Mary Poppins
Bluelighter
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I'm with you on that one Addikal - I feel it just gets a bit too much and is slightly tiresome to carry the game playing TOO much into a r/ship....in the prelude to one I'm still extremely conscious of the game/dance of it all, and am likely to not show all my cards, purely because of the game playing. Ie. even if I'm thinking 'omg i love this guy soooo much i'm like totally crushin' no fucking WAY would I let him know that and that's for 2 reasons. 1. Because I know very well that it's not really true - i'm caught up in the heady first stages of being attracted to someone and you could tell me they were an axe murderer and i'd find some way to justify it and think it was totally sexy 2. Because of point one, and just because in general, most guys would baulk at such early professions of love BECAUSE they're unrealistic...and it's silly to honestly believe you've formed this heightened connection from such a short time.
(NB: there are exceptions to this eg. those irritating situations where you realise you're in love with your best friend
though in which case you still don't tell him because he's emotionally stunted)
HOWEVER - yes, there is still a power imbalance and power plays once in a r/ship, but this should really lessen, and if I were to find myself in a r/ship one thing i would make a conscious effort to NOT do was stop being passive agressive, the most natural state for a female to be in a r/ship and TOTALLY fucks with it, and to be upfront and honest about my feelings ---- because I feel guys actually are better at leaving the game thing behind once in a r/ship IMO.
I'm with you on that one Addikal - I feel it just gets a bit too much and is slightly tiresome to carry the game playing TOO much into a r/ship....in the prelude to one I'm still extremely conscious of the game/dance of it all, and am likely to not show all my cards, purely because of the game playing. Ie. even if I'm thinking 'omg i love this guy soooo much i'm like totally crushin' no fucking WAY would I let him know that and that's for 2 reasons. 1. Because I know very well that it's not really true - i'm caught up in the heady first stages of being attracted to someone and you could tell me they were an axe murderer and i'd find some way to justify it and think it was totally sexy 2. Because of point one, and just because in general, most guys would baulk at such early professions of love BECAUSE they're unrealistic...and it's silly to honestly believe you've formed this heightened connection from such a short time.
(NB: there are exceptions to this eg. those irritating situations where you realise you're in love with your best friend
though in which case you still don't tell him because he's emotionally stunted)HOWEVER - yes, there is still a power imbalance and power plays once in a r/ship, but this should really lessen, and if I were to find myself in a r/ship one thing i would make a conscious effort to NOT do was stop being passive agressive, the most natural state for a female to be in a r/ship and TOTALLY fucks with it, and to be upfront and honest about my feelings ---- because I feel guys actually are better at leaving the game thing behind once in a r/ship IMO.
