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Cohaa,

Your head is a mess, so I'll give you nothing to analyse or interpret. Do one or all of the following things.

1) Get some antidepressants, they also work for anxiety. Paroxetine is good, aropax or prozac.

2) Munch a shite load of Valerian tablets before going out to meet girls in public (like 6g of Valerian)

3) Just make a point of going out regularly to a bar, with friends if they want to come, you're allowed to invite them on your own initiative, and just sit there the entire night seething with anxiety or not. Just keep exposing yourself to that atmosphere. Make some fumbled attempts. Hate yourself for it, keep posting self-defeating stuff, but just keep going and exposing yourself to the atmosphere.

4) goto rsvp.com and have a look, or other personals sights.

5) don't reply to this post with more analytical mumbo jumbo.

There's a quote I've got for you, "What we see is largely determined by what we look for" being a computer programmer you should have some understanding of this.

:):) I like you and all, I've been through stages in my life very similar to yours, and the only thing that will get you out is reality. Nothing else will work.
 
I never thought i'd say this, but

YOU NEED TO THINK LESS

Seriously, from my experience it is far too easy to think yourself into a hole and you make problems out of things that aren't problems. You begin to define and become too fucking analytical of yourself and your situation before falling into a mess of confusion.

Do you smoke weed? If not, maybe you should - it seems that more than anything you need to chill out. You seem stressed. Perhaps meditation?
Take a holiday, go backpacking or something. Switch up this situation.

Just stop fucking thinking about it and, be cool.

Easier said that done, but i think you've got more than enough solid advice from this thread to send you on your way to slacken your strings, relax and become a happier person.

Finding a woman is not your issue. The relationship problem evidently seems to be caused by deeper issues within and you seem to think that finding someone else will help you with these problems - it won't.

Repeat: Relax, don't take life so seriously, THiNGS BECOME A PROBLEM WHEN YOU MAKE THEM ONE.

Peace and Good Luck Cohaa :)

Adikkal
 
nah.. man Cohaagen isnt an anti depressants case... IMHO

the last thing he needs is a i dunno, whatever attitude
 
hey hey, ok, i kno this is a drug discuson formom message board kinda place... what ever u want to call it allright?! but seriously, like backo said Cohaagen isnt an anti depressants case...

find a hobby... take up ballet or something dude!

yoga, swimming, boy scouts?! for fucks sake i dunno... just find something to do... find something ur passionate about... dont jsut tatke more drugs like certain ppl are suggesting *looks in the general direction of xxuxx*. Find something to "ignite your passsion" and like somebody further up the thread said actors go out with actors musos with musos... theatre geeks like me with theatre geeks... u kno, its science...

maybe if u take up ballet ull find a nice little ballet girlie wholl like u for what u are. not what the dude on anti-depressants, and shit loads of Valerian and god knows what else is....

get a hobby and see what happens, and then even if u dont find the girl of ur dreams, ull have a rewarding situation where ur doing something benefitcal (sp?) for urself!

peace
 
yeah... get a hobby, but nothing too fruity... I still wanna hang out with u.

I just think meeting people in groups is always a fun way to get to know others. Also gives u a chance to mask the fact u are looking at their clevage rather than their face.

did i mention i was still single =D
 
I wouldn't advise smoking weed to help with anxiety issues (which this could very well be).

There are various techniques to deal with anxiety. From simple breathing exercises to meditation.

And also to do what other people have recommended on this thread - go out, meet new people and just enjoy yourself.

Personally I think I might have repressed anxiety buried under layers of apathy but that's for another thread ;)
 
yeah... i don't really need medication to sort me out... i'm feeling better already... i'm my own worst enemy and these feeling are my own fault so really it will pass... but if i can get some of how i feel out maybe somebody out there will empathise with me and i might be able to help somebody.

