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Bluelight Singles - from begining to end! don't we love the merge feature!

Here's a thought...

A philosopher known as the philospher of love from the 1800's believed we have no choice but to fall in love as it is our biological fate.
We are slaves to life and we subconciously fall in love, not for happiness (as we try to tell ourselves) but for the reproduction of the species.

We subconciously know which person will make an ideal co-parent to produce healthy offspring.
For example, my parents obviously didn't marry for happiness, although all their children are much smarter and better looking than them LOL. And my friends parents did marry for happiness and my friend was born with 6 fingers.

We deny that reproduction is our reason for picking up, as we don't want to take on the responsibility for the next generation. We do it all subconciously and happiness was never really part of the plan.

If you get dumped or rejected it simply means nature wasn't happy with the combination, and the person who dumped you thinks they would be better off with someone else.
Seems to make sense to me. Maybe i'm just jaded. Your thoughts? Experiences?
 
^^^ Arhuh.

Also what about couples who meet and both of them do not want children?

Reproduction is a strong urge but definitely not the only one.
 
^^ on that topic what do you guys think of dating girls with kids aleady..ie single mums like myself (i'm not asking people to date me just opinions hehehe)

i started a thread in slr called 'milfs' if you want ti have a read for those who don't visit it ...

are single mums so threatning? *shrugs*

pussies :p
 
doofqueen: im going ot turn ur question around so i can answer it...do i find guys with kids attractive?

i think guys with kids are to some degree attractive. i myself really aint into kids right now...just a stage of life...but if a kid is part of the package then so be it :) a child shouldnt be used as a pawn in a relationship or even into trying to get one...its sad when that happens but its true. :|
 
oh yeah i was going to ask the same for the girls about single dads etc but i think its kinda different because girls in general tend to like kids (not that guys don't but u know what i mean ...i hope)

i have dated two guys with kids myself and when you have one of your own it gets kinda complicated

i am in no way sayiing i use my child to get a date though... its by far the opposite really :p

although i must admit that the guys i have dated are ones that are worthwhile dating because they have accepted that i have a child and only the ones that are worth dating have taken it all on...

i hope i'm making sense...i'm kinda drunk
 
* slinks back into thread* Long distance relationships sux....:(

My ex twice removed had a five year old son, that he had custody with every second week. Jeremy (his son) it wasn't ever an issue, in fact the depth and perspective that only having a child can give, made my ex very attractive. That an the fact we always had an great excuse to act like a little kids:)
 
^^^^^ *@&$^@*$&^ what??? :( *hugs 4 noc chick*

Not good news chicklette, not at all! Hope ya doing alright...
 
I think another major reason is the desire to be accepted, to be cared about by someone else. Most young people dont get into relationships because of their need to replenish the human race, I find thats generally left for the older women looking for "a good father for my children". Most do it because they want to feel accepted by someone else, to know that they arent alone.

[Note:] I'm not really sure if that came over as I had hoped. I know what I mean to say but once I've written it down I can just see that a few people will take what I've said the wrong way. I apologise if it does, it wasnt meant that way. :)

stace.
 
Well Im single have been for about a year and getting over it now. I always have fun still, it just sucks for the other times when someonw would be good, hugs and stuff.
What I am sort of looking for at the moment is a female that is single, has to be fun, someone that doesn't need drugs to make them happy and fun, attractive, obviercely loves the scene and that can be Kandy raver style or Doof Doof I love em both, yeah the big emphasis(spelling) is on fun.

The thing is I usually find one or the other 1. a fun girl to be with but hates the scene and won't come out or someone I meet while out and is only fun to be with when they are out and off there guts because they go too hard for too long and comedown for half the week.

I have met some awesum chicks that I still have hopes for the future but thats if or when they decide to tone things down a bit. Don't get me wrong I still party hard, just over the weekly drug binges.
 
Technically I am single.. though I have managed to find myself as the "cheatee" to a girl who already has a boyfriend.

Just casual at the mo, though i foresee things getting very messy not too far ahead.

Not the best situation to be in whatsoever and I hate being the "cheatee" but this is one cool chick who I get along with really well. I know I am in the wrong but I could not bear to pull away even if thats "whats best".

Ah well at least 1 day a week I get to pretend I am not single...

*eagerly awaits the barrage of the "You bastard! that hussy!" style responses*
 
^^^ Why bother?

I really can't be bothered judging people in adulterous situations. There's more than enough shit to worry about than get righteously indignant over somebody else's business.
 
I dont see being single as affecting anything in my life

Im happy

Im independent

I have a great bunch of friends, so that makes up a lot of the being single boredom factor- never a need or chance to be bored when u have great friends surrounding you.

I just dont see the point in having a boyfriend for the sake of having a boyfriend- sure ive had many opportunities- but if i dont connect with them completely and if i cant seem to see im going to give myself wholly to them, i dont tend to take it any further..

and im picky :):) but hey...such is life.
 
Shnouzerpuff: Having been on the recieving end of a cheater on a number of occasions, don't you feel that if you think she is right for you, that you should be the man and take a step back and wait for her??? I don't really know your situation, so i can't comment, but from a personal view, if someone is worth that much to you, they are worth waiting for.

:\

DJC*
 
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