muzby
Bluelighter
keep a girl well screwed and you need not worry about flowers.
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Bluelight Singles thread "Living without justification" Part 2
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muzby
Bluelighter
^^^ ever notice that i never bring your mother flowers????
(god. scraping the bottom of the barrel if i am bringing out the mother jokes.)
(god. scraping the bottom of the barrel if i am bringing out the mother jokes.)
Any progress deeCee?deeCee said:Hmmmm So a girl at work told her friend that I like her. I only found this out after I saw her friend, the other day and she gave me this look and cheeky smile. I just knew my work mate had told her to which she fessed up.
The feed back was all good, apprently I'm cute and funny
There could be problems though, just say we did "hit it off". The girl at work will know everything, from they girlie gossips I'm sure they will have. And I'm not sure if I'm comforatble with someone from work, knowing all the intimate details of how I banged her behind the shelter shed
The other problem is, that the friend is the girl from work, Boyfriends brothers ex (tongue twister I know). And I tend too see her boyfriend from time to time for drinks and stuff. Now, in some twisted way is this wrong?
Nah, mate not so far 
I thought she was coming out witht the guys from work last friday nite for a few drinks, I cleaned my room and everything
But, hence no, she didnt go
I know she's going to Derby Day on saturday, which I had to pull the pin on a due to financial restraints.
I plan on leaving work in the very near future, so I think I'll be right with the work thing!
*mumbles something about money*
I thought she was coming out witht the guys from work last friday nite for a few drinks, I cleaned my room and everything
But, hence no, she didnt go I know she's going to Derby Day on saturday, which I had to pull the pin on a due to financial restraints.
I plan on leaving work in the very near future, so I think I'll be right with the work thing!
*mumbles something about money*
ButrosButros_Grantos
Bluelighter
muzby said:
But I did notice you bringing some to your great-grandmothers grave. If you can't entertain a corpse then what hope do you have!?!
Mary Poppins
Bluelighter
i was so thinking of bumping this thread today!!!!
i can't remember why though
oh, i think it was to write something about unattainable. that's right!!
yeah, i think i've begun to notice quite a few of my friends who DO follow the content (as opposed to happy) scenario when dating. and i have to say, i'm beginning to understand more and more their motives for doing so.
however, i don't think i could ever do it (much to my detriment as i think if i could, i'd be a lot more...well...content ![:\](https://bluelight.org/xf/BL_Images/Orig_Emoji/wrygrin.gif "wry grin :\")
) i need that jump up and down you say no i write emo poetry crying laughing hysterical kind of love...
and i'm beginning to wish i kinda didn't
i can't remember why though
oh, i think it was to write something about unattainable. that's right!!
yeah, i think i've begun to notice quite a few of my friends who DO follow the content (as opposed to happy) scenario when dating. and i have to say, i'm beginning to understand more and more their motives for doing so.
however, i don't think i could ever do it
(much to my detriment as i think if i could, i'd be a lot more...well...content ) i need that jump up and down you say no i write emo poetry crying laughing hysterical kind of love...and i'm beginning to wish i kinda didn't
Ooooo, let's have a discussion....... about trust. :D
I'm interested to know how people deal with their own trust issues and does this halt them in a relationship? Are there some people that trust easily and deeply? Others that just cant - is this the reason why they are not in a relationship? Are there those that are in a relationship but still find they can't trust? How does one rebuild trust?
I've been thinking about it a lot lately because I realise it is really really hard for me to trust people. Possibly hindering my chances to have any kind of relationship. I had lunch with a friend today and she commented that I'll happily tell her what's been going on, stories, the laughs, likes and dislikes but there will come a point where I will close off. In her words, "You only tell me stuff that you wouldn't care if I told someone else" Damn straight.
Yes, I have been hurt in love, but I think the trust issues were already under the surface before all this. Maybe I was just born wary? In comparison, my cousin who is 10 years older then me - falls in love, gets hurt, trusts again, falls in love, gets hurt, trusts again.... the cycle goes on. I find it really interesting how people can be so different.
So, are you a hopeless romantic and can't help trusting? Why? Or the other way? Tell!
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I'm interested to know how people deal with their own trust issues and does this halt them in a relationship? Are there some people that trust easily and deeply? Others that just cant - is this the reason why they are not in a relationship? Are there those that are in a relationship but still find they can't trust? How does one rebuild trust?
