I too am having love trouble. Going through a divorce. The girl I've been seeing recently is a heavy drinker and just brings all sorts of her own drama. To the point that I don't know if I even want to pursue her further.
It’s almost better to just stay single right now and figure my own shit out.
I’m so sorry to hear about your divorce, deficiT! Having been thru 2 divorces, I can relate. Neither divorce was fun, but my 2nd husband was super smart and concluded that he didn’t require the overhyped services of an attorney. I so wish I’d recorded his courtroom antics. His little bit of legal knowledge not only cost him thousands of $$, but his steroid abuse became apparent when his anger with the judge, my attorney and me, grew out of control, and the bailiff had to intervene. In the end, that old saying by Abe Lincoln was proven true. I hope not to butcher it, but it basically states that the lawyer who represents himself has a fool for a client.
I don’t disagree w/ you about remaining single. It might be the easiest option. I’m living by myself for the first time ever. I’ve made a mental list of the things I do that make living w/ me a difficult endeavor. I’ve concluded that cohabitation w/ me is no picnic.
• I’m not a good cook. Due to my upbringing, we ate out a lot and my parents weren’t around physically, or mentally when they were here. I have taught myself to cook a few good things, but I’m embarrassed by my (lack of) cooking skills.
• I’m a bit messy, i.e., I’ll leave an empty cup of coffee sitting on my desk for a few days before I move it. I’ll leave things in the dryer for a day or 2 before emptying it.
• I listen to music very loudly. I have music on 100% of the time I’m home, unless I’m watching TV or on a phone call.
• I allow my cats to sleep w/ me, instead of setting boundaries. I love that they sleep w/ me—hearing their breathing and snoring is such a lovely sound and it helps me relax. I would be the same way w/ a dog, even a dog the size of a St. Bernard, if I had a dog.
• I tend to be a bit of a homebody. Netflix + food/drinks, with cozy blankets on my white leather couch, is my idea of a perfect date.
• I’ll walk places, but my tendencies lean toward inactivity. I’m happy with my weight, but I could stand to firm up a bit.
• I’m terribly nerdy. I always looked for
s and washed up marine life when my ex wanted me to video him surfing. I needed to pick weeds and instead, due to recent rains, I found a number of
s in my garden. I spent about 2-3 days identifying each of them on a mycology website while my garden weeds grew larger. I finally finished, but I find myself constantly distracted by things I encounter during the course of performing a necessary task, and I invariably get delayed in pursuing the actual chore.
• I run a few minutes late about 75% of the time. This is generally multi-factorial, but getting distracted by interesting things is responsible for lots of my tardiness. The remaining lateness is due to last minute decisions to wear a different dress, or do my hair differently than I’d planned, or other similar things. If I see something interesting while I’m driving, I tend to stop and check it out. This as especially true of interesting residential architecture or a fantastic garden.
