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Broke up with GF, should I dose?

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davey jones

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Me and my GF have broken up after living together for 3+ years. It has been 2 months since the split and I still think about and miss her daily. I know that we are both better off now and she did have a lot of issues/ things about her I did not like but I did love her very much. We thought we were going to get married one day on a beach somewhere warm but that is not going to happen anymore. I have been drinking way to much since the split and that has not been helping either. I have however, been getting better but am still not 100% over the break up. My question is. . . would dosing at this moment be a good idea? I have have had some wow that I have been holding onto for a while now, not daring to take it since my mind is fucked , but in the same since I feel as though it might be a good thing to see the truth and that we were not really meant to be. Any advice would be appreciated. I am gonna be on Phish tour soon so I really want to be over all of this in time for summer. Maybe find a new headdy mama in the lots to make me feel better as well. Ha ha who knows. But back to my question, breakup + doses = good or bad. The ex has been dosing and she said its been fine and actually helped her get over the split. (Or so she says) Either way, its fucked up and sucks. Sorry about the rambling but I figured this might be a way to make me feel better to ask you guys what you think.
 
breakup + doses = bad if you're trying to understand what happened

relationships are one of those (few?) things that you understand a lot better when you're not on drugs.

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but as always, your mileage may vary
 
Dunno if I missed it but you haven't stated what your actually taking. You know your own limits and thoughts more than anyone else..

As this is psychedelic drugs, I'd say tripping when your torn up is a bad idea.. (I wouldn't) but if your used to tripping and you think you can handle it then fire on. My suggestion is too go find some MDMA/mephedrone or some other drug that pretty much forces you to be happy.
 
I did this once, with mushrooms.

The beginning of the trip was horrible, amplifying the bad feeling I had been having by a million. Everything about the start to the trip was unpleasant: the thoughts were negative, the colors and CEVs that I had were all evil, in evil colors, and I basically buried my head in my arms for the next 20-30 minutes thinking to myself, "Why did I do this?!" Then, things slowly started to change to a more melancholy scenario, where everything took on this purple-bluish tint and my thoughts were filled with sad observations. Suddenly, I looked at my cell phone and saw that she had left me a message, which I opened, read, and then began laughing hysterically at the notion of me, dating this girl any longer.

I spent the next two hours feeling awesome and laughing at the ridiculousness of it all, and the elevation in mood lasted well into the following weeks. I was totally over the situation at the end of the trip, but I am not sure what would have happened had she not sent me that fateful message.
 
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OP id say no, its probably not a good idea.

then again, you'd know better than us, as we dont know what the full situation is.
personally, i wouldnt.


^Bolweevil, what did the message say?
if its too personal, fair enough, nevermind.

im jsut curious now.
 
As others have said, you can decide better than we can.. just know yourself, how you react to acid, think about the situation, etc.


If you do choose to dose it would probably be best to do it with a close friend who can be there to support you should you need it. Moving on can be hard and psychedelics can definitely amplify those negative feelings, but at the same time they could also really remind you of all the joy that can be found in life outside of this situation
 
If you tend to think about it a lot and it's bringing you down don't dose, it takes time and it will work out better in the long run if you let it pass rather than force it away.
 
I think it depends on what you want, if you are open to the possibility of having a difficult (but rewarding) experience in a more therapeutical than recreational way, then i'd say go ahead ;)

if your just looking for fun you might get more than expected... (on the other hand don't expect the psychs to solve the emotional problems you have from that past relationship, only be prepared to be confronted with those problems then i see no problem at all with tripping)

i wish you all the best with recovering from the break-up :)

good vibes
 
tripping is not for pleasure. its not for fun.

tripping is for learning.

do you yearn for a lesson?

trip.

do you dare not exit your comfort zone?

dont trip.
 
i have had a number of very emotionally painful trips due to girl problems.. i recommend putting more than a couple months between the two.. but, i don't regret the trips - they just had moments that made my heart ache and my mind spin from badly planned situations..
 
Although it could turn out bad because of your set, Id do it. I was bad for about a year after my last break up and mushrooms helped me come to terms with what happened and helped me move on, it was instantaneous. I was literally better from the moment the mushrooms hit me, and afterwards it was just the pure sense of peaceful euphoria I hadnt experienced in a year because of the breakup. Theyre very useful if you do it right
 
Probably not if you're still in the phase where you're heartbroken about it and a little bit in rejection or denial. It totally depends on the reason of the breakup, the length and type of relationship and a whole lot of other factors if tripping will help anything or only make your negative emotions ten times worse.

If you feel like you have passed a certain phase and are - if you ask yourself deeply and truly - ready to get over it and give the whole relationship plus ending a place in your life, I would say that's a better point to start from.

In any case don't rush into it!! You have to let intense thoughts and feelings settle sober before attempting to throw them all around extra hard in your mind. The therapeutic process should have started already and you should be clear on the point in the process where you are at the moment.
Otherwise, do some sober contemplation or talk to friends or family. Tripping isn't something that will make things magically go away, and importantly it isn't even something that can kick you through something kicking and screaming and always be worthwhile and transformative. I have been through enough horrific shroom trips when I had very little insight into matters of the mind.
 
thanks guys, all good advice here. its all pretty much what i have been telling myself, but it's good to hear it from someone else. I think that I will be alright.
 
I'd say it depends on your mindset at the time, if you feel that this day would be a good day to dose and you are not upset or worrying about the split then give it a go, just make sure you are in a comfortable environment where you can ride out any negative aspects of the trip.

However, something it seems no-one else mentioned is what you said about drinking. I personally think drinking when feeling bad is far worse than tripping when feeling bad, if you trip then issues will be brought up during the trip, issues that you can resolve - if you drink then you will just continue to feel more sorry for yourself and make the feeling worse. Maybe give complete sobriety a go for a few weeks, change your hobbies around, get yourself in a good mood, and then when there's a day when you feel a trip would teach you something, go for it.

Hope this helps :)
 
Depends on how much you're planning to dose really. The other night I dosed 2 firey tabs with my brother and it actually helped me to analyze my feelings about an ex-girlfriend who is legitimately crazy and always harassing me over the phone still. I was also able to get new perspective on my relationships with close friends with whom I feel I have been drifting away from. Part of what really helped though is that I was with my brother, who I really trust and am obviously comfortable talking about this shit with.

I would say you should be fine in any dose low enough to still have your ego. Anything higher than that is obviously very unpredictable, and I do not advise that. But a low dose should be fine. LSD really is a great tool for examining your feelings. Just make sure you have a close friend who will be there to talk to.
 
If you have to question whether or not you should trip it would probably be best to wait a while longer before dosing again. Wait until things have been going really well for you :)
 
Wow, I never thought that I was going to get this much of a response in this thread. Thank you to everyone who responded, you have all had really good advice to give. I really like the go a few weeks with out drinking thing. That is gonna be a tough one for me, but I feel the benefits of a few weeks sober would do me some good (and for anybody else for that mater). Then maybe I can eat those doses and have a good time. I think that waiting for the time to come for when every other thought I have is not about her or what she is up to, then that will be the proper time to get back to those tasty little white squares. Thanks alot guys!!
 
As a rule of thumb I only dose when my life is as stable as I can remember it in the near past. Any change (moving, loss of GF, etc) only adds to the stress and decreases your enjoyment of the trip.
 
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