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bipolar and relationships!

i wholeheartedly agree with the last line, but, why just people with bi-polar ?

o.k.

lets look at "intermittent explosive disorder" and "dissociative disorder".

according to literature, the same literature that was used to diagnose, i could have these afflictions.

problem is, doctors are not willing to make these diagnosis`when it pertains to law for fear of legal reprisals.

so that what makes the whole issue null and void for me.

you either have it or you dont. cant have it both ways. i know the laws regarding mental health varie to a great degree anywhere you go, however, im just going by the laws in my neck of the woods.
 
I know exactly how you feel, only on a smaller scale. Everything seems amazin until they turn into that 'other person', nearly wrecked my life, i saw the light though n got the fuck out of there.
 
^Ah, so they weren't quite amazing enough for you to stick around and help them through it? Sounds to me like they weren't very amazing at all if you weren't willing to deal with *temporary* mood problems, most of which can be overcome, particularly with the help of a good partner...

Add another one to the tally of people who are completely ignorant about bipolar disorder...
 
^Ah, so they weren't quite amazing enough for you to stick around and help them through it? Sounds to me like they weren't very amazing at all if you weren't willing to deal with *temporary* mood problems, most of which can be overcome, particularly with the help of a good partner...

Add another one to the tally of people who are completely ignorant about bipolar disorder...
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Some people just simply can't handle all of the bullshit that is served by some so-called "Bipolar" sufferers.
Take a close friend of the family for instance. She was a doctor (lost her license due to emotional problems and malpractise and her alcohol/benzo addiction), she will ask someone for financial, or lovelife advice. You give her your advice and she jumps down your throat and starts swearing and carrying on.
She is extremely selfish. She doesn't want to hear other people's problems, she only wants to discuss hers.
I have personally tried to help her, but to no avail...
You just can't win with her.
In my experience, alot of people that suffer from Bipolar are like fucking timebombs.
Helping someone is all well and good, until they start swearing and carrying on and call you every name under the sun.
Maybe people with Bipolar are just extremely selfish and attention seeking people that suffer from depression?
Did you ever think of that?
 
my bf has bipolar and so does my dad
neither of them 'play' on their illness, but its easy to see it holds them under control and sumtimes makes them physically ill
i believe bipolars are more difficult to be with, but its worth it if u love sumone - and bipolars can b really fun, interesting and creative......theyre often intelligent and sparkly
 
Diacetylus said:

Maybe people with Bipolar are just extremely selfish and attention seeking people that suffer from depression?

Did you ever think of that?
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You could have said "Maybe black people are just extremely lazy and uneducated people who suffer from being dark skinned" and have been about equally offensive as you were with your last post.

Did you ever think of that?
 
L O V E L I F E said:
You could have said "Maybe black people are just extremely lazy and uneducated people who suffer from being dark skinned" and have been about equally offensive as you were with your last post.

Did you ever think of that?
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Haha. Nice
 
Thankyou Lovelife.

Diacetylus, perhaps you should take some time to actually read up a little on bipolar disorder before saying maybe this or maybe that. I don't know that much about bipolar either but a quick search through google yields enough results to confirm that this is a serious mental illness that people don't just get over, it takes lifetime treatment and even then it is pretty hard to manage.

You are welcome to express your frustrations from dealing with people who have bipolar, but anyone else who posts something so accusatory and unhelpful toward sufferers without some medical background or evidence to back it up will be edited, because it's just not helpful to this discussion at all.
 
An Unquiet Mind: A Memoir of Moods and Madness by Kay Redfield Jamison is quite an a good read. It provides valuable insight about bipolars and their difficulties with relationships, among other things.
 
I have been infatuated with a man who is schizophrenic and bi-polar. He can be the most charming man but is a Jeckyll and Hyde character. I really fancy him but don't know if I could live with him in a fully-committed relationship becasue he is so volatile and can get paranoid and turn on people, even the people he loves most.
 
Originally Posted by Diacetylus
Maybe people with Bipolar are just extremely selfish and attention seeking people that suffer from depression?
Did you ever think of that?
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You're underestimating - or completely misinterpreting? - what the 'mania' part of the disorder is. It's not just 'being selfish and attention seeking.' Neither is depression, for that matter.

I suggest you take the time to read up on bipolar disorder - and mental illness in general. Like someone said, all it takes is a quick google search to get an idea of the seriousness and legitimacy of these illnesses.
 
L O V E L I F E[/QUOTE said:
You could have said "Maybe black people are just extremely lazy and uneducated people who suffer from being dark skinned" and have been about equally offensive as you were with your last post.
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What the hell? Where the fuck do you pull those words out of? Most black people I know aren't lazy, or uneducated people. If it's the case with you, maybe it's the area you are living in?
So no, I might as well have not said that. (since when was being of a black considered a fucking illness you racist prick?)

I am not saying Bipolar is non-existant. And, yes I do know about what it is. I didn't say that noone has it, I just said that maybe alot of people that so-called "suffer" from it are really playing on it and have been misdiagnosed.
Just like how ADHD/ADD is probably alot of the time, misdiagnosed.
 
Diacetylus said:

What the hell?

Where the fuck do you pull those words out of?

Most black people I know aren't lazy, or uneducated people.

If it's the case with you, maybe it's the area you are living in?

So no, I might as well have not said that. (since when was being of a black considered a fucking illness you racist prick?)

