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But I haven't met you yet mm!
I might get myself into more trouble here...but I should try and explain....
I guess lately I've been meeting boys who I could like, but there's just not that connection there. I could start a relationship with them...cause they like me. But for me there's something missing, or something wrong with them that just doesn't sit with me well. Then I start wondering why they're still single...and I think maybe it's because of that 'thing' that is bothering me. And maybe it bothers other girls too. That's how I came up with the whole 'there aren't anymore good people left...only the ones with 'things' wrong with them'. I dunno...I guess I'm just looking for some sort of explaination for my situation. And it's not really working.
If it's any consolation mm, by my own definition, I'm a reject too.
 
God you people are giving me a headache. Don't be so fucking self-critical. It's not getting you anywhere and is depressing to be around.
I can't speak for miss apple(if that is your real name) but if I hear anymore of that talk monkey I'm gonna punch you in the back of the head next time I see you out...
Now, be happier dammit!!!
;)
 
To the 25+ year old crowd who are "unhappily" single: Would you have done anything differently when you were 21-25?
Did you let the good ones get away or something? I understand your world naturally narrows as you get older, but if you were ever capable of attracting a nice "catch" (no pun intended), wouldn't you still be able to do so? You can regret missed opportunities, but if you at least had some missed chances, that means you will get more of 'em in the future.
What makes it harder as you get older? Most people are not permanently taken, just fluctuating between being taken and being available. The difference might be that when under 25 years old the relationships are shorter, and the over 25 age group has longer term relationships. But still.... I can appreciate the biological pressures of starting a family. But whatever hardship ~30 year old single women might face, would you really want to trade places with a girl who gave birth when she was 20? What about the pressures of that sort of choice? I'll take almost too late over too early.
What makes it easier for as you get older? Most importantly, you know who you are. You've seen the world and know where you stand. You know what you like and you know what you need. Further, you have probably dropped all the bullshit and know exactly how to compromise to please a partner. Young people always obsess on the silliest little negatives about their partners. Older people appreciate the strengths of their mate, and the mutual acceptance of flaws and boundaries makes things much clearer. Older people will also have their education out of the way and have their career on track.
So that is why this 28 year old guy is not worried about being single. (Note: As has been said in the other threads, I have not been looking for a girlfriend for ~30 months--although I've had two relationships during that period of time.) I don't consider myself a reject at all. Now if you will excuse me, I am going to eat some cheese puffs and play with my Fleshlight....
[ 31 July 2002: Message edited by: Catch-22 ]
 
Originally posted by miss apple:
there aren't anymore good people left...only the ones with 'things' wrong with them'.

I understand how you came up with that, i think we've all though along those lines before. I know I have and I'm only 21 (shows what a great view of guys I have). However, every person on this world has things wrong with them, it's just down to the people that choose to view it. There are things that I consider "relationship killers" that other girls don't really worry about.
The only real reason for your situation is that you're too picky ;) Jks.
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The difference might be that when under 25 years old the relationships are shorter, and the over 25 age group has longer term relationships.
Marriage and living together for 5 years are kinda long term, yes. This is entire point. The more that are snapped up, the less there are for singles to choose from. It bothers me that I meet people now who have been with their partners for years...which means they met when they were like 20. I would have killed my boyfriend by now if I had stuck with the one I had at 20.
But still.....I can appreciate the biological pressures of starting a family.
This is so not the point! It's not about kids.
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I dunno, I've always been of the opinion that once both people are over around about 21, age really means fuck all... I've met 30 year olds that have the maturity of a teenager, and 20 year olds that don't get along with others the same age because they relate much better to 30 year olds. It's all about 2 people who are on the same level getting together and forming a meaningful bond.
If you're after someone that's 27 and a half, 5'8", 65kg, brown hair, dark eyes, income range of $41,000 - 41,500, with a red car - well, you'll be looking for a long long time. :)
 
Ill be 25 in march.. theres not a lot I wouldnt change about the last few years and Im not the same person i was at 20 either.. and finding the right person for u takes time. I believe marriage should be for life. too many of my mates back home are already getting married and having kids they not even 25. several of them are already divorced. one married the first guy who'd have her...
theres not much i would change. I mean I havent met anyone I want to marry and father my children
yet..
rr: Im still good friends with all my ex boyfriends except my last. Most treated me very well thank you.
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If people are worried that there is only “rejects” left after the age of 25, date someone younger. There is always youngins coming up through the ranks.
I wouldn’t do that though. I don’t want to date a nice young girl. I want to date a WOMEN!
 
Russ: You want to date a female who is more than one woman? ...Freak! ;p
Apples: A good way to meet guys would be to start up a new job in a different state and make friends with a whole bunch of different people... *hint**hint* ;)
I think one of the problems with being 25+ and looking for a partner, is that many people think they've fully discovered who they are, and are less willing to make any changes for someone else, even if they're positive changes... Compromise is an important part of any relationship, and the chances are small that two people would mesh so well that no adjustments would need to be made...
Of course the good ones would be flexible, so you could just simplify all of that by sticking with 'the good ones are all taken' ;)
 
I mean I havent met anyone I want to marry and father my children
Ummmmm.. are you not telling us something here.... arent you a girlie :) ....... :)
Sydkiwi:... seriously... 25 is still young... most people today are getn married very old like 30 -35.. i'll be damed if im goin to grab the first guy that i last more then a month with, marry him and then wonder... hmmmm i wonder what it would be like if i had if done this and that...
hehehehe.... i think theres plenty of guys out there... you just gotta know where to look for them :)
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I'd highly recommend sunlight, good music, a notepad and pen and some self critical yet non abusive thought to anyone feeling crap about ANYTHING. Its amazing how good you feel.
My advice for today, take a step back from your life, realise what you're doing with your self criticism, lighten the fuck up. Nobody loves depressed hardcases who are determined to blame problems with NO apparent cause on themselves.
Which explains a lot of why I remain single, but moving right along. ;)
Really guys, just go out in the sun, take a breath of that smog filled air and taste the sunshine.
Your problems mean fuck all, if its not life threatening, its probably not that important. Kushti?
-plaz out-
 
^Sunlight?! ECH!! I don't know about that. (Shudders)
True tho. The fact is that the only person who really takes u seriously is u.
U can bitch and moan about ur problems til u the day u die (most ppl do) but the thing is, to the rest of the world, ur just another nagging voice.
 
just gotta say...the little laughing dude in Mirages post above^^ looks like me on nangs!!
horse anyone?
 
do internet girlfriends count?
I was gonna meet mine for the first time a while back but she was called away for a bikini photo shoot in Tahiti like the day before we were gonna meet. :( :(
oh well.
;)
 
I swear I have to stop reading this thread. I use it as a bit of an outlet but it's seriously doing my head in. There comes a point when you can just think waaaay too much.
 
Originally posted by Tarsarlan:
Russ: You want to date a female who is more than one woman? ...Freak! ;p
;)
Tarsy, you have never met me, but you have already got my number!
More then one women? Yes please!!! But my point is, that I would rather a women, then a 18-19 year old. No offence to any of you girls at that age, but there is a big difference between a 18yo and the type of person that I am looking for.
I’d take two of them as well, so thanks for the advice Tarsy.
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