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best friend just relapsed.

rocker97x

rocker97x

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So i need some advice.

9 months ago my friend got arrested for fleeing and possesion (2 roxys) and i think he had priors. He was really a fiend bad at the time (smoking em) but the jail time and court ordered rehab got him clean. He was really on the right track, doing good in school and staying out of trouble. We started hanging out again and we became best friends. We smoked weed together every day, and rolled a few times and tripped once but we really stayed out of trouble.

Long story short, i was sick this weekend and he was bored. He hung out with some kids who i know are still smoking blues and basically as soon as he told me that i knew what was up. Then today he pocket dialed me and i heard him tell someone he relapsed two days ago.

So basically, I kinda feel like i gotta at least try to save this kids life. I know its unlikely cus im going back to school in a month, but i feel guilty because he was 100% sober before me. Do you guys have any ideas of what i should do? If he gets in trouble again im pretty sure its his 3rd strike
 
ya i was thinking that too.

especially cus he called me back the second i hung up
 
You sound like a great friend, so don't place all of this on yourself; it is not your fault because you weren't able to hang out with him last weekend. You are not responsible for him as he is an adult and capable of making his own decisions. If he's going to relapse, he's going to relapse. The best you can do is be there for him, talk to him about it, and help guide him in the right direction while supporting him the whole way. This is all you can really do.

Good luck with him. Nine months is a long time to stay sober, he's obviously able to do it so don't give up all hope yet!
 
you are a great friend PERIOD.you can only do so much.Just try to talk to him and ask him if theres anything you can do to help.dont be hard on him for relapsing.you gotta tel him that 2 days aint shit but if he keeps using for a few more days he will start right back at square one sick as a dog.you cant blame urself for being sick.as you know us addicts r really hard headed so dont ever blame urself.anyways good luck and from what i c i would really b grateful 2 hav a friend like u : )
 
Love that advice from user name here...try never to feel responsible for someone else's choices. Do you get high? I am curios.
 
thanks guys, making me feel alot better.

i think im just gonna talk to him and be like listen man, right now is the best chance your ever gonna have again to get your life back on track, etc etc

Ya i get high btw (pot, psychs, x mostly), but i tend to keep myself out of trouble
 
rocker97x said:
So i need some advice.

9 months ago my friend got arrested for fleeing and possesion (2 roxys) and i think he had priors. He was really a fiend bad at the time (smoking em) but the jail time and court ordered rehab got him clean. He was really on the right track, doing good in school and staying out of trouble. We started hanging out again and we became best friends. We smoked weed together every day, and rolled a few times and tripped once but we really stayed out of trouble.

Long story short, i was sick this weekend and he was bored. He hung out with some kids who i know are still smoking blues and basically as soon as he told me that i knew what was up. Then today he pocket dialed me and i heard him tell someone he relapsed two days ago.

So basically, I kinda feel like i gotta at least try to save this kids life. I know its unlikely cus im going back to school in a month, but i feel guilty because he was 100% sober before me. Do you guys have any ideas of what i should do? If he gets in trouble again im pretty sure its his 3rd strike
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He;ll make his decisions. You can be a mentor to him, try to keep him in a straight line with you - but it's going to be him that makes his decisions.

Oh dear! You say that he was fine before you two got back mates again - would he strighten up if you two werent mates, or is he set on this course? what would happen if you two werent friends anyore?

Hope it works out - try not to act out of obligation, it's a terrible burden to bear - do what's right or not right to you and your friendship
 
well he was fine in the sense that he didnt see anyone and stayed in his room playing video games for months on end.

if i wasnt friends with him anymore he wouldnt have a chance.
 
ahh I hope everything works out I believe in The Serenity Prayer..it pertains to much of our lives if we could just recognize we are the ones in control.
:) :( somedays are lookin up :) and others not are not so cool :( but life is full of changes.... min. by min.
 
You are a good friend, carrying that weight!!!;) Limit the expectations it leaves less room for disappointment. Does that make sense? somethings just don''t sound right at times, this is one of them.
 
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Well you can't change the past..but in the future..if he's trying to stay clean off roxys and shit, dong ecstasy and other drugs probably isn't the best idea. If he was 100% clean after rehab and started rollin and shit...thats definitely what caused the relapse.

You start to take a step backwards, then 2 steps, then you just downward spiral.

rocker97x said:
So i need some advice.

9 months ago my friend got arrested for fleeing and possesion (2 roxys) and i think he had priors. He was really a fiend bad at the time (smoking em) but the jail time and court ordered rehab got him clean. He was really on the right track, doing good in school and staying out of trouble. We started hanging out again and we became best friends. We smoked weed together every day, and rolled a few times and tripped once but we really stayed out of trouble.

Long story short, i was sick this weekend and he was bored. He hung out with some kids who i know are still smoking blues and basically as soon as he told me that i knew what was up. Then today he pocket dialed me and i heard him tell someone he relapsed two days ago.

So basically, I kinda feel like i gotta at least try to save this kids life. I know its unlikely cus im going back to school in a month, but i feel guilty because he was 100% sober before me. Do you guys have any ideas of what i should do? If he gets in trouble again im pretty sure its his 3rd strike
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rocker97x said:
thanks guys, making me feel alot better.

i think im just gonna talk to him and be like listen man, right now is the best chance your ever gonna have again to get your life back on track, etc etc

Ya i get high btw (pot, psychs, x mostly), but i tend to keep myself out of trouble
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Let me try to understand this... You get high... he was clean... you two hung out and you two used together? If so, this is probably what led to him using again, even if he wasn't using his DOC with you. It's nice that you care, but you shouldn't have been using around someone who has had drug problems. If I'm misunderstanding this please excuse me and set me straight.

Also, this friend's problems aren't yours.
 
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