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Bluelight Singles - from begining to end! don't we love the merge feature!

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geeeez i still reacon that blue water was the reason behind it alll :) or maybe even gurana :) :) :)
im still her and im proud to be single.... im afraid of commitment you see :) hell being single ROCKZ
 
I think its a case of "grass is always greener..." type scenario. I've been single for AGES, and believe me, you long for someone to be close to you.
I've read that heaps of people after long relationships don't want another one for ages, so that is why I posted that remark.
In the long term, I don't believe anybody wants to be alone.
Cheers,
OrbMan
 
I think its a case of "grass is always greener..." type scenario. I've been single for AGES, and believe me, you long for someone to be close to you.
OrbMan, that rings so true. So true.
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sure it sucks being alone. but its a tiring process of pain and hurt, opening up to someone and then being disappointed... reaching out to someone and the person's no longer there.
right now, its like a half-way thing for me, i try to but i can never really complete it, im holding myself back from being vulnerable to another person.
it doesnt even have to happen often, the most meaningful relationships have the potential for the most hurt.
a relationship shouldnt make u less "carefree" and have less "fun". i always thought a relationship complements and enhances, but we all know that already ;) some say its fun being single, how carefree it is... but in all honesty, i think that is only the case when u have things going on in ur life to occupy and distract. and the thought of being with someone gets pushed out of the way.
i dont wanna be alone, and i hate it, but im not about to find someone because *I* dont wish to be alone. so i just have to deal with it however i can.
and im tired.
 
Originally posted by Tarsarlan:
Apples: Nah that's not depressing... Depressing is never having been in a decent relationship at all...
I know what you mean. My longest relationship was 3 months.
I have never been in love. I am 24.
That's why I think when I do fall in love, that will be it, Marriage for me.
I can wait though.
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I'm not single..but my gf has gone overseas for 5 days and I miss her heaps. So I kinda what you guys are feeling at the moment.
Being alone sux. :(
 
I went out with my previous guy for over five years, and looking back on that time, at least two of those years I spent with him were because I was afraid of being single.
When I did finally break up with him I had just the best time, being able to do whatever I wanted for a change, going out with friends and just doing all the things you can only do when you're single.
While I am not single now, I really enjoyed that time by myself. It is easy for people both in and out of relationships to assume that anything is better than being single, but I realised that for me that is not true :)
 
Nezo: Techno Therapy is where its at. That's how I deal with it :)
I like looking through this thread - it's interesting.
It usually always ends up like this:
Been in a long relationship - happy to be single when it ends.
Not been in a relationship or with anyone for a long time - unhappy with the single life.
It seems to me that people just tire of each other and need to move on. This is a natural progression. We have so much freedom and choice these days that no-one ever wants to settle - we are always on the look-out for something "better".
And if we find that "special" someone, marriage is even more special than it was 30-40 years ago. From what I've seen, most older married couples aren't very happy - they really just got married because it was the thing to do, and they wanted a family (AND to escape from psycho Italian parents!!!) :)
My point is, be glad, whether you are single or hooked up, because eventually you will find someone you REALLY want to be with, and it will be forever...
Dan :)
 
Hey, might as well jump into the fray....
I won't pretend I've read the other eight threads, and don't know what to post about, so I will just explain why I am single and type a few random paragraphs concerning how I feel about it.
I'm single because I've been busy with other stuff! I've been a student and had a pretty unsettled existance compared to what most people would find desirable. I had one casual relationship with a girl for about eight months in 2000, and had a much closer involvement with another girl for roughly six months in 2001. I can honestly say I am not looking for a relationship right now because in the past 30 months I think I have asked only one girl for her phone number. The two actual relationships happened by chance.
I am 28 now and will probably begin dating later this year. I am fairly experienced with first dates (250 of 'em, give or take) so it is not "scary" for me to approach women and at least have a chance for conversation over dinner. I am a little concerned about being rusty at first, and I'm sure I'll have a couple awkward moments, but I have a good idea of who/what I am and I will get into the dating groove quickly.
My primary concern is that the dating "groove" will become a "rut." :\ I would like to date girls in the 25-31 year old range, and I wonder if there will be quality women available. I don't believe there is a specific soulmate waiting for me. More like some basic compatibility and then enough positive attributes to hold my interest, and hopefully I would be the same to her.
My second concern is about children. I definitely want a wife (in due time) but am about 50/50 on whether I want a family. For practical reasons, I definitely can not father children for 3-5 years. The available women in my age bracket either seem to want to have children ASAP or not at all. This is just a background concern...not pressing, but something that crosses my mind.
Am I ready for commitment? If the right girl came along after another six months, I think so. I have enough experience with different girls that I know what is out there and can appreciate the value of the right lady. Right now I would like something casual yet intimate, maybe a cross between the girlfriends of 2000 and 2001.
I have never been in love or said "I love you" to anyone. I miss the intimacy of having a steady girlfriend, but I honestly miss the sex the most right now. I am a sexual person and not getting laid since....August? :o ...is a big deal. But I also made the decision in late 1999 not to seek out casual sex, and I have managed to maintain that sometimes difficult commitment.
I still have some personal growth that I need to do, but it is at least manageable enough that I could be in a relationship and still address my personal goals simultaneously. That has definitely not been true in my past.
So, that's my ramble about why I am single and how I feel about being single.
 
^^^ In referring to your comment on "not purposly going out searching for casual sex" i SO UNDERSTAND! I admit ive both been used for it and have used others (who were using me too), and im completely sick of it! (casual relationships are the story of my life!!!!!!) It may sound contradictory or whatever, but when im with someone i like on more than a sexual level i dont like being too intamate with them initially because im scared im gonna do what i always do and brush them off (committment issues) and then it would be worse. ive done that to a 2 ppl on here... and plenty others. so i guess i just wanna push the fact is because i dont wanna hurt ppl more so i cut off the ties before they get started.
My last semi relationship which wasnt really a relationship but more casual sex was in february and since then ive decided i wont do it anym0re (the using factor on both parties). i dunno. this is pretty personal but i guess u guys know me ok enough now so yer hehe...
i do believe in there being someone out there for me... "soul mates"... and ill search till i find them :) and if i dont...well so be it, im a solitary person anyway ill be happy being my own soul mate. :)
 
Well, lets see. Single white male, 22, with a fetish for that little sprout you guys call mona. I enjoy moonlit walks on the beach, romantic dinners, and pornography. I love to travel. Theres nothing like wasting 12-15 hours of your life away every couple of months breathing recycled air on a cramped airline seat. Oh yeah, Im from America. Don't hold it against me.
I just want to be held.
 
mona might be all talk - but let me tell you a secret - she lacks something in bed ;) hehe
well catch 22 - I'm 28. not thinking about kiddies cause there's no point unless there's a loving boy around to father them. and I mean father them properly - investing time and effort into the children they sired. if that's not around, i'd rather do without. kids can grow up without one parent. but they're better off if they don't have to.
that's all getting a bit serious. all i ask is a boy who's single and interested in me. not too much to ask you'd think. sigh
PS there's quality women around in that age group. but are there quality men?
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Taliana said:
I do believe in there being someone out there for me... "soul mates"... and ill search till i find them and if i dont...well so be it, im a solitary person anyway ill be happy being my own soul mate.
Fucking word. I think I'm a loner and I always have been, I'm comfortable in my own company and used to being on my own for most of the time. That said, who doesn't want someone else to warm up their cold bed for more than one night? ;)
I hope there's someone out there for me, but hell, its not going to make me depressed that I haven't found them yet. I'm enjoying life. :)
-plaz out-
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