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Bluelight Singles thread "Living without justification" Part 2

Its recently occured to me that im perfectly content being single. I stressed about not finding a suitable partner, having bounced from relationship to relationship early on, but it's become strikingly apparent that my lifestyle [at this point in time] simply doesnt allow for companionship, and I'm quite comfortable with that :)

The nature of my work and lifestyle dictates that I never know where I'll be, what I'll be doing and how much money I'll have. It does however allow for me to meet new people, experience new things and have a fucking good time. As a young fella, this is what life is about and when the right person comes along, I'll know, and I'll most likely settle down

Until then ...
 
I dont necessarily know about the feeling lonely on special occasions but being single this time of year (ie. winter) is hard because it's the time of year where nothing much happens and everyone seems to hibernate with their S.O. It was this time last year when I got out of a very bad very messy relationship and a lot of people around me were also falling out of relationships one after the other. I think because this is a depressing time of year, its slow and everyone is miserable you either deal with it or you dont (of course im making wild and grand generalisations) but for anyone who has come out of a relationship...what time of year was it? out of curiousity.

sorry for invading your thread since technically i dont belong here but i like a good discussion about human behaviour.
 
When I was single there was never a certain time I'd feel lonely. Actually, I'd most of the time believe I was never lonely for a boyfriend. Generally, I felt lonely without the companionship of friends instead of a guy because I'd built myself up so much to totally not want someone.

But then I'd be at my friend's house and her boyfriend would drop in for 5 mins to give her the Cherry Ripe she'd been craving and I'd be like *sigh*.... or watching my brother's girlfriend sit through an hour of my dad discussing accounting with her to be polite and I'd be like hmm... ah, maybe that's something I miss. Just the little things that someone else would do for you.

But yeah, Christmas and holidays to be honest I never thought about it because I was always surrounded by friends and family.

So, I have another question to pose, there have been a fair few people who comment about "not wanting to be alone" "needing someone there" etc. But I have a real fear of being co-dependent. This ain't storybook psychology either, of course it comes from being hurt in the past. Does anyone else share this?

Edit: Leecie, in theory I kinda agree with you about the seasonal break-up thing. I broke up with my ex in January last year and although still hard to get over and messy, I found it so much easier it was summer, I was going out, we felt good about ourselves, and the majority of my friends were single. Definitely eased up the getting over part a lot, at least on the surface.
 
magpi said:
new city
new women
all i got to do now is get out there and enjoymyself

but why dose melbourne have to be so bloody cold
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hehe i shall give you some melb girly warmth ;)

When I was single there was never a certain time I'd feel lonely. Actually, I'd most of the time believe I was never lonely for a boyfriend. Generally, I felt lonely without the companionship of friends instead of a guy because I'd built myself up so much to totally not want someone.
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i get lonely...sometimes more often than not...but its not for a boyfriend...its more for the companionship aswell that comes along with being "involved"

dont get me wrong..i love my friends. they rule...but theres just something about snuggling up wth someone on the couch of under a doonah and just talking or enjoying company that i seem to miss a lot

*sighs*

ive also deicded...boys are to much hassle to have a relationship with...i always get burnt by them...i guess i should just be happy with wher ei am right now and the frends that i have in my life right now...

*loneliness kreeps in*

but there is just something that i am still missing :(
 
i find winter to be the worst for me. i think it's because a hot water bottle is just nowhere near as much fun to go to bed with as a significant other.

as for co-dependence i personally feel that i am very much a complete person in my own right. but having someone to share things with just makes it that much more fun%) i'm starting to find that going places by myself is sort of like cake without icing. good but in the back of my mind i think, this could be so much better.which really taints the whole thing a bit.

maybe i should just stop thinking as much :)
 
but having someone to share things with just makes it that much more fun i'm starting to find that going places by myself is sort of like cake without icing. good but in the back of my mind i think, this could be so much better.
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yeah i totally feel you on that one :) i do so many things alone...and lately i have been spending time with a lot of my friends to co-inside with the no boy factor :\ it works...but only for a while...
 
magpi said:
but but
the girls in lental are so geekly and hippie cuteness
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Is this lentil as anything - aka the most awesome food in the universe place?

Oh how i love lentil.
It's the biggest eating joy in my existance.

My favourite is the kissy kissy beetroot curry but the pumpkin curry is pretty good too.

I used to know everything on the menu - but last time i went (it could have just been because the other chef - you know the japanese one... was there) it seemed they have expanded the menu (yay!) so there are many new joyus things to try.

i want lentil NOW!
 
yeah thats the one blos
and at the mo its only 20 meters form my forn door

the moroccan hotpot
and teh lental burger with sweat chilly sauce and pesto is great to
 
Being single is good for a whille, but Im well sick of it at the moment. Need a nice chick to chill with.
 
or just try anthrax...

i'm sure you can all figure out where all the posts went. if you've got a problem with someone, pm them or stalk them or something, like a normal person. or send them hate mail. hate mail's always good.
 
ive probably said it before in here btu te best tjing when your sigle is a snug buddy
no sex but some one to talk to and snuggle with on cold nights or giggle with over water pistol figths in park on hot days
 
Actually I miss more than that:

I miss a reassuring hand if I'm feeling upset.
I miss a voice of reason when I get mad.
I miss my pillow smelling of someone else.
I miss not having to explain why I'm smiling.
I miss someone else hitting the snooze button.
I miss buying things when food shopping that aren't for me.
I miss the spare toothbrush in my bathroom.
I miss fighting over what to watch on television.
I miss getting my way, but then relenting to a pouty face.
I miss hanging on every word like its the last.

I miss it all like the deserts miss water.
 
I miss having someone nearby to tell me im not crazy! =D


Winter is a time i miss a partner most because its so cold outside and i need someone to keep me warm in the morning!

:(

But oh well, my time will come....
 
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