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best friends, vs friends vs acquaintances ,,vs negativenancies?

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we all meet friends in and out of recovery, wherever you might meet them there is a 39% chance they will make 'best friend' , while the others will either stay at 'friend' title, or just an 'acquaintance' ,and in my life, they go straight to 'negativenancies' (I would use
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Your best friend is like 'the angel' on your shoulder, and only want's the best for you,,,like keeps you from sticking that needle in like your veinbrain. They may or may not be so 'drug' friendly. so if 'best friend' just smokes pot, and doesn't like'' bang dope, and still only wants the best for you. while others may be a friend at church, work girl friends parents, or your 1st cousins, that doesn't do drugs, still only want the best for you.

friends, in my honest opinion, they are people that you meet up with somehow or another, and go hang out, or may remember each other from a previous smoke session, or drinks & shooting pool (not dope).
They may or not want the best for you, 39%of them do, while the other will go towards them 'friend' while, the other goes to just being an acquaintance,SWIM or my goldfish, they really could care less for you, and would want to hang back out with you, or will turn into being a negativenancy, SWIM that wants only the worse out of the situation, and will usually end up in a fight, and either going to jail, getting your(and theirs) ass beat(or shot at). These people are evil, and they may or not have psychiatric issues(or just shot the fuck out#fish

I try to make best friends always, and have to keep friends as a friend and acquaintances as well,, acquaintances. no one likes negative nancies.

so whats your think about this?
 
A friend is someone you call when your car breaks down and you need a ride off the side of the road. Everyone else is an acquaintance.
 
Its hard for me because I associate with a lot of people and with few people at the same time. A lot of people know me through work or my past but I never see any of them or call any of them unless they are the people i see at work or when i get weed. I have always been a loner and i have always changed social groups. I never kept my friends from high school, my friends from college, or my friends from work. The groups never met each other and i leave them once i leave the place they reside at.

I find it much easier to figuratively burn bridges as i cross them I do not upset or leave on bad terms but for example my first set of college friends our last hang out before i transferred "youll come around unlike jessie who left never to return right?" "oh yeah of course" but i kind of knew i wouldnt just because i never do. I did the same with my friends from my new campus and even the 1 friend that transferred with me and we hung out for years, once school was over i moved on.

But yet i fully agree with you. I have 1 best friend and its my girlfriend as of right now all of my friends through my lives no longer hang out with me or answer my calls/texts. The one time i saw my high school friends was after one of our old group committed suicide. The whole night was full of "we should hang out more why is it this that brought us together after 6 years" however, i am getting fed up with it from my childhood friend, longest running one, he said that to me and i wanted to say "yeah tell me why i sent all these texts and you didnt answer one of them, tell me why you avoid my phone calls and when i see you in the gas station you say "oh text me some time. yeah well i do fucking respond and maybe we can pick up where we left off"

... I will always wonder if its because i became a junkie and somehow they heard about it in some exaggerated rumor when i ODed in my g/fs house and went to the hospital, maybe they dont want me around their kids. I always held the belief we almost lose our friends when we hit 23ish unless your an alcoholic or a drug addict because its hard to hang out with full time jobs and kids wives etc.

So in short i have a plethora of acquaintance or minor friends that i help and they help me most are bonds from working as those aer the only people i see daily other then my girlfriend, she is my best friend and the only person who really knows me. My views may be skewed because of how i have been since i was in high school, always felt that song I disappear by metallica kind of described it (for the title maybe not the lyrics lol) and believe me i do it a lot and i joke "my whole purpose is to come into life and change it people never forget szuko000 but he always forgets them"

Yet i am thankful for all the moments we shared and i will never forget the good times I just cant be bothered to keep up with people that is what will hold me back
 
You're right, a real friend wants what's best for you.. They won't push you to do drugs with them or any of that crud.

I hate to say it but it sounds like I have no friends. I've quit using hard drugs and now nobody wants anything to do with me, heh. Not even the potheads!
 
My best friend from childhood became a police officer lol

I basically have no friends where I currently live, though. Just people I use with. It fucking sucks, I hate this life
 
Burnt Offerings said:
My best friend from childhood became a police officer lol

I basically have no friends where I currently live, though. Just people I use with. It fucking sucks, I hate this life
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Feel ya on that.. I know people who, when they see I'm down for whatever reason, offer me hard drugs. "Let's shoot some h" yeah... Thanks man.
 
Burnt Offerings said:
My best friend from childhood became a police officer lol

I basically have no friends where I currently live, though. Just people I use with. It fucking sucks, I hate this life
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Get away from that man. I was in a similar situation and in the end people like that just aren't ever there for you. Your wasting your time :\
 
I have a best friend who definatly is in my best interest. We both fucked up and got caught together. Goin through probation were motivating each other to stay clean and not fuck up.

I also have a good friend that refuses to let me smoke, Witch I respect in a way. But he will still push dexadrine, Xanax on me when he needs cash.

Then I have friends, I like these dudes but they don't care about my best interest one bit when it comes to drugs. They will throw around high prices and don't care about me being clean. Now I like these guys but there not anything above Friend and I likely wouldn't go Out of my way to hang.

Then I have my stright up dealers who I really don't talk to unless it's a hook up. We're cool with each other but don't really know each other
 
Sometimes I'm not sure if me and my best friend's relationship is solely based on alcohol/drugs. That's all we do every time we hang out, and we've rarely chilled sober. Idk though, people in their early 20's tend to go out drinking I'd say. Mental illness blurs the lines also...I can tell him anything though.

I still have high school friends that I'll chill with if I see them. Reminisce on the past, get drunk. It's at the point though that we've gone so long without hanging out that I feel out of place. I'm just a nostalgic person though, not an ideal situation where I live now.
 
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