometime this week hopefully....)
 
I don't have any sort of cuddling problems!
As a primate my show of affection is displayed by flinging poo at someone I like.......this whole "touchy feely" thing is so old fashioned!
*fling*
nuff said...
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Yeah I have to say that when he wasn't cuddling me or even really hugging me other than the hello and goodbye hugs it made me feel majorly unloved. Not to say that he's all huggy now, actually far from it but he has got a little better.
I think that maybe I expect too much, all of my friends are pretty cuddly and I've always been cuddled whenever I wanted and I'm pretty spoilt as most of my friends are older males and I'm like their baby sister so I get pretty much whatever I want.
So in some ways I guess it's good that he's not cuddly, it makes me realise that not everyone is as open and affectionate as me, and that thus far I have been lucky that my friends have also been affectionate.
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Tars - you're lucky you have the confidence to tell them, so many people dont. I'm extemely open with my feelings, I tell and show. Sometimes it's not enough to just hear it. I'm told i'm loved but it's not the same as being cuddled. (For me anyway). IMHO words are too easy, I can say anything but it is very hard to lie with your body, something in your body language will always betray you, if not at that moment it will happen later. So him saying he cares and all those lovely things doesn't say as much to me as wanting to have me near him, wanting to touch me and wanting to cuddle me.
 
okies, cuddles CAN be taught !! Well, i beleive they can.
Though people have different comfort zones, and depending on how they are brought up and what environment they live in...
Obviously, they'll react to things differently to other people do !!
Basically if they're not a cuddler, its only cause they dont really want to be, once you bring down the defense barrier and get out of self preservation mode
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you can go nuts.
I'm fucked up... i always start a post full passionate about the thread and then my brain just switches off half way.. but yeah cuddles can be taught !!
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I wasnt much of a cuddler at first due to the way i was brought up, but i'd cuddle up to anyone* anywhere* .
(*) - almost anyone, anywhere
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PK: If I were in a position where I was telling someone that I loved them, and they said the same back to me, I have no doubt that my body language would perfectly match the words... I havn't been there yet tho so I can't be sure, but I'm quite confident...
 
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