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blowjobs and swallowing

Asenath said:
You're acting as if any woman who isn't turned on by semen is a "man-hater" or a "prude." That's an absurd, reductionist way of explaining away anyone who doesn't enjoy performing your favorite sexual acts. How'd you like it if I said all men who aren't aroused by menstrual blood are obviously just prudes or hardcore woman-haters?

You are a prude. How can you say you like sex if the product of it makes you go "eww!"? You obviously have issues with your body and with sexuality, perhaps a strong religious background?
 
To be absolutely fair, the guys in here claiming that refusal to swallow is prudish and selfish ought to certify that they've swallowed a tablespoon of fresh semen and are A-OK with the taste and consistency.

Ya can't really reasonably expect to force someone to do something you would refuse to do yourself, at least not without paying them. ;)
 
happyus said:
i wouldn't say i'm a 'real woman' because i like the taste,but i do cook for my guy so i make sure he eats properly and i know he's clean. i cum and ejaculate...granted it's a different texture from a woman but he never complains about me, and i don't complain about him.swallow and smile and if it's really that bad tasting force him to kiss you and swirl it around his mouth so he'll never force you too if you don't want again!

Now there's a Lady for ya!
 
glowbug said:
To be absolutely fair, the guys in here claiming that refusal to swallow is prudish and selfish ought to certify that they've swallowed a tablespoon of fresh semen and are A-OK with the taste and consistency.

Ya can't really reasonably expect to force someone to do something you would refuse to do yourself, at least not without paying them. ;)

I have, and in fact I love the practice just for feeling the cum in my mouth. I swallow my own and others'. I also happen to find it very spiritually fulfilling.

That being said, I do not think it is "prudish" or "selfish" to not like what I like.

However, being capable of writing several essays that describe the utmost details of disgust about something, renders your claims that you "like doing it" very invalid, no matter how many 100s of times you repeat that you l"ike doing it but it is not your hobby. "

Whatever.
 
glowbug said:
Relax, I wasn't insisting that YOU had to quit swallowing. If you enjoy it that much, by all means keep it up.

Where did I mention swallowing?! ;)

Besides, I would never expect a girl to HAVE to do it, only if they wanted to..
 
glowbug said:
To be absolutely fair, the guys in here claiming that refusal to swallow is prudish and selfish ought to certify that they've swallowed a tablespoon of fresh semen and are A-OK with the taste and consistency.

Ya can't really reasonably expect to force someone to do something you would refuse to do yourself, at least not without paying them. ;)

Certify how? You want pictures or something? ;)

I've done it, I just don't find the taste very appealing. I still do it for my husband fairly often because he's not that bad, but some people have rather unpleasant tastes to me.
 
Pineapple juice is good, but you might considering cutting down on smoking and/or coffee if it's that bad. :P
 
I swallow when I want to. I make the choice as he cums. If his cock is in my throat (which I prefer to active swallowing, no taste, no mess), then it is going down the hatch.
 
beamers, my love... define "man-hater"? it seems to mean one who hates men. if i live with a man, who i have sex with and plan to marry, doesn't that knock me out of the running for "man-hater"? wouldn't they kick me right out of the club for actually loving a man?

and cute with the out-of-context quote, but let me refresh your memory: by "sexually polite", i mean that i don't bitch and complain if i don't get perfect head every time, and todd doesn't bitch and complain about where he shoots a load as long as he shoots one. it's called respecting and having consideration and appreciation for your partner and what they do for you.

also, someone who doesn't swallow, or sometimes swallows, is not prude; if they were prude, they wouldn't be down there in the first place. so... since i have sex, and give head, and swallow sometimes, i'm out of that category as well.

feel free to come back with "witty" retorts that make little to no sense, if you desire; it's kind of amusing, especially since in reality-land we both know you're absolutely nonsensical. newsflash: women who swallow even some of the time? not prude! prudes don't suck cock at all! women who fuck and love men? not man-haters! at least try some "insults" that make sense.

