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Bluelight Singles - from begining to end! don't we love the merge feature!

I don't actively search in the sense I go out with the intention of picking up, I just keep my eyes open... to me "not looking" means not even trying to notice any signals and ignoring advances from people and stuff... I agree that you should be relaxed, but being relaxed and "not looking" are different things...
I don't think we disagree here, I think we just differ on the terminology a bit, that's all... :)
[ 21 May 2002: Message edited by: Pleonastic ]
 
yeah it's all about terminology here... there's a difference between 'looking' and being 'desperate'. There have been nights when I've gone out thinking damn, it'd be nice to meet someone, and have gone home disappointed, and then at other times they appear out of nowhere when I least expect it. But I was never 'not looking', I merely lowered my expectations somewhat :) . It's all about being open to meeting someone cool I guess, in a balanced, non desperate-type way...
*huggles Tarsy back* hehehe... I certainly wasn't expecting this one ;)
 
Being single isn't so bad.
Think about it.
You will spend most of your adult life in a marriage/relationship.
So why not enjoy the time you have to yourself. Live it up, becuase you won't be doing it forever.
Soon you will have a mortgage, wife/hubby, kids, etc...
Although getting laid every now and then would not hurt!!
 
Pleo: Yeah we weren't really disagreeing we were just wording it differently i guess... you can still keep your eyes open without like looking and concentrating on only that. Also agree with 2 of Cups post and Russ'.
God we will be married all of our adult life some of us... i mean if i get married it will HOPEFULLY be just the once... so if i was single now id be enjoying it immensley. It just happens natm i am not...
Runs back to couples thread. Sorry, ill stay out of this one now :)
[ 29 May 2002: Message edited by: Boppychick ]
 
Well I for one couldn't give a shit about being happy being single... Towards the end I was happy, but I'd much rather be happy in a good relationship/partnership (which may or may not happen some time soon, we'll havta wait and see)
And I have no intention of living my life to any lesser degree while in a relationship, your life doesn't have to change when you get a partner... Sure you need to think of them a good deal, but you don't have to completely re-organise your life for them... If you are doing so, then you're not doing it right... I know one particular married couple who have the right idea... You wouldn't even know they're married, and that's the way it should be as far as I'm concerned...
I would have absolutely no problem what-so-ever with spending the rest of my life with one special person (and of course our friends), if they were the kind of person with whom I could get along with for the rest of my life... Your life partner (wife/husband/whatever) should be your best friend, not just someone who wears your ring...
As for 'not looking', yeah I think we're all agreed... I wasn't actively looking when I ran into 2 of Cups, but as always I was aware of the possibility... Had no plans for her, but things worked out that way anyway... Of course it wasn't without some effort on both our parts ;)
[ 21 May 2002: Message edited by: Tarsarlan ]
 
IT'S ALL ABOUT THE SEX!
That's my comment for the day. If you're saying its not about the sex, you need to think again, sex is an ESSENTIAL ingredient in every real relationship.
And its the cause for a great many. ;)
AND I'M NOT GETTING ANY!
*growls*
*off to hunt for single girls*
-plaz out-
 
er.. um.. yup still single! though i *have* only existed in this thread since part 8, so i suppose that can't be too bad .. can it?
i do love being single, but it does lose a bit of its luxury after awhile :P
it doesn't help that my best friends are gallavanting around *totally* in love and driving me insane with all the mushy crap. i know i must've been like that when i was in love but PUHLEASE! ENOUGH ALREADY! just be happy that i'm happy for you but *try* not to rub it in my face!
i asked my flatmate the other night why i'm so impatient to be in a relationship, because i really don't know the answer. I don't think i'm close to being desperate but who the hell knows. It's only been five months.. its not that bad.. really *tears all the hair off her head off*
i also got the famous line "if you stop looking it will come to you.."
i'm sorry? if i stop looking? geez, if i stopped looking i wouldn't have the pleasure of perving. But anyway, i can see how you can stop looking, the longer you look, the more you get put down, the more wankers you meet, the more you get jaded, the more you just get sick of bloody looking!
rant over. *phew*
 
You would think with all these single people around, that "arent looking" so that they will find someone....that some of them might be able to hook up?
But I guess since noones "looking" then all of this would be going straight over everyones heads anyway?
 
I stoped looking a long time ago…. and I do think it’s true that when you stop looking someone will come along.
I want to remain single (as unnatural as some people think this is) but I’m starting to wonder if I should accept one of the invitations offered to me. Maybe then I’ll stop being so damn bitter about my friends putting me last and running off to be in their own little worlds all the freakin’ time. I’m really trying not to use the word “settle” here!
I just don’t want to miss the bus. You never know when they’ll go on strike.
 
Not looking doesn't mean stop perving, it means stop only wanting a relationship and being so worried about it, its only the people that go overboard with caring about it that really need to stop looking, the people who are consumed every day for thoughts and needs of someone to be there and i really dont think most people are like that... i just find that if i dont give a shit then time passes quicker and i have more fun and when someone does turn up it seems like its been no time at all.
Shit i have so gotta stop checking this thread, like anyone will believe me anyways, considering my status... eh, see ya.
 
I DID IT ALL FOR THE COOKIE *cmon* THE COOKIE *cmon* SO YOU CAN TAKE YOUR NOOKIE, AND STICK IT UP YOUR *yeah* STICK IT UP YOUR *yeah* STICK IT UP YOUR *yeah*!
 
Well I've been lurking in here since i joined BL (around the end of part 4) and I've been single for 3 years... almost as good as you Dante lol...
Before that i was in a 4 year long-distance realtionship with someone that had never even been in this country... a very interesting situation seeing as while i was here i was "technically" single in that i didnt have someone physically with me (yes we communicated all the time thru email etc) but essentially i could go out or whatever without having to consider someone else...
But the thing is, when i went over to see her, i was on holidays and she was on uni holidays. We could spend all our time together and not worry about juggling our relationship with uni or work or anything else (ie 'normal' life).
Tho we prolly spent a total of 6 months actually physically together out of the 4 years....
Which means I'm pretty used to being single... It doesnt mean I dont want a realtionship, it just means i'm content with me, the music, and everything in my life.
Tho a relationship definately wouldn't hurt (maybe.. LOL :D ) or a good hug....
It IS all good :)
 
I think the *not looking* thing does work.. But you have to be *not looking*.. not just saying.. ohh I'm single and not looking.. When in fact your trying to pick up the next bit of T & A that walks past.
I'll use one of my many examples ;)
In surfers last year, in one of those many sleezy clubs they have there on Cavall. Dance floor is pack and around every female is a circle of sleazy guys trying to pick her up, going for grabs and all.. I'm just in a world of my own dancing to the music, when all of a sudden this fine chic comes up to me and starts kissing me! :D I'm like what was that for and she's like.. well all those guys are pissing me off majorly and I need to look like I was with someone so they would leave me alone, and you seem to be the only guy here not looking for a root... ;)
and well yes, I got my own later for *not looking*
and we all lived happliy ever after...
 
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