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Breaking Social Norms

Ahh, I remember Psych 101. My professor had mangy, shoulder-length disheveled hair. He wore a beat up trench coat ( in fucking Florida) and rode a skateboard around campus. He was pretty much a badass.

We had this discussion in class too, though. A fairly basic one would be to stand in the center of the elevator. It's subtle, yet unnerving.
 
Im a junior in high school but this is a college course, so freshman or sophomore college.

Im just writing about the experience, from everyones point of view that im effecting in the situation ( i guess), and sort of just explaining like why we have these norms, and my opinions on them.
It is sort of a broad topic and yes, is just a way to annoy people.

I asked people on here to see if there would be any ideas that i havent thought of or seen on non drug forums, because theres forums all over the place that just say to do stupid shit that annoy the fuck out of people and im trying not to do that.

And i laughed when i read the story about the kids sitting down on the bench with you chickenscratch
 
Christ, i just had this typed but,,, ill type it agian.



Im a junior in highschool, the class is a second year college class, high expectations and shit.

The paper is about me braking the norm, writing about it form mine and the others points of view, then explaining why social norms are around -theories, and my opinions on it. -in short terms...

It is a broad topic but its what i make it.

I asked on BL because i can go to any forum and just see shit that annoys the fuck out of people, im not going to do those things. There are norms that people never really notice and that barely cross peoples minds everyday. Im looking at things that there arent rules against but people take second glances at.

I will continue. thanks,
 
Nexus Viper said:
Telling people you feel bad when they're casually asking "how are you ?" and they're not even quite expecting an answer. I think I've dared to do it once in my lifetime, it's so not what they want to hear. Now I'd rather not answer at all and let them guess.
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I've done that a few times. Once I was paying for something at a store and the woman behind the counter asked "how's your day going?" I replied "actually, it's been utter shit so far..." She didn't say anything back.
 
Some of your ideas are rather outlandish for a college level paper. I'd take a look at what's around you first, actually notice how YOU normally act, before judging "social norms". This is not an attack to your ideas, but when you make yourself more aware, you can notice much more and social norms will seem to not exist.
 
^agreed. Take a look at your everyday questions and ask "why?"
What makes you do them? Do you shave everyday? How are you gendered?

If you can know someone (or have) a small child - go out in public alone with it. Which restroom would you use if it was a female child? Do men's restrooms even have baby changing stations?

Social norms is a very broad topic with many diff offshoots. You can really challege yourself with this one.
 
just pull out your powered in my case mephedrone and just do it in front of everyone in college class room. I just and always do my drugs without the need to hide because I'm not ashamed.
 
^ Sounds like you just want everyone to know how awesome you are because you do drugs. I don't usually do drugs around people,drug users or not, not because i'm ashamed, but because I can't think of any reason to announce my use.

When being carded for booze, show them your I.D. and than request to see their liquor license.
 
dont shower
try to have a party with no alcohol
wear red or white colored contacts
just dont greet people when you begin a conversation and dont tell them good bye
dont wear shoes.. or take off your shoes whenever you enter your classroom
shut the door after you go through it. always lol
hang out in elevators to try and meet people... or bathrooms.
buy everything in change... that u keep in ur fanny pack
forget about manners when you eat
wear the same thing every day
 
if your sitting on the passenger side of a car, make a circular motion with your hand to the person in the car next to you to get their attention. yell out "your wheels are turning" until they hear you.
 
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Agreed. That is only acting out or doing things just to get noticed.

You said it was for a psychology class. Well, it's going to go more in depth than just the acting out itself or what people usually label as "odd". It's why this person would do this. Something that is said to be "different" is simply described as what is not considered "socially acceptable". "Normal" is considered, obviously, "socially acceptable".

We constantly adapt to our surrounds in our most comfortable way, so when a chance occurs, our 'social norms' become strewn and we question it; wanting to explain it. It either intrigues or bothers us because we cannot explain it. Therefor, we may shy away from it; distract ourselves with TV commercials, shows, video games, and made-up stories because even though we want to know, we have - at our own levels - become comfortable with the simplistic and what just is. We are scared of change.

On the other hand, we sometimes create our own changes because we long for something that is not the same. We strive off of the lust for knowledge; to not accept things for just the simplicity, which is to grow as a human. But there are certain ways of doing it that will help you... that's where research, experience, and knowledge becomes power.

I believe that it's the people that really go in depth about the "different" things - because we have accepted the fact that there is something more. We've also accepted that we ourselves as humans are "different" and "odd" - and want, not just wish, to indulge ourselves with more knowledge of things. This is to do what man was meant to do: ACCEPT our surroundings and use them to our advantage to GROW. You have to understand something before being able to use it to your own advantage. Learn more about yourself and develop as a human being, not hide or shy away. Fear is what motivates us. Ever heard of "fight or flight"?


So in all... how can we really "Break the social norms", if we ourselves are hiding from the real meaning of "normal"? Define this for me: "Advance"

~DelilahHeartly

PS "When there is no mystery, life gets kind of boring - doesn't it?"

"Death is a lie. Life is a dream, and we are all the imaginations of ourselves." - Bill Hicks
Plus, even when we "die", we are still putting off different chemicals and energies. Everything comes back into one.
 
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Sit next to somebody on a bus and start talking to them?

Could always take some inspiration from Larry David on Curb Your Enthusiasm =D
 
social norms... well socially, we are supposed to respect other people and not make them feel awkward or uncomfortable. We do this by for example, standing in the corner of an elevator so that they feel more comfortable and not surrounded and threatened.

Breaking the social norm is when you do things that everyone else does, differently. Like, standing the opposite way(looking backward) on an escalator. Or, walking around not with your hands by your pelvis, but up in the air above your head. Its not that these things are wrong to do, but when everyone does something one way, it disturbs them almost to see them done differently. Theres nothing wrong about holding your arms above your head, but if you walk around a mall doing that, alot of people who would otherwise not look at you, will.

Alot of people think they are so unique. Whether its how they talk, walk, dress, dance, whatever... but in truth, we are all very similar. If your reading this, ask yourself, do you walk around with your arms above your head? No. So thats something you and 6+billion people have in common. When you decide to break that common ground that you and everyone else does, you are breaking the social norm - you are now 'wierd'.
 
yes.

DelilahHeartly said:
We constantly adapt to our surrounds in our most comfortable way, so when a chance occurs, our 'social norms' become strewn and we question it; wanting to explain it. It either intrigues or bothers us because we cannot explain it. Therefor, we may shy away from it; distract ourselves with TV commercials, shows, video games, and made-up stories because even though we want to know, we have - at our own levels - become comfortable with the simplistic and what just is. We are scared of change.
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I actually did talk about how we are distracted from the simpleness of how it just is, and how we do shy away from so many things.

I love this topic and enjoy writing about it, instead of making the paper completely on my initial topic of starting conversations with people on elevators and in public, i wrote about pretty much what you have said. Btw, i wrote it before you posted this so i like that others also think.
 
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