Bluelight Singles - from begining to end! don't we love the merge feature!

[Hardicus]

Well I just found out my ex has a new boyfriend. And it scared me how shocked and pained I was by the news. I guess when you are with someone for a long time you inadvertantly gain some level of percieved "ownership" of them...and when they find someone new it seems like they are violating you...fuck it's terrible because you know that you legitimately have NO right to judge them or feel anything but happy for them. But fuck it hurts. I don't know what i'll do if I see her again...probably spit on her...or fall crying into her arms...or both.
Fuck it, I think some people are just not made for love...me being one of them. So i'll try my hardest to avoid it so I can follow the road I was always travelling on...the road to bitter jaded loneliness. Hope to see some of you somme time.
Looking back on that I can see why i'm so unlucky in love...i'm fucking selfish. i don't ever read the singles thread unless I have somethign to bitch about. I don't even know why I posted this...what sort of replies could I even get to this?
BAH! Nuts to it all.

 

[doofqueen]

Originally posted by star_beats:
^^^^
sweetie.... me sends you big hugs
xxxx
[ 28 January 2003: Message edited by: star_beats ]
thankyou *hugs* but looks like crisis is over (i think) why are men so scared of commitment? ahhhhhhhh so complicated!!!!! ok im leaving this thread again...dont know how long it will last tho...im willing to work at it tho.....ive never felt this strongly about anyone b4...im so damn scared of getting hurt again

 

[Donny Don't]

Originally posted by *starfalls69*:
ok peoples heres a quick quiz for you...for the single guys...girls just swap the genders ova...
[ 27 January 2003: Message edited by: *starfalls69* ]
B: wait to see if she really is alone or has friends in toilet or lurking boyfriend?
I'd probably set myself up somewhere nearby and try and make eye contact, but i'd definitely spend a little while sizing up the situation (during which time she usually walks out of the bar lol)

 

[star_beats]

Fingers Crossed for DoofQueen!!
don't be scared of getting hurt, just be cautious, but not over cautious!!
I took a leap of faith and it has rewarded me with the most loving relationship I have ever had. But if I had not taken the chance (and I was considering not to becasue I was ever so scared of getting hurt again) I would not be the happy girl I am now.
xx
[ 28 January 2003: Message edited by: star_beats ]

 

[belisimo]

Originally posted by Hardicus:
So i'll try my hardest to avoid it so I can follow the road I was always travelling on...the road to bitter jaded loneliness.

I know what you mean Hardicus, even worse when you find out they are not only seeing someone else but also engaged to be married to them.
But in reply to your quote above:
To be emotionally commited to somebody can be very difficult, but to be alone is impossible.
-Stephen Sondheim

 

[Hardicus]

tough break belisimo

 

[haste]

Stay positive doofqueen, I'm sure things will work out for you - from what you've told me, you have something really special - so hang in there
*hugzz*

 

[doofqueen]

thnanks ppl i do have somethinmg so great with him but we live over 200kms from each other and he says that he is so confused in his life right now, he hates his job, lives with his parents, money issues, distance issues and the only thing that he is sure about is that he wants to me with me *sigh*
ok i better get out of the thread now i guess

 

[belisimo]

/\ /\ DOOFQUEEN HE MUST MOVE TO NEWY!

Originally posted by Hardicus:
tough break belisimo
nah dun worry, this happened a coupla yrs ago with my b/f of 5.5yrs. Found out he was engaged shortly after, I cried, got over it. Since then I've moved onto darker things, nah just kidding .
All you need is hard trance.
and my mum told me last night, never to trust a mexican they lie through their nose LOL (?)
erm sorry to the mexicans.

 

[doofqueen]

his whole life is in sydney so he wont move to newie...already talked about it...then when i said i would be willing to move to sydney one day he was happy and then he freaked out!!! fucken men!!! although the fact that i have a child isnt an issue at all which is a surprise

 

[MoeBro]

i should get into the posting in these singles threads a little bit more

 

[Sllip]

I posted in the singles thread a few times but it never got me laid. Oh well maybe next time. And my feet are still permanently planted in this thread.

 

[miss apple]

oopsz I don't know where you're getting those cartoons from but they're god damn depressing

 

[wazza]

http://www.reyndogg.com/video/Group_X_video.swf
Something a bit more uplifting for the singles.

 

[huxley]

Originally posted by miss apple:
oopsz I don't know where you're getting those cartoons from but they're god damn depressing
don't tell me you're still tired and grumpy and waiting for the day to be over only one-and-a-bit days to go :D

 

[huxley]

Originally posted by wazza:

Something a bit more uplifting for the singles.
I love this song - it's amazing how many people have heard it. Last weekend while out drinking most of the people I was with had heard it and we launched into a drunken rendition at the pub - which of course kept us single once again for that particular night
hux.

 

[Queen Beat]

Originally posted by Oopsz:
it's depressing because it's true.
it hurts because you identify with it.
you can't run away from your emotion.

And sometimes it's unhealthy to dwell on your emotions.
Why read and listen to things which only exacerbate the feelings of loneliness? Sure there's a level to which those things are comforting, but after a while don't they just become self-defeating?

 

[PsychoKitten]

Perhaps QB, but a certain amount of dwelling is necessary, although self-indulgent and sometimes counter-productive it actually allows for introspective thought, coming acceptance and motivation to change.
Ignoring the feelings does not do any good, it just sweeps them under the carpet to fester and grow where they lay until they return and hit you full force when you are totally un-prepared for it. Which IMHO is a lot more dangerous than the original dwelling.

 

[plazma]

For everyone.
Its times like these you learn to live again...
Its times like these you give and give again...
Its times like these you learn to love again...
Its times like these, time and time again...
Ain't that just the way it is.
-plaz out-

 

[Queen Beat]

Ignoring an emotion vs dealing with it and moving on, are totally different things. I think ignoring and dwelling are equally destructive. Some people would just prefer to feel sorry for themselves and bask in their misery then deal with how they're feeling and start being more positive.