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Bluelight Singles - from begining to end! don't we love the merge feature!
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miss apple
Bluelighter
I completely and totally understand.Taliana said:
the main bad thing about being single is trying to explain to every second person who asks you 'why don't you have a boyfriend?' that it's because you really don't care that much.. and occasionally then having to put up with their lecture on why you should care, and why every woman needs a man in her life, and this and that and the other...
as if to say that you should take the first person that comes along and hope for the best??
as if to say that you should take the first person that comes along and hope for the best??
CHiLD-0F-THE-BEAT
Bluelighter
Eloise, amen sister.
I can think of nothing more stupid than people with dependency issues, basically making do with what they come across.
Simply because that was me a matter of months ago.![:\](https://bluelight.org/xf/BL_Images/Orig_Emoji/wrygrin.gif "wry grin :\")
I can think of nothing more stupid than people with dependency issues, basically making do with what they come across.
Simply because that was me a matter of months ago.
doofqueen
Bluelighter
my nan keeps telling me i need to find a nice boy to get married to. I said to her "what is a husband going to do that i can't do for myself?" she couldn't even answer that 
miss slingshot
Bluelighter
Just when you think you know someone, and they know you equally well, they let loose with compleatly obnixious comments such as "What you really need is a sugar daddy", WTF!!!!
The especially disturbing part was that this same comment came from my mother AND one of my close friends - why the fuck can't people just butt the hell out of people's love lives - if another person tells me what i need man wise i'm going to start inflicting serious injuries!!
What is especially distrubing is trying to figure out what made them think i need/ want a sugar daddy in the first place
What makes a perpetually unhappy divorcee and girl who had been cheated on by every single one of her boyfriends such an authority on the whole dating game?!?
Sorry about that lil rant ppl, i'm just so over un asked for advice
The especially disturbing part was that this same comment came from my mother AND one of my close friends - why the fuck can't people just butt the hell out of people's love lives - if another person tells me what i need man wise i'm going to start inflicting serious injuries!!
What is especially distrubing is trying to figure out what made them think i need/ want a sugar daddy in the first place
What makes a perpetually unhappy divorcee and girl who had been cheated on by every single one of her boyfriends such an authority on the whole dating game?!?
Sorry about that lil rant ppl, i'm just so over un asked for advice
Cosmic Mist
Bluelighter
^^^ WHat you need to do is....
Heh heh just kidding...
i KNow what it's like to be constantly told that you need to find a man. FOr as long as i can remember my grandma has been on at me aboutthis - especially when i was with a girl... what's worse, no one ever believed that i was going out with her... and still don't apparently (WTF???)
you know what i'm over? Having people constantly tell me that they don't believe me when i tell them who i am. WHy can't people accept that withouthaving to question it - is that so fucking hard???
Heh heh just kidding...
i KNow what it's like to be constantly told that you need to find a man. FOr as long as i can remember my grandma has been on at me aboutthis - especially when i was with a girl... what's worse, no one ever believed that i was going out with her... and still don't apparently (WTF???)
you know what i'm over? Having people constantly tell me that they don't believe me when i tell them who i am. WHy can't people accept that withouthaving to question it - is that so fucking hard???
Raz
Bluelighter
I am SO not reading the last 6 million pages of this thread, but in true bl style I thought I'd jump in anyways... 
I'm single and lovin it at the moment...if a guy came along I wouldn't turn him away, but I'm really enjoying being on my own and exploring the world with my own independence etc...
It's funny because I just read an old thread I wrote earlier this year where I was whining about being single, and I've done a complete about face....I think when people are pining away for a partner, they're really saying they're insecure. I know that was true for me at the time anyway.
Anywho, just thought I'd throw in my two cents worth...carry on. %)
--Raz--
I'm single and lovin it at the moment...if a guy came along I wouldn't turn him away, but I'm really enjoying being on my own and exploring the world with my own independence etc...
It's funny because I just read an old thread I wrote earlier this year where I was whining about being single, and I've done a complete about face....I think when people are pining away for a partner, they're really saying they're insecure. I know that was true for me at the time anyway.