I am not saying Bipolar is non-existant.

And, yes I do know about what it is.

I didn't say that noone has it, I just said that maybe alot of people that so-called "suffer" from it are really playing on it and have been misdiagnosed.

Just like how ADHD/ADD is probably alot of the time, misdiagnosed.
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Great save.

You should be a goalie.

Or "keeper," if you're on the other side of the pond.
 
I actually dated someone with bipolar for 3 years.
She was on medication for most of that period (although near the end she transitioned off her medication. She seemed to be doing just as well without it.). She would fall into hypomania (rather than full-blown mania) and she was very rapid cycling (on the order of a couple hours).

The difficulties?
Well, she had a bad temper and would get quite pissed off at what seemed like little things (often at me). Her anger was sort of global in scope, and it seemed that she would focus her rage on whatever was in the immediate scope of her attention. On the other hand, she would never stay angry, and everything would be fine after 20 minutes (and she'd be apologizing and what-not).

Now...I'm not really sure if her temper had much to do with her bipolar or not.

I also could not console her when she was depressed, which was troublesome.

ebola
 
^It's very confusing, even after years of going through it, to be happy one moment and ready to die the next. I can definitely say that I have a very short temper when my bipolar is cycling badly. It's very stressful. And I know what you mean about the diffculty in consoling - I never want to hear it when I'm feeling shitty, I just want to sulk... One thing that people often don't understand about those of us with bipolar is that we don't really always want advice, we just want to know that someone gives a fuck about how we feel. Advice actually often comes off as aggressive or insulting - we're not stupid, most of the time we know it already, it's just impossible to act on...

I'll be the first one to say that yes, living with a bipolar person can be a *bit* more difficult than your average person, but certainly not any more difficult than *lots* of people out there. Like I said before, there are plenty of manipulative people out there that don't have a mental disorder. I know a lot of girls that are infinitely worse than I am and they don't have any disorders. Being a bitch doesn't require that.
 
L O V E L I F E said:
Great save.

You should be a goalie.

Or "keeper," if you're on the other side of the pond.
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What the hell are you trying to say? Stop talking in riddles and I might understand you a bit more.
 
omg i will be VERY careful if i come across anyone with bipolar that wants to date me. The last guy i dated was bipolar and he fucked me over like no one has before. He lied and cheated on me and keapt lying even when i caught him out until he no longer could lie anymore. He lied to the other girl too.

I spoke with another friend who was dating a biploar woman and he said that she did the same thing.... lied and cheated and lied and cheated but he took her back time and time again and she still keapt doing it.

apparently bipolar people are very sexual and NEED to be loved and wanted so will do anything to have that, even if it means being manipulative and deceptive and lying through their teeth.

he also said that bipolar people live in the moment. I was upset because i felt that the whole relationship was fake, that nothing he said to me was actually real because if he was doing what he was doing behind my back then it couldn't have been. My friend said that "at the time" it probably was and he DID mean it but as soon as he was out the door and with the other woman i was forgotten and the moment he was having with HER was real

i dunno

it's really screwed me over hey and i have no trust left in me anymore
 
doofqueen said:
The last guy i dated was bipolar and he fucked me over like no one has before. He lied and cheated on me and keapt lying even when i caught him out until he no longer could lie anymore. He lied to the other girl too.

I spoke with another friend who was dating a biploar woman and he said that she did the same thing.... lied and cheated and lied and cheated but he took her back time and time again and she still keapt doing it.

apparently bipolar people are very sexual and NEED to be loved and wanted so will do anything to have that, even if it means being manipulative and deceptive and lying through their teeth.
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You know, people don't have to be bipolar to have a need for love or sex and they certainly don't need to have bipolar to be liars, cheaters or manipulators.
Bipolar is an illness and manifests itself in different ways for different people and some sufferers find it almost impossible to maintain relationships.

That said, with adequate support (from partners and family and doctors and the community in general) people with a psychiatric illness can learn to cope pretty well. If I found out that a new boyfriend had bipolar I would seriously consider the level of commitment I was able and prepared to give. Theres no point in only half being there, a lot of the time that sort of relationship could even be destructive for both parties. People with no understanding of mental illness won't help at all either so if you decide that you're in it for the long haul, do your homework.
 
^Pipit^ said:
If I found out that a new boyfriend had bipolar I would seriously consider the level of commitment I was able and prepared to give. Theres no point in only half being there, a lot of the time that sort of relationship could even be destructive for both parties.
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What if this boyfriend continuously cheated on you though? There's only so much one can take in a relationship. And, while I agree it is good to be there for loved ones going through emotional turmoil, once they start repeatedly betraying you and start feeding off your emotional pain, it is in the interest of your own well-being to get out before it's too late.
A relationship requires mutual love and respect and regardless of the illness causing conflict, there needs to be love coming from both sides of the fence. Otherwise, it's really not a "proper" relationship.
 
pipit - yeah of course people that don't have bipolar can be that way too. I personally had never been cheated on before (to my knowledge anyway) and have had many relationships over the years so it really hurt like a bitch when i found out he did. What makes it worse is that i truley from the bottom of my heart thought he was "the one" BUT really he wasn't. He was just being who he thought i wanted him to be so i fell for him and just said everything to me that i wanted to hear. The whole ordeal just made me feel stupid because i didn't see it.
 
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