:)

i am in search for a hobby right now... i need an outlet or something. i'm thinking maybe photography or piano... something that can focus me and introduce me to like-minded people, not that i haven't been introduced to like-minded people here... :)

Blossom : ur right... birds of a feather flock together... that's what i want to do... the things that appeal to me... but in a social way... hard being because i really enjoy programming and making computer games... how to do this socially is the hurdle. but i also do enjoy arthouse movies and formula one and trance and classical music... there is lots i really enjoy.

backo : believe it or not dude... i think the sexiest part of a woman is her mind, with the eyes and face coming a close second. the human body is nowadays a marketing tool, and really when the lights are out it feels good either way, when you're that close to somebody you don't worry about how their body looks, just how it feels, and how looking into their eyes and the expressions on their face and their voice makes you feel.

i dunno... :\

anyhoo... gotta find a hobby... maybe i'll make that economy simulator i've been dreaming of...

Cohaa.
 
maybe i'll make that economy simulator i've been dreaming of...
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Now there's a SEXY thought!!! ;)

I think that photography is probably the best of the suggestions you've made my friend... i mean - you have the money, drive and flare to succeed in that field... plus you'll meet lots of *interesting people*...
 
Ahh, photography. Let me tell you about photography and meeting people....

Actually, no, I've spent far too long in this thread as it is and I have work to do. But what a GREAT idea for you Cohaa. Go get a cheapie digital and start snapping. You will not believe how many people you meet, the opps it brings to express your creative side and it'll give you something other to do at raves, besides ingesting chemicals (although together they work pretty well too, sometimes!). And you can begin with no experience whatsoever and learn as you snap!

If you want advice, private message me and I'll help you all I can with contacts and getting started (I've been doing it for more than 4 years, privately and commercially and am currently shooting freelance for Ministry Magazine).

:D
 
Adikkal said:


YOU NEED TO THINK LESS

Seriously, from my experience it is far too easy to think yourself into a hole and you make problems out of things that aren't problems. You begin to define and become too fucking analytical of yourself and your situation before falling into a mess of confusion.

Do you smoke weed? If not, maybe you should - it seems that more than anything you need to chill out.


Adikkal
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I think far too much.... and the only time a relax is when stoned... although sometimes it makes me think even harder and it sux. I'm also free from thinking when im on E, thats a big factor why i do it.
 
sydkiwi : or both? qigong + lsd = nice ;)

cohaa: yeh someone said join rsvp.com.au or whatever,.. some kind of online dating thing would be good for you.
you m ight find someone just like you ;) or to your tastes anyway.
 
Cohaa, something for you to think about: Nice guys finish last!

Of all the guys I've dated, the ones that last the longest are the ones I've got to work for. Nice guys are too easy to keep and the novelty wears off.

It's all about the chase :o)
 
heh

so the key for him might be, treat his woman like shit when he gets one - she'll love his badass!

and perhaps another tip would be to learn Thai ;)
 
nice guys finish last? well then i guess i'll finish last... i'm not gonna become a dickhead just to get a girl. i want somebody to love me for who i am and i'm not gonna play a political game to get it. for me its about being true to myself.

good things come to those who wait. i think rather than playing hard to get and using the old adage "treat 'em mean, keep 'em keen" i might just stand back for a while and do my thing, maybe let them come to me for a change.

PS : the girl i'm currently interested in, i met thru online dating sorta thing. its not just a random girl, and the more i get to know her the more i feel good about it. we'll see how it goes :)

PPS : i was scoping a bit today for good photography stuff. i did do it in year 10... i'm thinking of doing some b&w stuff and setting up a darkroom, getting an SLR camera and a big zoom lens and a proper exposure room to do all the development. a short course would be a good idea. :)

Cohaa.
 
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^^ lol, you silly boy... SO it'll be like Sims all over again then hey?

...and yeah, bad taste... ;)

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I thought you may appreciate this Cohaa, i stole it off DJC... :)

"love is like a shadow, it runs away when you chase it and it will chase you if you run away from it"
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Cohaa: your a lovely guy and dont listen to these guys.

Id rather date a nice guy who treats me properly over a guy who either physically or mentally abuses me.
 
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