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Bluelight Singles - from begining to end! don't we love the merge feature!

Well,

It's coming up to a month that I have been single now. The termination of a 16 month connection isn't meant to be easy, twas and continues to be tough, with little things constantly triggering reactions of thought.

Being "single" (the irony of " " as opposed to ' ' confounds me) has certainly it's strong points. I am beginning to remember what it was that I enjoyed, and my quality of life (to some extent) has risen. As a friend described my new attitude, "It's like you want to take life and suck all the marrow and juicy goodness out of it." Well, I guess it does feel sorta like that. Carpe Diem, My Captain, Carpe Diem.

I have begun a journey in which I know I am not alone, but where doeth it taketh me? ... *shrugs*. I'm happy at the moment, and that's all that counts. If anyone just so happens to jump on my path, I have apple juice, skittles and fluffy little pink watermelons that sing in the rain.

(That last one is subject to availability)
 
Re: You guys!

Hey everyone itsa me spazz, forum noobie and friend of Aussieraver and Bopgirl!

/me jumps into sugarponys' way... =D

Those of you who wants know about the dating game or find it hard to develope a relationship with the opposite sex or even the people around you, try a self development site called Psych Self-Help. I have found it very very useful in dealing with life to life situations.

Hope i havnt broken any forum rulz...cioa!
 
sugarpony - that's the exciting thing about being single - you don't know where the next day is going to take you, there's alot more surprises and it's alot of fun, so make sure you enjoy it while it lasts.

Fluffy Lil Pink Watermelons Please!!! :)

welcome spaz!
 
i was wondering...

does anybody feel that they are in capable of having a relationship?

i mean this in the sense that the last couple of girls that i have met i feel that ...analytically, we should be getting on very well, but for some reason we just arent. there are silly silences, and its seems that we have no basis for either a friendship let alone a relationship.

is this normal, does this happen to anyone else here, or is it a sign that is something about my persona. im not sure how to define it, but quite simply i am bored with people and it would be true to say the other person would find me (our relationship) boring also after about 2 weeks.
 
Papermate: Sometimes I think Im destined to be single. My longest relationship went for a year and that was over 3 years ago. Ever since Ive gone thru long periods of being single and having short relationships of no longer than 3 months.
 
I have come to the conclusion and back to the mental state (before the last guy broke my heart and i was still pining for him) that i like being single =D

edit...sorry stoned...had to fix he wording (somewhat) lol
 
^^^ for the time being, I like being single too. In fact I relaised about a week ago that I am happiest when I am free with my time. I havent been happy - like I feel now, content with everything in life and positive- in just about one and a half years, and that was before I met the ex bf. Then i was happy for a month or 3 but.... Granted it was probably the person I was with, and not the fact that being with somebody makes me unhappy, but seeing as thats the only thing I know, and that i am happy now who cares!
Yes, I'll get lonely, need physical affection and intimacy but I'll cope with it I guess.
Who knows what I am trying to say...
 
Spazz ... you read books on how to have relationships? I just use the "prac" idea :)

After enough prac work, full-time work will fly my way hopefully!
 
...I've been biding my time and thinking...

I've been pretty freaking quiet in this thread since last year, upon re-entry. No longer.

I keep saying I'm happy being single. It's bullshit.

I'm happy because I have a great group of friends who I spend time with, and I get most of the companionship I need from them.
At the same time, I find being by myself is not enjoyable. When I'm not around friends, I find myself getting irritable and frustrated, usually turning to the inter-web for release.

Companionship is so important to me. I like having people around. Girlfriends tend to stick around. Hmm... am I after a girlfriend then?

It seems that way. BUT, I'm gonna be a picky motherfucker about it as well.

I've gotta feel comfortable around them. That's a definate.

I've gotta be able to spend time with my friends away from her, and as harsh as it might sound, she should be able to understand that. And she should be able to spend time with her friends as well, as opposed to clinging to me 24/7.

And she's gotta take me for who I am. This is it. Nothing more, nothing less.

SO. What is it that I'm looking for then? Is this a girlfriend?
This, I'm not sure of. But what I am sure of is what I'm not after.

What I'm not looking for is something where I feel like I can't be myself. And that's what's happened in the past, most probably due to my own stupid mind telling me that I can't do it. And that's what I continue to think will happen. Which again, is bullshit.

In other words, I've been a stupid fucken' idiot, because I've told myself that because of events in the past, the future is already dictated for me.

