So me and my partner of 6 years who I have 2 kids with have split up recently(shes 29 im 28). Its always been an up and down relationship, especially the past 2 years after not loving together but still trying to make things work.
The problems were on me, I threw some of her child hood barbies out recently and that was the final straw for her. I really regretted doing it afterwards, and still do. Along with that ive been miserable towards her, not giving her what she wants, verbally abusive(especially when ive been drinking and using benzos) and she tells me she has just felt alone for the past 2 years, which is understandable.
I have alot of anxiety and depression from a decade of heavy cannabis use, amoung other drugs. A couple of weeks before we broke up I started seeing a psychologist to help me change my mind set, and really show me a different perspective of myself. Ive had to quit smoking as im getting drug tested now. Im really trying to change myself and I feel like using weed the whole time made me seem not interested in her(and every single thing in life aswell, no motivation to do anything)
Now shes using dating apps, says shes interested in someone and is pursuing that slowly. I still have very strong feelings for her, it sucks. Having a 3 yr old son and 1 yr old daughter dosent help either as we need to communicate about them so ill always see her.
Ive been reading online today about a 30 day no contact period. I want to know what people think about this, it makes sense to me as hard as it is and I want her back. I dont see myself with anyone else but she says she dosent have feelings for me at the moment, dosent even consider us friends.
Thanks bluelight.
The problems were on me, I threw some of her child hood barbies out recently and that was the final straw for her. I really regretted doing it afterwards, and still do. Along with that ive been miserable towards her, not giving her what she wants, verbally abusive(especially when ive been drinking and using benzos) and she tells me she has just felt alone for the past 2 years, which is understandable.
I have alot of anxiety and depression from a decade of heavy cannabis use, amoung other drugs. A couple of weeks before we broke up I started seeing a psychologist to help me change my mind set, and really show me a different perspective of myself. Ive had to quit smoking as im getting drug tested now. Im really trying to change myself and I feel like using weed the whole time made me seem not interested in her(and every single thing in life aswell, no motivation to do anything)
Now shes using dating apps, says shes interested in someone and is pursuing that slowly. I still have very strong feelings for her, it sucks. Having a 3 yr old son and 1 yr old daughter dosent help either as we need to communicate about them so ill always see her.
Ive been reading online today about a 30 day no contact period. I want to know what people think about this, it makes sense to me as hard as it is and I want her back. I dont see myself with anyone else but she says she dosent have feelings for me at the moment, dosent even consider us friends.
Thanks bluelight.