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Bluelight Fuck Buddies (singles part XXIII)

fat chicks are better in bed hey? id have to agree with ya there ;) hahahahaha nah it is actually about body acceptance and being comfortable with urself to be able to let go and get totally into it hehehehe ummmm not that im fat or anything im just a curvacious doof queen :D
 
hay, fuck buddys are cool, in fact thay rock out!!
i have had both types of fuck buddy. the one where it was all about the sex!!!! But also the one where i thought that she was the one for me and she had other ideas (lots of sex with me and other people as well....) that one was not good.
Just make sure kids, that if there is some feeling from one of the parties, that the feelings get put out/said in the open or else there is much pain and hurt as i discovered.
be cool people, have fun and rember people are odd
 
Originally posted by Cosmic Mist:
Why aren't you all out there trying to pick up hot guys/chicks? (Or Sluts, in SDB's case...) ;)
you get someone who learns what does it for you, whilst still being free to look for others (or "the one," if you prefer)...
SDB: How far you prepared to travel? ;)
SDB : ur in! :)
Cosmic Mist : i've been trying to "pick up" for about a year now... its very hard work. so far i've pretty much either
a. totally fucked up (snatched defeat from the jaws of victory)
b. been flatly rejected
c. said too much and scared them away
d. become "good friends" with them
e. lowered my standards, realised how far i have lowered them, and stopped before it was too late
f. fallen insanely in "love" (???) and been shattered, just being stupid i guess
g. achieved some partial success (yay!)
h. wasted opportunities, to find out later on that i was on a "sure thing" :(
i. been told "you're sooo nice" and "i wish there were more guys like you"... maybe i'm TOO nice? i dunno anymore...
but at least i'm trying, and i've got LOTS of interesting stories to tell people too... :)
it is NOT EASY to pick up... not at all!!! but it was like this for job interviews too, i went to 13 interviews over the period of a year, and was rejected in all of them, many right at the end and from some companies even after they had selected me. then i landed a job, even tho i had applied a month late, and it's proven to be the best job of them all! and every time i fail, i learn something new and learn from my mistakes.
i'm still looking for "the one" but i'm getting sick of looking for the "one and only"... its the 21st century, those sort of notions are dead and buried... hmmmm... :S
at this stage, a fuck-buddy is exactly what i need... :) please, put me out of my misery
PS : have a look at my new revised criteria... they are becoming further dwindled
Cohaa.
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Don't feel like doing any work so I thought I'd share a story with you all. It's a good one so tune in.
About three weeks ago, on a Sunday night I was at a club in Melbourne which I won't name. I was there with friends who had just been at Pride March in St. Kilda that day and was having a great time dancing to some funky house tunes. Most of the crowd were gay/lesbian.
Pretty late on in the evening, I'm sitting on the stage in front of the DJ booth, just having a rest when a tall woman in a red dress came and sat down next to me. She started asking me if I could help her get stuff... I don't know what it is about me, but even when I'm straight (as I was that night), people are always asking me to hook them up. I'd like to think it's my smile, or the way I dance... but more likely it's because I've got 'TRASHER' permanantly stamped on my forehead.
I didn't have anything but I pointed her in the right direction. Anyway, we continued to sit and chat and dance throughout the night while she went to Lala land. Around midnight my friends left to go home and I was pretty keen to leave too... at which point she invites me back to her place.
Now I'd already had sex that afternoon and racked up a few lines in the evening so the combination of the two left me with very little interest in getting any action. I went though... just out of natural curiosity I guess.
We get back to her place, a small one bedroom apartment not far outside the city. It's a pretty comfortable place... and sit on her couch and continue chatting. Things are going very smoothly... in fact... all a little too smooth. At this point I know what she expects to happen next ... and something in my head clicks. Like a light bulb...
...firstly she had picked me up which is odd enough because it's usually the other way around OR at least a mutual agreement by both parties. Though it has happened to me before so that wasn't anything too new... what felt so out of place was both the Ease and Comfort with which she'd done it.
It all seemed just too easy and I'd like to think I've spent enough time in clubs to know when something feels out of place. So, almost jokingly, I say:
"Alright... so what's your deep dark secret? Are you an axe-murderer or something?"
And she sat there at the other end of her couch, looking back at me with a big Cheshire cat grin and eyes the size of saucers and said:
"Well... I had a sex change operation"
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Alrighty then...
I think at that moment my life flashed before my eyes. The whole situation just seemed so absurd. Since when did my life become a frickin TV show? Who wrote this shit? This cannot be fucking real...
Anyway... when I could finally talk again, the only thing I managed to meekly say was, "Uhh... I've had a lot of speed tonight so I don't think I could get it up"... Yeah I know... pretty lame excuse but it was the truth.
We actually spent two hours sitting on her couch talking after that... about all manner of interesting things like hormones and sex reassignment and getting your dick cut off and so on.
When I told this story last weekend, one of my friends asked me why I didn't take a look. I mean, truth was, I was *VERY* interested in seeing it... but I think at that point, that night, sitting on her couch... my mind had expanded enough for one night. Enough for one year even... Christ.
Anyway we parted on good terms, I freely admitted to her that I was well and truly freaked out. She said she wants to come to Two Tribes and I said sure. I've got your number... I'll call (I lied). Funny thing is I ran into her the next week on Sunday morning at Revolver, wasn't wierd at all.. we sat, chatted, I pointed her in the right direction again.
Don't get me wrong. I wasn't freaked cause I don't accept transgender people. It's just that after she told me (and I'm glad she was at least honest enough to do so before anything happened), more and more about her seemed not quite right. While she may have the body and genitals of a woman... her brain worked like that of a gay man. If she really thought like a woman, I would never have got suspicious in the first place.
Anyway I could talk about why and why not all day. Needless to say it was another one of those experiences that remind me why I love going out and being single. If anything, it's perhaps sometimes a little all *TOO* exciting.
Welcome to the 21st century boys and girls. Where you need to do a DNA and chromosome test before taking someone home. :)
[ 18 February 2003: Message edited by: hoptis ]
 
