warpaint said:
last night he was hungry and asked me to make soup (from a package, which he knows how to make) and i was tired so i said no and fell asleep. he didn't end up making anything for himself, ended up just eating a slice of bread. it worries me how lazy he is. like it's not very hard to boil water and dump some powder in. this gives me more reason to not want to cook at all. would it be wrong if i just cooked for myself and told him to make his own food?
He would get very angry if you started cooking meals for yourself and just ate the food in front of him; but if he's hungry and you're not, or you don't want to eat a lot at once there's no reason you should have to make a huge meal for him or cook for him. He can't even make instant soup like you find in packets or cans that's pretty bad...but he's an adult and should know how to cook, feed himself, or follow directions on how to make something to eat.
As far as the cleaning goes if he doesn't like to clean then you should not be required to clean up after him since you're not his mom and he's not a little kid. If he wants to live like a pig in a really dirty place that's his choice.
Do you actually care about this guy, and your relationship together, or do you just like to have sex with him and you feel as though you're stuck in a living situation with him and you're more friends/roommates than people in a relationship together? Have you tried telling him some of the stuff you've written here like how you wish he'd put away stuff when buying it, or not leave tons of stuff right by your apt door, and that you're not his mom or his personal maid/apt cleaner/cook?
Does he have any sort of social life at all, like going out with his own friends or you both go our with mutual friends of yours together, or does he just spend pretty much all his free time playing video games/computer games? Does he have a job, go to college/university, take classes, or does he just come home from work/school and then play video games for the rest of the night until late at night when it's time for bed? If he doesn't have a real social life, friends, or even work then he's like Thujone said. All this being said you should not feel as though you're responsible for being his personal cook/maid since you need to look after yourself.
