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bf doesn't want to explore my sexual fantasies

Nurse Bloop

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which is fine with me. but how can i explore bdsm type shit without cheating? he's so vanilla he won't even tie me up and spank me so i'm at a loss
 
Sounds like you need to sit down with him and let him know that you are getting bored and want to explore them with him. If he isn't willing you need to consider whether he is right for you as you must both be understanding of each others needs I hope it works out
 
Why don't you tie him up and spank him for being such an uncaring boyfriend? Not everyone wants to be the dom

Dis here is my pick,
If'n you do tie him & spanky you can maybe show him some uhh techniques,
I'm sure as a newby that will give him a bit of an education. I'm thinkin' (as a newby myself)
I might be a bit hesitant to just jump into trying something that I know nothing about, I wouldn't
wanna hurt anyone.
So, how are ya gonna tie him up, wait for him to go to sleep first, or use tranquilizers?
 
You should tell him. From what you posted you have a very traditional/conservative background that might be holding you back. Follow with your feelings. Worst case you could invite him over to roll on molly and then tell him. That drug is the perfect one for emotional bonding.
 
"I bet you're the kind of guy that'd fuck a person in the ass and not even have the god-damn common courtesy to give 'im a reach around. I'll be watchin' you!" - Sergeant Hartmann, your senior drill instructor.
Shit, what goes around, cums around. Let him fuck you in the ass, I'm sure he'll give you a reach-around if you ask nicely.
 
Why don't you tie him up and spank him for being such an uncaring boyfriend? Not everyone wants to be the dom

in his mind anything dominate or submissive in sex just "turns him off" including dirty talk or the most basic things like "tell me what feels good" when I go down on him. he just doesn't talk. it's like he has some serious sexual hangups but wont admit it. he just thinks its all cliche and gross.
 
Well, not everybody is into tying up and spanking. Was that your only request of him?


Basically I asked him if he would be at all interested in some BSDM-lite type sex and he NOPED at the thought of tying me up. " he doesnt want to hurt me" and "it doesn't turn him on" even though he's never even tried it. If I could get into an actual BSDM situation I might find it too much for me so I suggest that we just try ropes and maybe some candle wax (which feels oh so good) but he ishjghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
 
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There are plenty of guys out there who would love to have a girl who was eager to experiment and have more fun sexually. If this guy is really that repressed that he thinks your fantasies are too "cliche and gross" to try, even just to make you happy, then he sounds kinda lame. Even dirty talk is a turn off to him? That fucking sucks. Dude should be at least somewhat willing to meet you halfway and make things more fun, since that's how healthy relationships work.
 
I'm kind of the same position as your bf. I wouldn't be able to do any BDSM type stuff either. Not because I wouldn't want to hurt my partner. I would just be laughing way too much to get into it. Does your bf do any drugs? I'd say getting high together before sex might be the only chance you have to get him into it.
 
There are plenty of guys out there who would love to have a girl who was eager to experiment and have more fun sexually. If this guy is really that repressed that he thinks your fantasies are too "cliche and gross" to try, even just to make you happy, then he sounds kinda lame. Even dirty talk is a turn off to him? That fucking sucks. Dude should be at least somewhat willing to meet you halfway and make things more fun, since that's how healthy relationships work.

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My girlfriend is completely disinterested in sex, so I can kinda feel your pain. She gets mad and thinks sex is all I care about, but I'm a 20 year old girl, and I'm I'm my sexual prime, goddamnit! I just watch a shitload of porn and take care of myself, and we do it every so often, and it works for us. May not be the same for y'all, but maybe try watching some BDSM porn and having fun with little Jimmy, and just keep your bedroom life with him the same until he comes around. Try watching some really softcore with him to ease him in to it, and explain to him that if he wants the relationship to work, there needs to be some sort of compromise.
 
Well.....now you have no sympathy from me. If you have found a puritanical gay male lover in a world of uninhibited gay male sex you must have been looking for as much. It's not like it's hard to find kinky horny gay men in 2012. Seriously - good luck....

Douche. Being gay isn't all about being hot and kinky. There is a degree of love involved. Thanks for being stereotypical.
 
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