Anywho, just thought I'd throw in my two cents worth...carry on. %)
--Raz--
Cosmic Mist
Bluelighter
Tali: I've just had some people in more recent times confront me and tell me that my bisexuality was "just a fad" because i am currently seeing a man... but that's what bisexuality is - an attraction or altenation between the both! :x Stupid people! 8)
Yeah that is pretty annoying cosmic!
Something a friend said to me the other day at the doof i was at:
You can be attracted to your friends (people of the same sex) and sometimes you don't know whether your attracted to them physically, or just attracted to them because you love their personality... and that sometimes it is hard to establish whether or not it is a proper attraction, physical or not, or just emotional. It confuses me.
I found this a really interesting point, because i AM attracted to some of my friends, both girls and guys, and i always thought, yeah, i could maybe be with her, or him or whatever, but it has made me think now, maybe it is just their personality??
I like both girls and guys... but i suppose, how do you distinguish whether or not what you think is attraction is just attraction to their "friendship", or is it sexual?
Something a friend said to me the other day at the doof i was at:
You can be attracted to your friends (people of the same sex) and sometimes you don't know whether your attracted to them physically, or just attracted to them because you love their personality... and that sometimes it is hard to establish whether or not it is a proper attraction, physical or not, or just emotional. It confuses me.
I found this a really interesting point, because i AM attracted to some of my friends, both girls and guys, and i always thought, yeah, i could maybe be with her, or him or whatever, but it has made me think now, maybe it is just their personality??
I like both girls and guys... but i suppose, how do you distinguish whether or not what you think is attraction is just attraction to their "friendship", or is it sexual?
Like raz, i thought i'd jump in here as well 
goddamn girls can be annoying at times! (not all, but some)
a long story short, i was led on by a girl (and to some extent her friends) for a period of 3 or 4 weeks.. being the slightly "shyer" guy when it comes to this sorts of things, and being a bit out of practice.. i organise to meet up with her after one of her dance (*grin*) performances... the night comes and she still hasn't called me 1/2 hour after she was meant to.. i send a message, and receive in reply an excuse that she was too tired (fair enough i guess, it was her 4th night in a row) and that we would have to meet up another time.
i give her a call the following week and ask her along to a friend's dj set in the city.. the same sort of arrangement ensues, and once again, on the night i am left without a phone call. i try calling.. no answer. bah. i send another message asking if she was still coming out.. to which she replied, "no, i'm spending the night with my boy"
siiiiiiiiiiiiiiiigh
single life can be so frustrating some times.. (in more ways than one :D)
goddamn girls can be annoying at times! (not all, but some)
a long story short, i was led on by a girl (and to some extent her friends) for a period of 3 or 4 weeks.. being the slightly "shyer" guy when it comes to this sorts of things, and being a bit out of practice.. i organise to meet up with her after one of her dance (*grin*) performances... the night comes and she still hasn't called me 1/2 hour after she was meant to.. i send a message, and receive in reply an excuse that she was too tired (fair enough i guess, it was her 4th night in a row) and that we would have to meet up another time.
i give her a call the following week and ask her along to a friend's dj set in the city.. the same sort of arrangement ensues, and once again, on the night i am left without a phone call. i try calling.. no answer. bah. i send another message asking if she was still coming out.. to which she replied, "no, i'm spending the night with my boy"
siiiiiiiiiiiiiiiigh
single life can be so frustrating some times.. (in more ways than one :D)
PsychoKitten
Bluelight Crew
^^^ that sucks.
Single again, and not looking for a long time.
I've decided relationships are too much hassle and I have better things to do with my time.
Single again, and not looking for a long time.
I've decided relationships are too much hassle and I have better things to do with my time.
BREAKaBEAT
Ex-Bluelighter
doofqueen said:my nan keeps telling me i need to find a nice boy to get married to. I said to her "what is a husband going to do that i can't do for myself?" she couldn't even answer that
oral sex ?
