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Bluelight Singles thread "Living without justification" Part 2
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kandyraverchick
Ex-Bluelighter
Still chugging along in singledom!
Starting to have an increasing number of sexual fantasies though - about someone in particular (mostly)...
hmmz... I know being sex free is kinda good for me at the momment. BUT THESE DAMN TEMPTATIONS!
It's almost a little scary - I'm starting to think having a monogamous relationship would be a good idea... but then again maybe not. I haven't seriously contemplated a monogamous relationship since Ryan and I broke up which was about 1.5 years ago (3 year relationship).
Besides, not many guys would want me as a g/f anyhow...
So I *really* should try to demolish that thought and just accept that I'm fantastic fuck buddy material, until wonder man comes along 
. < Sometimes it's a sad thought but it's the truth and I know it. Mostly I deal with it well though, I think I'm a tad depressed atm.
Starting to have an increasing number of sexual fantasies though - about someone in particular (mostly)...
hmmz... I know being sex free is kinda good for me at the momment. BUT THESE DAMN TEMPTATIONS!
It's almost a little scary - I'm starting to think having a monogamous relationship would be a good idea... but then again maybe not. I haven't seriously contemplated a monogamous relationship since Ryan and I broke up which was about 1.5 years ago (3 year relationship).
Besides, not many guys would want me as a g/f anyhow...
So I *really* should try to demolish that thought and just accept that I'm fantastic fuck buddy material, until wonder man comes along . < Sometimes it's a sad thought but it's the truth and I know it. Mostly I deal with it well though, I think I'm a tad depressed atm.
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420star
Bluelighter
i'm just very over being single at the moment. it's been approx 4.5 years since i last had a proper girlfriend (mostly my choice) but now i'm so over it. i've never had much trouble finding fuck friends but i'm over that as well. it just seems so hollow. i miss so much having another person to share my life with. i'm finding that i'm avoiding doing things i like to do just cos i don't wont to do them alone anymore. love going out to restaurants & movies but i can't remember the last time i did either of those things. gods dam i think i'm turning into one of those sad depressing lonely guys & i don't like it at all.
well that's my bitch for the day. thanks for reading it.![:\](https://bluelight.org/xf/BL_Images/Orig_Emoji/wrygrin.gif "wry grin :\")
well that's my bitch for the day. thanks for reading it.
hhc_king
Bluelighter
all u guys stil here
*runs outta thread*
*runs outta thread*
raverchik
Bluelighter
420 I hear you
420star
Bluelighter
thanks raverchick. it's nice to know i'm not as alone as i think i am
420star said:
I understand what your saying, its funny but you don't realise how important the friendship side of a relationship is. Our situation got out of hand friends though, we were more like brother and sister towards the end of our relationship. We couldn't be lusty with each other anymore because it just felt wrong.
Realising that there was a feeling there that never will be again is tough, i wonder how long you mourn the loss for.
Single, almost a year to the day. Boy time flys (I don't know about the fun bit though). i'm still unsure if I'm at ease with singleness. I vary day to day, between the lonely days, and the not so lonely days. I cherish the thought of being able to do something with someone special. But I have come to realise, that that special person, does not have to be a partner. Whats wrong with sharing a special time with a best mate?.
Sure you don't want to exchange bodily fluid with them, but a moment none the less. You can only also hug a mate so many times before it starts getting weird.
I need someone to fill the void.
A snog every now and then should do
Sure you don't want to exchange bodily fluid with them, but a moment none the less. You can only also hug a mate so many times before it starts getting weird.
I need someone to fill the void.
A snog every now and then should do
raverchik
Bluelighter
Im just very over being single.
O-V-E-R
O-V-E-R
hhc_king
Bluelighter
kandyraverchick said:
Starting to have an increasing number of sexual fantasies though - about someone in particular (mostly)...
Besides, not many guys would want me as a g/f anyhow...
i think u would be a great gf :D
onetwothreefour
Bluelight Crew
so, i'm wondering if people feel *more* single (or worse about it) at a particular time?
i know a lot of people get really down about it over christmas, for obvious reasons, but i never really found that - instead, because i was going out and spending more time with my friends, i found that a really fun time when i never really worried about being single. it was this time of the year - the big void when nothing really is happening - that i actually felt a lot more lonely.
what about you? or doesn't it matter? does it instead depend entirely on your own personal mindstate, with nothing to do with the time of the year?
i know a lot of people get really down about it over christmas, for obvious reasons, but i never really found that - instead, because i was going out and spending more time with my friends, i found that a really fun time when i never really worried about being single. it was this time of the year - the big void when nothing really is happening - that i actually felt a lot more lonely.
what about you? or doesn't it matter? does it instead depend entirely on your own personal mindstate, with nothing to do with the time of the year?