hmm i was just talking to my latest ex and somehow through the converstaion we have decided that having sex without commitment would be a damn good idea :P i dunno if i should go ahead with it as i hink i will probably attach myself to him again like b4 cos i really feel 4 him :\ but if thats the only way i can have him should i take it? ahhhhhhhhhh i dunno.....maybe i should say "no u can have me when im worthy enough to hav all of me etc etc" and have other fuck buddies till he realises im the best damn thing thats has ever happened to him god damn it!!! *runs off screaming*
and i like breaks aswell!!!! ;) hehhehehe
 
hoptis: It's a wonderful world we live in
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I wonder if you get shot in the chest and survive do the doctors tell you not to pick at the scab?
[ 18 February 2003: Message edited by: SupaDiscoBreaka ]
 
Ummm... Hoptis, i have one thing to say to you about your link: I go to uni with this girl!! She's one of my closest friends!
Heh heh - small world... What did you rate her out of curiosity? ;)
Um, yeah, apart from that, i loved the story - thanks for sharing. :)
 
Originally posted by Oopsz:
doofy, remember how much you loved this guy a few weeks ago? that won't go away, and sex without feeling needs no lingering emotional committment. (IMO, thats impossible, but that's another post).
i know..i know *sigh*
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doofqueen, in my opinion, attempting to become "fuck buddies" with someone you actually have quite strong feelings for is never going to work out.. basically coz you'll end up seeing it as an actual relationship and he might not. Which tends to lead to all kinds of issues.. one major one being that you may end up extremely hurt. Its like repeatedly grabbing an electric fence in hope that one day it will be turned off..
The whole "maybe he'll come to his senses" thing is always an unknown, but you need to ask yourself to what length you want to go to see if he will.. would you stay with him for months even tho he isnt actually interested in anything but sex, just on the off chance he may 'change his mind'?
Basically what I'm getting at is you really need to think past the 'I really want/miss sex' part and focus on the actual outcomes that may be associated with your choice. Unfortunately you cant really make someone want to be in a relationship with you, and if you are getting into something on the hope that that may be the case, then more often than not you're probably setting yourself up for a rather big fall..
Being in a 'fuck-buddy' type relationship really isnt as easy as it sounds.
stace.
 
Originally posted by doofqueen:
but if thats the only way i can have him should i take it?
absolutely most definitely not!! that's just asking for heartbreak right there. he's a guy....he can detach himself emotionally from sex. considering the way you feel about him, you're just giving him everything he wants...sex without the stress of commitment.
the best way of revenge for how he's treated you is to not give him the satisfaction of getting what he wants.
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/\ agreed, doofqueen take me as your role model and get a vibrator or a lesbifriend instead. Its the way to go.
Or dont 'take me', but you get the picture. :)
 
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