This is ludicrous. Goddamn, if people show interest in me, I'm gonna follow it up! I'm gonna talk to people, throw myself out there.

And if they aren't interested in the person that I am, then they can SUCK MY DICK (metaphorically speaking, unless they are exceedingly keen to ;)).
 
*ducks head in quickly*

Bang dante, you've hit the nail on the head! Power to you my fellow man :)

*runs back out of thread*
 
yeah dante all i can say is that if she is the right girl for you then she will want to spend time with her friends etc...but dont look for these things just go out and have a good time, thats when you are most likely to fall upon someone, when you least expect it :D

hehe ok yeah so i will shuddup.....all i have to say is, as this is a singles thread....i am single
 
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Dante said:
I've gotta be able to spend time with my friends away from her, and as harsh as it might sound, she should be able to understand that. And she should be able to spend time with her friends as well, as opposed to clinging to me 24/7.
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I think this is very similar to me but I also think its also an excuse. I have little time free some time and I feel that I like to spend it around my friends because its kinda like I can see them now and again and it doesnt affect my relationship with them. I think its the general feeling that once u get a relationship... u are joint at the hip and u never see your friends... which I think is true in a number of cases.

But I remain quietly confident that many girls are independent and dont need to have some around 24/7. But many times what keeps me out of looking for relationships is that if i do get a girlfriend I give up my abilty to hang around my friends as much... or if I see my friends its Backo + one and therefore I cant have the I dont care what these people reckon attitude. But in quiet reflection I think this is an excuse... but still makes me screen potentials a lot more..

Bluelighters such as Euphoric Bliss will back me up by saying I am the most indecisive person ever... Ill be chatting to someone and be at that point where its like this is going to happen... and ill pull out cause I get these stupid things coming into my head... and so ill back out... hehe usually causing a weird vibe between me and the potential lol...

but yes i know exactly how u feel.
 
Loneliness is just a part of being human. We are social creatures but we are also individual creatures - we don't live in a hive mind.

Never been in a relationship and don't really want one at the moment (other commitments, do not think I am ready to commit to one). I have a few friends whom I treasure deeply and I do not mind being alone - because in the end, we *are* alone (though if I develop some sort of telepathy I'll be sure to share it ;) )
 
hey backo.......yeah you are indecisive :) but yu are like me, to a dgree you like to keep your options open.... its human nature

but as i said to dante i think that if the girl is right for you then she will want to spend time with friends......like i am the kind of girl who couldnt stand just sitting at home with a boy and not seeing friends.......eg gogs and daniel....i couldnt do it....so therefore the kind of guy i would be suited to is a guy who likes to spend time with his friends.....so yeah in essence i just think when the right person comes along we will know it :) and each party will do their own thing etc, it will just work :) *or so i keep dreaming* lol

*hugs and kisses*
follow your bliss
 
Insane Platypus said:
I have a few friends whom I treasure deeply and I do not mind being alone
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Total agreement with u there dude. You are indeed one of those people for me. Same with Euphoric *gets all mushie*

But yeah was wondering what is the general consensus with having a partner who u would see on a fortnighty basis?

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Edit: im not a postwhore at least in social... and no Platypus is not a postwhore.... yet... I have promised Kitty to keep my ramblings at least in this thread to a minimum and on topic :)
 
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hmm sorry babes a fortnight is too long in my opinion....but then again if your lives are busy it could work...i dont know, could work. i mean i guess i only see you on a fortnightly basis, lol but we talk heaps, so *shrugs* i guess it depends on the individuals and their lifestyles?! hehe


p.s. is platypus a posting whore like u backo?
 
Backo said:
Total agreement with u there dude. You are indeed one of those people for me. Same with Euphoric *gets all mushie*

But yeah was wondering what is the general consensus with having a partner who u would see on a fortnighty basis?
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Awwwww *feel the love*. Same :)

About the second one, it could work. I'll let you know when I try it out ;) Though many people (especially earlier on in the relationship) would want to spend a lot more time together than that. Depends how conventional you and your partner are feeling I suppose.
 
Backo said:
But yeah was wondering what is the general consensus with having a partner who u would see on a fortnighty basis?
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Couldn't do it, unless it was a fuck aquaintance... like, a person you had just decided to fuck, and there wasn't a real friendship there.

And it's not post whoring if it's on topic! ;)
 
I suppose if u truely liked someone u would make time to see them hey....? but then it all goes back to cutting your friends out.... I will now open the floor and leave this conversation.

*talk amongst yourselves*
 
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