BREAKaBEAT
Ex-Bluelighter
Jubas said:Like raz, i thought i'd jump in here as well
goddamn girls can be annoying at times! (not all, but some)
a long story short, i was led on by a girl (and to some extent her friends) for a period of 3 or 4 weeks.. being the slightly "shyer" guy when it comes to this sorts of things, and being a bit out of practice.. i organise to meet up with her after one of her dance (*grin*) performances... the night comes and she still hasn't called me 1/2 hour after she was meant to.. i send a message, and receive in reply an excuse that she was too tired (fair enough i guess, it was her 4th night in a row) and that we would have to meet up another time.
i give her a call the following week and ask her along to a friend's dj set in the city.. the same sort of arrangement ensues, and once again, on the night i am left without a phone call. i try calling.. no answer. bah. i send another message asking if she was still coming out.. to which she replied, "no, i'm spending the night with my boy"
siiiiiiiiiiiiiiiigh
single life can be so frustrating some times.. (in more ways than one :D)
What a bitch for not being straight with and blowing you off a few times, then use the excuse she is seeing someone !!
You should fuck her up good. Girls like that need a lesson not to be so stupid and inconsiderate :D
Insane Platypus
Bluelighter
BREAKaBEAT said:oral sex ?
If you're flexible, you can do it yourself!
*nervous cough*
doofqueen
Bluelighter
BREAKaBEAT said:oral sex ?
hahaha ok you have me there, gotta love that!
Tal...i know what your saying about the attraction to both genders and to friends personalities, i feel the same way but my personaly belief with that is that personality does make someone more physically and ssexually attractive anyway, love has no gender or colour etc
i'm attracted to most people, it's ridiculous. sitting with my friends, every 5 minutes i'm jumping up to have a look at the latest person walking past. especially with girls, there's always *something* to look at...
("BEN! LOOK! SHE'S NOT WEARING A BRA!" is a common one)
it's just a matter of meeting someone who actually retains that appeal, which is so so rare!
("BEN! LOOK! SHE'S NOT WEARING A BRA!" is a common one)
it's just a matter of meeting someone who actually retains that appeal, which is so so rare!
Doof- yeah but i dont think u totally got what i said, or i dont think i worded it properly.
Of course personality can overcome personal appearance, im nowhere shallow enough to deny that, but thats not what i was talking about.
Im talking about, being attracted to some people purely for their personality, not as a "relationship" type of attraction. Like, there would be people i would thing, yeah, i could be with them, but as a RELATIONSHIP, i dont think it would work. Like, i LOVE their personality/appearence or whatever, and i think fuck yeh that would be nice to be with them, but it could be just being attracted to their "person", not actually them for a relationship.
Hard to explain.
Of course personality can overcome personal appearance, im nowhere shallow enough to deny that, but thats not what i was talking about.
Im talking about, being attracted to some people purely for their personality, not as a "relationship" type of attraction. Like, there would be people i would thing, yeah, i could be with them, but as a RELATIONSHIP, i dont think it would work. Like, i LOVE their personality/appearence or whatever, and i think fuck yeh that would be nice to be with them, but it could be just being attracted to their "person", not actually them for a relationship.
Hard to explain.
Cosmic Mist
Bluelighter
tali: i get what you're saying there - i understand completely too. I mean, i have been attracted to a lot of my friend at one time or another, and i have thought that i could be with them. Of course this is something that doesn't happen, and often it passes. The attraction remains as always, but the desire to be with them does not.
I know within myself who and what i am though, which is why i find being told i'm not really attracted to women a bit hurtful. It's as though they aren't acknowledging a big part of me, and because i'm currently with a man, they assume that the "fad" is over... UGH! 8)
The way i look at it, it's just like being biilingual. I speak french and english. Currently i am speaking english. This doesn't mean i don't speak frenchalso, it's just that i choose not to at this point in time. I guess some people just fail to understand this.
Bah!
I know within myself who and what i am though, which is why i find being told i'm not really attracted to women a bit hurtful. It's as though they aren't acknowledging a big part of me, and because i'm currently with a man, they assume that the "fad" is over... UGH! 8)
The way i look at it, it's just like being biilingual. I speak french and english. Currently i am speaking english. This doesn't mean i don't speak frenchalso, it's just that i choose not to at this point in time. I guess some people just fail to understand this.
Bah!