in the end, by your definitions, i'm satisfied being a man-hating prude, because it apparently means i love my boyfriend, screw him regularly, suck his dick and sometimes swallow, appreciate him sexually as he does me, and am lucky to be in a relationship where both parties do not complain and hurt one another when a sex act is not 100% perfect. now, i realize you know all of this quite well; in fact, i'm fairly sure that outside of the internet, you actually do treat women well, respect and appreciate what they do for you, and are quite aware that not swallowing every time makes me neither prude nor man-hater. for whatever reason though, you just can't be... well, decent enough to admit that, so i await your next off-the-wall comment aimed to insult me in absurd ways. i actually vaguely admire your ability to maintain this "personality", if you can call it that. you're a good instigator, and you say things that are so ass-backwards i just go "WHAAAT?" and respond automatically. nice job, but don't get too comfy or you may actually become this alter ego of yours. pity. i'm curious who you really are, because behind this... sideshow of yours, i bet you're worth knowing. it takes one hell of a sarcastic, funny bastard to play this role. kudos, though i am sorry you feel a need to be someone you're not online... but, since i believe that someone is just part of your act, he can "insult" me up and down. who's going to be upset by shoddy insults from an imaginary asshole?
 
Personally I love cumming in a girls mouth and watching her swallow it up without even skipping a beat. Its very sexy. Also, for me, I can't just stop when I have an orgasm. It's not a good thing at all. Luckily the girl of my affections at the moment understands this and will keep on doing her thing for a good 20 seconds or so after I cum. Its very good of her.
 
ratherbewater said:
beamers, my love... define "man-hater"? it seems to mean one who hates men. if i live with a man, who i have sex with and plan to marry, doesn't that knock me out of the running for "man-hater"? wouldn't they kick me right out of the club for actually loving a man?

and cute with the out-of-context quote, but let me refresh your memory: by "sexually polite", i mean that i don't bitch and complain if i don't get perfect head every time, and todd doesn't bitch and complain about where he shoots a load as long as he shoots one. it's called respecting and having consideration and appreciation for your partner and what they do for you.

also, someone who doesn't swallow, or sometimes swallows, is not prude; if they were prude, they wouldn't be down there in the first place. so... since i have sex, and give head, and swallow sometimes, i'm out of that category as well.

feel free to come back with "witty" retorts that make little to no sense, if you desire; it's kind of amusing, especially since in reality-land we both know you're absolutely nonsensical. newsflash: women who swallow even some of the time? not prude! prudes don't suck cock at all! women who fuck and love men? not man-haters! at least try some "insults" that make sense.

in the end, by your definitions, i'm satisfied being a man-hating prude, because it apparently means i love my boyfriend, screw him regularly, suck his dick and sometimes swallow, appreciate him sexually as he does me, and am lucky to be in a relationship where both parties do not complain and hurt one another when a sex act is not 100% perfect. now, i realize you know all of this quite well; in fact, i'm fairly sure that outside of the internet, you actually do treat women well, respect and appreciate what they do for you, and are quite aware that not swallowing every time makes me neither prude nor man-hater. for whatever reason though, you just can't be... well, decent enough to admit that, so i await your next off-the-wall comment aimed to insult me in absurd ways. i actually vaguely admire your ability to maintain this "personality", if you can call it that. you're a good instigator, and you say things that are so ass-backwards i just go "WHAAAT?" and respond automatically. nice job, but don't get too comfy or you may actually become this alter ego of yours. pity. i'm curious who you really are, because behind this... sideshow of yours, i bet you're worth knowing. it takes one hell of a sarcastic, funny bastard to play this role. kudos, though i am sorry you feel a need to be someone you're not online... but, since i believe that someone is just part of your act, he can "insult" me up and down. who's going to be upset by shoddy insults from an imaginary asshole?

Fucking Here here. *applauds*
 
glowbug said:
Sheesh, this thread was tiresome just to scan, and not really even worth it.

Some girls swallow and undoubtedly some won't no matter whether the guy is offended or not.

If you're that offended by your gf being absolutely opposed to swallowing in all instances, decide whether it's a dealbreaker to you. If so, move along. If not, live with it.

Some girls would like to fuck their men in the ass with a strap-on or engage in asstoy play with them, and most guys are absolutely opposed to that. Are the guys being selfish prudes?

An orgasm is an orgasm. Whether the blowjob byproduct ends up swallowed or spit into a washcloth, you still came. I don't think not swallowing is unreasonable per se, and I just don't see how it's unfair to have to respect another's reasonable sexual boundaries. Besides, sexual boundaries do sometimes change of their own accord over time.

If you consider one rather minor subissue of sexual compatibility to be of such great importance that your SO's disagreement renders the two of you sexually incompatible, then that's a pretty good indication you need to be moving along and looking for someone who sees facial to facial with you.


