anna!
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My immediate answer is yes 
My secondary answer is "but I don't want to lose him!", which is kind of pathetic.

My secondary answer is "but I don't want to lose him!", which is kind of pathetic.
Yes it is, but at least you are being honest with yourself.anna! said:My secondary answer is "but I don't want to lose him!", which is kind of pathetic.
TurkishPepper said:There is nothing like a child to celebrate what is good in the world. I think you know in your heart what you want to do, and I wish you all the best in listening to it.
Love can happen again for you, a child, once lost, is gone forever.
And personally, I think you have already lost him, which is not necessarily a bad thing.
In thinking about it, what annoys me so much is that not having a child is such a passive way to go about 'saving the world'. It's not as if he walks everywhere, uses organic products, takes an interest in world events, turns lights off when he leaves a room, etc. It seems like such a cop out. If he was a really earthy, green, harmonious person I'd be more appreciative of what he is saying, I think.
I am gradually coming to terms with what the reality would be if I were to go ahead with the pregnancy, and it is incredibly scary but also heartwarming.
anna! said:Thanks Liz
We spoke at length about it last night, and his stance is 100% "I don't want to contribute to the human race because it's fucked and I hate it". He doesn't want to live life thinking that he's contributed to a bollocks society.
I don't think that's a good enough reason for meMy kids are what is good in the world, not bad. The kind of happiness they bring is what makes the other bullshit bearable.
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