So a little while back my girlfriend broke up with me and I was upset but it seemed like I was going insane for like 2 days i was pacing and my thoughts didnt make sense i felt upside down and then it got better. Then I got 2 wondering why I was so crazy for 2 days and I realized that it was the 1st time I'd been truly sad in almost 6 years I'd been stressed and all but never really sad I think my body may have forgotten how 2 deal with sadness through this I realized there's also almost nothing that draws a truly extreme emotion from me besides concerts they've never let me down always make me happy but past that I'm almost never really happy or mad or anything...just some background I didn't date any girls for those 5 years, I'm 24, and I had a lot of dissapointments 6 or 7 years ago about 50/50 girl/non girl related. I was just wondering what your thoughts are on this, and maybe if anyone has any non-pharmaceutical options I may try I don't like the idea of being on antidepressants all the time prescribed or not. I've thought of maybe getting back into a sport or club of some sort Im missing passion that's not phish/dead related.
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First and foremost, I am going to move this over to The Dark Side, as I feel you should receive a larger number of responses there.
I know things that have helped me in the past when I've been feeling down for similar reasons usually involve finding something that I find interesting at the time, and immersing myself fully in it. Granted, that's not to say it's the best / healthiest way of dealing with the situation, but it's much better than most of the options that are out there. Basically find a hobby you can get into and hit the ground running with it.
Also, good nutrition, exercise, and proper rest can work wonders with many people's depression.
All the best, keep us posted on how you are doing, and welcome to bL.
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I know things that have helped me in the past when I've been feeling down for similar reasons usually involve finding something that I find interesting at the time, and immersing myself fully in it. Granted, that's not to say it's the best / healthiest way of dealing with the situation, but it's much better than most of the options that are out there. Basically find a hobby you can get into and hit the ground running with it.
Also, good nutrition, exercise, and proper rest can work wonders with many people's depression.
All the best, keep us posted on how you are doing, and welcome to bL.
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omt
Ex-Bluelighter
It sounds like you have become numb to life drifting through it becoming disconnected from your emotions. Are there things you used to enjoy that you have stopped doing? If so, try reconnecting with those things. I stopped reading books for a while whilst using a lot of speed but now that I'm clean I have rediscovered that passion and that's something cheap and non-drug related that makes me happy.
Perhaps there is some more major change you can make in your life to bring back some interest and immediacy. Are you happy in your job and where you live - stuff like that. Was it John Lennon who said "life is what happens when you're making other plans"? I think there is some truth in that... If you can think of a major change you wish to make don't be afraid to try it (obviously after taking some time to think on it and check you do really want to do it).
Perhaps there is some more major change you can make in your life to bring back some interest and immediacy. Are you happy in your job and where you live - stuff like that. Was it John Lennon who said "life is what happens when you're making other plans"? I think there is some truth in that... If you can think of a major change you wish to make don't be afraid to try it (obviously after taking some time to think on it and check you do really want to do it).
tripnotyzm
Bluelighter
Sorry to hear about the break up.
Let me just say it is very common for people to feel and act so crazy after break ups
We've all experienced it, we all know how complicated it can be for our mental health.
You should not let yourself think you have some sort of condition as a mere result over the break up.
Life can be a struggle, and it really sucks when two people fade apart, but the sooner you get your mind fixed on healthy day to day activities, I think the sooner you will find some answers.
Let me just say it is very common for people to feel and act so crazy after break ups
We've all experienced it, we all know how complicated it can be for our mental health.
You should not let yourself think you have some sort of condition as a mere result over the break up.
Life can be a struggle, and it really sucks when two people fade apart, but the sooner you get your mind fixed on healthy day to day activities, I think the sooner you will find some answers.
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herbavore
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^That spounds like a great plan. It is important to find a passion. It can be film, music, art, gardening, cooking--whatever! Just look for something that you can do with your hands--I think it really helps to liven up your life. It also connects you to other people that like the same thing.
omt
Ex-Bluelighter
Everyone needs something in their life aside from work. Even if you enjoy your job you need a way to relax.
kylea39
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he bro ive , we all have im sure,, dude try n chill, someday youll wake up n b fine, lifes weird the feelings we get when our day 2 day life changes, mine did ,it was a dramatic change just 2 months ago, i was home w/my gf and 12 yr old son , then she moved, now we dont liv 2gether but we still lov each other, and i got my job bak after quiting 5 weeks ago , i was heart broken i couldnt go to work, i was a mess, well since i got my job back im not hurting anymore,, itwas the piece i was missing now i lov life 4 wat it is,, ull b ok dude,, kyle
hthr007
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I think joining a club or finding a hobby is a great idea!
I know personally that I can't just absorb myself in work and then do nothing else - I would go insane.
I have various hobbies and also university classes to keep myself busy with. The thing is that with a hobby or a trade, you can see your progression and that can make you feel really good, so I would definantly suggest trying to find something that will show you fruits of your hard work.
I also agree with bronson -- exercise, proper nutrition and proper rest can work wonders. If you don't include vitamins and supplements in your diet already, I would suggest adding a B-complex vitamin and also vitamin D.
You mention that you like concerts, have you tried making your own music? Maybe pick up your favorite instrument + a how-to-book, or take some classes?
I know personally that I can't just absorb myself in work and then do nothing else - I would go insane.
I have various hobbies and also university classes to keep myself busy with. The thing is that with a hobby or a trade, you can see your progression and that can make you feel really good, so I would definantly suggest trying to find something that will show you fruits of your hard work.
I also agree with bronson -- exercise, proper nutrition and proper rest can work wonders. If you don't include vitamins and supplements in your diet already, I would suggest adding a B-complex vitamin and also vitamin D.
You mention that you like concerts, have you tried making your own music? Maybe pick up your favorite instrument + a how-to-book, or take some classes?
xxsicknessxx
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you do get addicted to people and can go through real WD when you are away its a fact saw it on discovery channel. Having something to keep your mind busy is always a good thing something like working out that releases the same chemicals as drugs is a good idea then you can get high on life!
Weight lifting a great. I love looking in the mirror at my body after a good hard lift. Boosts confidence, self worth, and proper dieting means you get to make meals and stuff which can be fun. Also flirting with the ladies on BL is quite fun too :D
pastelcircus
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It's unanimous though, just keep yourself busy, healthy, and balanced.
Patience, grasshopper!
It's unanimous though, just keep yourself busy, healthy, and balanced.
Patience, grasshopper!
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