May I applaud heartily a second time. *applause*
 
thanks, strawberry lovemuffin. :) it's nice to see that some people on here aren't completely batshit. and thank you again. i was really getting worried that the general population thought that not swallowing was a sin against god and an acceptable reason to get rid of a girlfriend.

glad to know there's people on here who realize that women are worth more than swallowing a load -- if that's all you want from us, buy a blow-up doll. she'll never say no or spit or gag, and she'll never stop being happy about being a garbage disposal for a cock.

but, hey... what do i know? i'm just a frigid, man-hating prude, and a stupid one at that, since all these years i thought i knew the meanings of those words! i should stop talking and start swallowing!
 
Fuck no, please... I spit! :D If someone would like to lambast me for that, let them fucking go ahead. My fiance is ecstatic with what I do for him in bed.

Geez, I wish my fiance would suck my clit for 2 hours while I gushed all over his mouth and he licked it up... will he do it? No way! He finds it a little too much and I don't blame him for finishing me off with his fingers and a towel occasionally. Sex - and relationships - are about give and take, about being open to new things but also being sensitive to each others' physical boundaries.
 
i don't spit... i actually find it more unpleasant than swallowing. so i either let him shoot on me, or sometimes i'll swallow. but even if i never gave another blowjob -- swallowing or not -- i'd still have my boyfriend for life. not only is a blowjob not the only thing that matters, but most of my boyfriends have preferred sex to head, or at least have preferred head as foreplay rather than the entire act. my boyfriend now adores head, and says i'm amazing (i'm just quoting him, not glorifying myself... i can't practice on myself to see or something), but prefers sex most of the time. now, obviously there's a lot of physical pleasure behind that desire, but GOOD sex, truly good sex, is about a connection between two people and mutual pleasure, and we'd both rather the closeness and emotionality and just simple togetherness of sex, most of the time, as opposed to just lying back and not being an active participant. that's not to say anything bad about head; it's great to receive and i often enjoy giving, but it doesn't have the same kind of passion and bonding and rhythm of sex between two loves who know each other's bodies. i think having orgasms at the same time is better than any head i've ever gotten, and certainly more meaningful -- a LOT more meaningful than shooting in someone's mouth. but then, meaningful isn't what some people want, and in fact it seems stupid or wrong or *insert insult here* to some people. i like to make love, but i also like sex, and i also like fucking, and i cannot be with a partner who can't appreciate the differences.

swallowing, for my boyfriend, is a novelty. it's a porno moment. he'd be bored to death if i did it every day; it wouldn't be anything special anymore, it'd be routine and dull. i guess it just seems foreign to me that some men insist upon ANY particular sex act on a very regular basis. it seems so mechanical.

and i agree -- if todd's down there for a long time, and it's not working (through no fault of his own), i don't expect him to go forever, nor do i give him shit if he stops. it's about respect and appreciation. he tried. it didn't work. shit happens. oh well. i'm not going to get pissed off and consider him some sort of fuckup or failure... sometimes it just plain doesn't work. and he sure as hell doesn't complain about where he shoots... he, like most rational men, realize that they just got an orgasm they didn't have to do jack shit for. to complain about that is simply asinine.
 
An orgasm is an orgasm. Whether the blowjob byproduct ends up swallowed or spit into a washcloth, you still came.

Well thats just not true at least not for me. My orgasm is not one "wuahahah!" and thats it, but it consists of the first big orgasm followed by several smaller ones, like waves getting smaller and smaller but all are enjoyable and belong to the complete experience. This takes about two or three minutes as I estimate. So "pulling out" from whatever orifice is no option as it diminishes the overall sensation - it´s just not so pleasant as it should be and not "complete".

Oh! And yes, I have tasted my own ejaculate before I got my first blowjob ever - just from curiosity and for I wanted to know what I demand from the girl here. It´s nothing gross.

Practically I cannot understand how a woman can find ejaculate not tolerable after having licked up all the precum which is by function something much more questionable - it serves mainly for cleaning the urethra from all residues of urine and whatever to make a healthy road for the sperms to come.

:)
 
fishinabottle said:
it serves mainly for cleaning the urethra from all residues of urine and whatever to make a healthy road for the sperms to come.