MooShiE
Bluelighter
Im far from single.. just crusing thru darlings... but to the question above, I DID always find Xmas, Birthdays, Holidays soooooooo depressing when I was single... Im not entirely sure why but im sure it had something to do with having to spend time with my family and id much rather not... since being with my hun, ive escaped to his family for the last 2 Xmas's so it RAWKED TOTALLY.
onetwothreefour
Bluelight Crew
i'm just posting this again to put it at the top of the page (for discussion's sake).
so, i'm wondering if people feel *more* single (or worse about it) at a particular time?
i know a lot of people get really down about it over christmas, for obvious reasons, but i never really found that - instead, because i was going out and spending more time with my friends, i found that a really fun time when i never really worried about being single. it was this time of the year - the big void when nothing really is happening - that i actually felt a lot more lonely.
what about you? or doesn't it matter? does it instead depend entirely on your own personal mindstate, with nothing to do with the time of the year?
so, i'm wondering if people feel *more* single (or worse about it) at a particular time?
i know a lot of people get really down about it over christmas, for obvious reasons, but i never really found that - instead, because i was going out and spending more time with my friends, i found that a really fun time when i never really worried about being single. it was this time of the year - the big void when nothing really is happening - that i actually felt a lot more lonely.
what about you? or doesn't it matter? does it instead depend entirely on your own personal mindstate, with nothing to do with the time of the year?
Mary Poppins
Bluelighter
hmmm it makes me sad when i read stuff in this thread about how being single is making people feel bad
i mean i can't speak for all of you, but i know you 420star (albeit not that well) and you seem like a great guy, and it's so horrible to think that people are forgoing their quality of life because they're not in a relationship.
i can totally understand where these feelings come from. and god knows i have those moments...hours...or even days sometimes where i just think, what's wrong with me? am i that hideous? am i that difficult? i just don't WANT to be alone anymore.
but then i snap out of it. because i realise i'd eleventy seventy times more prefer being on my own, than being with someone just because i needed them to be there to validate my own existence...
i think when i meet someone that i feel comfortable letting in then i will. if they don't feel the same way, i'll deal.
though this then raises the question WILL i actually let them in.
but that's another story
i mean i can't speak for all of you, but i know you 420star (albeit not that well
) and you seem like a great guy, and it's so horrible to think that people are forgoing their quality of life because they're not in a relationship.i can totally understand where these feelings come from. and god knows i have those moments...hours...or even days sometimes where i just think, what's wrong with me? am i that hideous? am i that difficult? i just don't WANT to be alone anymore.
but then i snap out of it. because i realise i'd eleventy seventy times more prefer being on my own, than being with someone just because i needed them to be there to validate my own existence...
i think when i meet someone that i feel comfortable letting in then i will. if they don't feel the same way, i'll deal.
though this then raises the question WILL i actually let them in.
but that's another story
kandyraverchick
Ex-Bluelighter
I haven't really noticed any trends!
I find that when I'm single, sometimes I feel having a partner would be great, then only a couple of days later, decide I'm actually quite happy single! I start to wonder why and where that crazy, bizarre thought came from. 8(
I find that I'm more likely to ponder with the thought when I'm at all time 'feisty' high. That "yeah whatever", (yet aggresive) attitude, that seems to kick in (against my wishes), seems to bring me down. Although, it's always the time where I make more new friends - so obviously other people take to it! -=shrugs=- Note: Not really bitchy.
I find that when I'm single, sometimes I feel having a partner would be great, then only a couple of days later, decide I'm actually quite happy single! I start to wonder why and where that crazy, bizarre thought came from. 8(
I find that I'm more likely to ponder with the thought when I'm at all time 'feisty' high. That "yeah whatever", (yet aggresive) attitude, that seems to kick in (against my wishes), seems to bring me down. Although, it's always the time where I make more new friends - so obviously other people take to it! -=shrugs=- Note: Not really bitchy.
kandyraverchick said:
I'll second this, sometimes it becomes a very vicious cycle that occurs day to day with myself. I'll be content with what I have one day, and then next wonder if there is more to life then this singledom