I've been thinking about it a lot lately because I realise it is really really hard for me to trust people. Possibly hindering my chances to have any kind of relationship. I had lunch with a friend today and she commented that I'll happily tell her what's been going on, stories, the laughs, likes and dislikes but there will come a point where I will close off. In her words, "You only tell me stuff that you wouldn't care if I told someone else" Damn straight.
Yes, I have been hurt in love, but I think the trust issues were already under the surface before all this. Maybe I was just born wary? In comparison, my cousin who is 10 years older then me - falls in love, gets hurt, trusts again, falls in love, gets hurt, trusts again.... the cycle goes on. I find it really interesting how people can be so different.
So, are you a hopeless romantic and can't help trusting? Why? Or the other way? Tell!
Edit: Made as new thread
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muzby
Bluelighter
trust....
trust is an interesting one with me...
if you are a friend, you are given my trust straight away...
if you are a girlfriend, you must earn my trust...
i've been hurt far too many times in the past in relationships by trusting, then having that trust abused.
(although, i reckon you should post that as a thread on its own iamtha1)
trust is an interesting one with me...
if you are a friend, you are given my trust straight away...
if you are a girlfriend, you must earn my trust...
i've been hurt far too many times in the past in relationships by trusting, then having that trust abused.
(although, i reckon you should post that as a thread on its own iamtha1)
raverchik
Bluelighter
NOT. taken.
420star
Bluelighter
i hole heartily agree trust is a hard thing to gain & so easy to loose.muzby said:
the trust i once gave to someone i loved very very much was badly abused. now i seem to have "trust issues"
iamtha1 said:
Nice post and question
.I feel I'm similar to you.I find it VERY hard to trust someone when it comes to relationships.I've been 'stuffed around','had my heartbroken' and 'hurt too many times' NOT too.
It probably doesn't help that I've had n'o good romantic relationship experience'.
Also,for a guy I'm quite emotional.Positive - If I really like a girl,I'll really care about her.NOT just for sex,but as a person and wishing to have a relationship with them.I've NEVER been into 'one night stands' or the like.I tend,to either just want to be friends with girl/s or if I 'ask a girl out' I'll want it to hopefully develop into a relationship.
By people that know me well,I'm considered a caring,honest,loyal,trusting,funny,smart and nice guy.So,or I can try is to continue that.........
Negative - If it does NOT happen or work out, I tend to get really depressed and/or angry.
In recent times.I've been experiencing mainly the 'negative'.At times I haven't handled it the best.
Sometimes,drinking way too much to mask how I feel and get angry here and there.At least I've noticed this 'self destructive pattern' and don't drink that often or much any more.I try to deal with my feelings.
Anyway,I've probably shown too much honest above,but that's how I really feel.
Sorry
to hear that others have trust issue .Finally,interestingly, I should hopefully be appearing in an Australian film (A documentary) on being single.Had the test filming.The makers are just waiting on more funding %) .
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Adikkal
Bluelighter
Well I feel I must inform ya'll that i'm back in this thread as of last week. Although we got along really well we just weren't right for each other. It's all good though, i'm sorta dissapointed but aware it's the right thing to do.
So now, i'm back in the game for summer! WOO!
I've never had trust issues because I haven't got too hurt before. IMO it really comes down to the individual because some people I will definitely trust, others I won't. I can imagine how having your trust abused would cause you to keep yourself very closed up in the future and that brings me to another topic.
In a relationship, how much do you open up?
I am likely to keep my true feelings under wraps, or at least make them vague until i'm officially in a relationship but I feel at that point you should be able to be true to what you feel and alot of the 'game' aspects should fall to the background. However whether you're aware of it or not... there is always a power balance in relationships and opening up too much can put you at a loss for power if you don't get it in return.
So how do you guys deal with this? Do you open up fully or keep yourself closed up to 'protect yourself'?
Adikkal
So now, i'm back in the game for summer! WOO!
I've never had trust issues because I haven't got too hurt before. IMO it really comes down to the individual because some people I will definitely trust, others I won't. I can imagine how having your trust abused would cause you to keep yourself very closed up in the future and that brings me to another topic.
In a relationship, how much do you open up?
I am likely to keep my true feelings under wraps, or at least make them vague until i'm officially in a relationship but I feel at that point you should be able to be true to what you feel and alot of the 'game' aspects should fall to the background. However whether you're aware of it or not... there is always a power balance in relationships and opening up too much can put you at a loss for power if you don't get it in return.
So how do you guys deal with this? Do you open up fully or keep yourself closed up to 'protect yourself'?
Adikkal