:\ I don't think I wanted to know that!!! 8o
But yes, I'm not a huge fan of precum (and even less now, lol). As for swallowing, I find that I enjoy it more either the first few times I do it with a guy, or with a guy that I really like. So far I've swallowed every time, and a lot of the time I enjoy doing it, other times it feels like a chore, and ocasionally it makes me want to gag really bad. it has a lot to do with how turned on I am, and a little to do with the texture... if it's like a thick snotball then it won't be as easy to enjoy! Although I try to avoid that by not giving my bf a bj to completion if I know he hasn't cum for a long time because that tends to make it thicker.
 
an orgasm is an orgasm in the sense that if you ejaculate, you have had an orgasm, and whoever caused you to ejaculate successfully gave you that orgasm. barring things like sexual situations you're forced into and such, *being given an orgasm is being given an orgasm*, whether it's 100% to your ideal or not.

there's absolutely nothing wrong with wanting a girl to swallow; it's a preference you're entitled to. however, the same is true for the woman. there is absolutely nothing wrong with her NOT wanting to swallow, a preference SHE is entitled to. if a girl gives you a blowjob, and you ejaculate, but she chooses to not swallow, are you less grateful that she performed the act? do you complain that it sucked, no pun intended, because she didn't swallow? or do you accept that it's not anyone's job to fulfill your picture of the ideal blowjob and be glad you got one, instead of giving her shit because she opts to not eat semen? isn't she just as entitled to choose to not do that, or to not find it appealing, as you are to the opposite feelings?

some men in this thread (whether i find their personas believable or not put aside) seem to think that a blowjob is a worthless act unless a woman swallows, and that a woman who does not swallow is basically expendable. they believe that without swallowing, the entire act becomes null and void, deseves no appreciation, and in fact the woman deserves to be insulted and berated for not swallowing. do you agree with that? if a woman spends the time and effort to give you head in the first place, and does it well enough to get you off, but doesn't swallow, how do you respond? there is a difference between preferring that she swallows but accepting it when she doesn't, and making her feel like shit after she just willfully devoted herself to giving you pleasure. any man who thinks it's acceptable behavior to give a woman any crap about swallowing after she just sucked him off is an asshole who didn't deserve what he did get, much less more than that.

as for precum... well, i can only speak for myself on this one. i do not have an issue with the taste of semen (unless it's really gross due to various foods, which has only happened to me once). i don't have an issue with having semen in my mouth, or to swallowing it (although it's my choice, and if i don't feel like swallowing my boyfriend is still satisfied at having gotten a blowjob versus NOT getting one). precum isn't exactly something i'd order on my pasta, but it also doesn't shoot out like ejaculate. the issue for me and some women is a gag reflex triggered by the action of your orgasm, not necessarily the taste or idea of having semen in her mouth. i have a very sensitive gag reflex. my boyfriend is very good about giving me ample warning so that i can position my mouth in a way that is conducive to both him getting to shoot in my mouth and me not getting blasted in a way that would cause me to gag, hence i don't usually object to swallowing when i give him head.

now you're obviously right in some cases... if a woman's issue is a flavor thing, then precum (at least in decent amounts; sometimes there's a negligible amount that you barely taste, sometimes there's a lot... depends on the guy and the situation) should probably bother her just like semen does. if i was adverse to having it in my mouth, period, then i wouldn't want precum there, either. i do agree, for the most part, that if a woman simply dislikes the taste, it's worth questioning why the taste of precum, which usually is very similar if not identical, is acceptable -- but then, consider the difference between tasting a few drops of something you dislike versus a considerably larger amount (and in some men, that amount is quite large). i can handle chopped onions on my cheeseburger but i wouldn't eat one raw; it's kind of the same concept.

the point is, men should be happy that a woman that they find attractive, etc. enough to want to be involved with sexually wants the same in return, and is willing to give them a blowjob. women aren't getting anything sexual out of that (well, a teeny percentage get off on it, but i mean they are doing all the work while you just get to enjoy). we are doing it solely to make you feel good. that is something all men should appreciate at face value and not complain about. if you opt to not sleep with a woman a second time because she doesn't swallow, that's your prerogative and completely within your rights; i wouldn't sleep with a man who didn't satisfy me either. but i also wouldn't make him feel bad or insult him or chastise him because of it, because there's no reason to be cruel.

so the question is, are you a jerk to a woman if she doesn't swallow, or do you just say oh well, i still got head, and move on without unnecessarily hurting anyone's feelings? if it's the latter, you're human, if it's the former, you need to realize that you're lucky enough to be getting head at all and you should be appreciative of that woman no matter what. above posters who say that women who don't swallow -- even ones who do, but not every time -- are prudes are completely out of their heads, and they're even more out of their heads if they really would treat a girl like shit for not swallowing. i sincerely hope that when you find yourself with a woman who doesn't live up to your sexual needs, you are still respectful and gracious, and move on to someone who *does* meet your needs without uselessly and wrongly upsetting the first woman, because she didn't do anything wrong.
 
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