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I have a question for the parents out there, and anyone else who has an opinion on the matter. Do you/would you continue to take drugs after becoming a parent?

I'm currently four months pregnant, and I had previously been quite the party girl. I went out drinking at least 5 times a week and used coke 1-3 times a week. I had been addicted to drugs in the past (meth) and had quit and also gone through rehab once. My coke use over the last 6 months was not so slowly turning into a potentially large problem and I was struggling to get it under control. Now I have obviously quit all drugs and drinking, changed my entire lifestyle, and am happily looking forward to having my baby. I have decided never to use drugs again because I struggle to control my use, although I will allow myself occasional moderate drinking once in awhile, of course being more responsible than I have in the past. I have never had addiction issues with alcohol.

I have always had strong opinions against being a parent and doing drugs, but perhaps that is because I know I couldn't handle my drugs of choice and would risk fucking up as a mom, which is a chance I'm not willing to take. What is your opinion on doing drugs while being a parent, and which are the acceptable vs. unacceptable drugs?
 
Yeah. After the baby gets going, and stops requiring 1000 hours a day mateinence(sp?). I see no reason not to privilage yourself with a bowl or two of herb once in a while. You can't say you didn't earn it.

Past that though I wouldn't venture. You get caught buying pot out and about, penalties are likely to be much less severe than if you get caught buying coke, or something of that nature.
 
i think its pretty selfish to do drugs untill your child is psychologically mature enough to understand drug use (so ur prolly gonna have to quit untill your kid is about 18-20). if you are spending money on drugs thats pretty pathetic considering u should be spending that on ur kid, not self indulgence.

maybe a drink here and there, but i dont think parents should even get drunk untill their kids are mentally mature enough to understand it.
 
It all depends on your situation... I can't imagine not smoking weed just because I have kids, just a lot less of it. Drinking is the same sort of thing, you just don't have time or money to get really trashed but a drink here and there?whatever. Hard drugs are different, because of the worst case scenarios that could happen. Think about them and how it could affect your child, and base your decision on that.
We all have our habits that keep us sane, and be it a hobby or the occassional hoot off a doobie, it sounds like your baby is enough of a priority for you to enjoy yourself responsibly. Enjoy motherhood, It sounds awesome.!!
 
my mom started drinking in moderation when I was in eighth grade, Now shes an alchoholic. its been like 5 years. watch out for that booze
 
parenting and drugs don't mix

This is reason #203 why I do not want kids. Good for you for having the insight that your life must change in order to create a decent environment for your child. The world is scary enough without having an home life non-conducive to growth.

I am sure there are people who are living contradictions to my views. "Look at me I turned out fine and my parents were dope fiends!" I dunno. What parents may have done and what one actually saw or knew are two very different animals.

Being the "cool" parent who allows drugs because they do it themselves doesn't work towards a healthy relationship. Parents can't be your friends. In the sense of your truest closest pal. I am what I consider close with my mom but I don't need or want to talk to her the way I do with my best friend. I think once your kids are living on their own without your assistance then light up, drink up, whatever...it's going to be a long hard road without the advent of drugs. Parenting is a tough job. I commend you.
 
I started doing drugs when I was 12 and now I am 17. It's funny because when I first started doing drugs, I never even thought that a parent would be doing drugs. But as I grew up, I noticed that a lot of my friend's have found their parents bowls or bongs, and I smoked weed with a lot of parents also.

But would I continue to do drugs even if I was a parent? I would smoke weed and drink. I would try not to do either in front of my kids because trust me, the schools are just wanting these kids to tell them that their parents are doing drugs. I know this for a fact. When I was in 8th grade, we had a DARE cop in there talking to us about drugs. He asked us if we saw anyone doing drugs and me being the class clown that I was then, I said I saw my parents smoke crack. The cop ignored that until after class when he called me out in the hall. He took that super serious and they were about to call Social Services and get me away from my home. Once I told him I was just joking, I ended up getting suspended for 12 weeks.

So if you continue to do drugs, I would strongly advise not to do them in front of your kids. When my dad beat the shit out of me a few years ago and I had to go live in a state home, there were a lot of kids there that were taken out of their homes because their parents were doing drugs. I'm not saying you should stop when you have kids, but just be careful.
 
shags2dope78 said:
But would I continue to do drugs even if I was a parent? I would smoke weed and drink. I would try not to do either in front of my kids because trust me, the schools are just wanting these kids to tell them that their parents are doing drugs. I know this for a fact. When I was in 8th grade, we had a DARE cop in there talking to us about drugs. He asked us if we saw anyone doing drugs and me being the class clown that I was then, I said I saw my parents smoke crack. The cop ignored that until after class when he called me out in the hall. He took that super serious and they were about to call Social Services and get me away from my home. Once I told him I was just joking, I ended up getting suspended for 12 weeks.

So if you continue to do drugs, I would strongly advise not to do them in front of your kids. When my dad beat the shit out of me a few years ago and I had to go live in a state home, there were a lot of kids there that were taken out of their homes because their parents were doing drugs. I'm not saying you should stop when you have kids, but just be careful.
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Thats exactly what i was gonna say.........

Legally, you will be risking losing ur children if u get caught w/ drugs.......IMO nothing is worth losing ur kids over.
 
I see nothing wrong with the occasional recreation use of drugs or alcohol as a parent. Nothing at all. OBVIOUSLY I mean waiting until you are done breast feeding.
I would say that after the kids are gone to bed, it's completely fine for the parents to have some drinks, smoke a little weed, whatever, as long as you can still function as a parent in case you need to.
For anything else, (i.e. tripping or rolling) I would recommend dropping the kids off at a babysitter or grandparents house for a night. That way, if anything weird happens your kid isn't gonna have to witness it.

I agree that you technically could lose your kids for drugs, but I SERIOUSLY doubt that will happen if you are only doing this occasionally, for recreational purposes, and in the privacy of your own home.
 
^^^ I agree. As long as the child is not exposed to it, I don't see a problem as long as the parent is extremely careful and use moderation in their use.
 
Speaking from experience, when my kids were babies I would have a cone (weed) almost every nite(after they were asleep) to help me relax and wind down. I guess in much the same way others would have a couple glasses of wine.BUT when my youngest got to about 2yrs old my husband mentioned that maybe I should cut back a bit. It was then I realized I had developed a habit. It was hard but I did cut right back.

You will find that you wont have the energy or inclination to party after you have the baby. And if you breast feed you CANT /SHOULDNT take any drugs.The first time I went out, my first son was 3 months old I was really excited about having a nite out( I hadnt taken anything), only to be the first one going home because I had missed two feeds and my breasts were huge and sore.

I do take meth and X when I go out but that is not a weekly event (going out) and I always make sure that I dont have to pick my kids up until the next afternoon.

I am aware that I have an addictive personality and do meth binge occasionally, but it is usually to help me get thru busy times at work and home.

I strongly advise against having to deal with a baby after a big nite out on or off drugs/alcohol.Its not fun. My kids are 13 and 10yrs old now and so as parents we are able to go out more often now. I still smoke weed but never in front of my kids.

yOUR LIFE will revolve around your new baby and he/she will be your priority. Just remember your baby will only be this age once you wanna remember it and enjoy it. There will be plenty of opportunties to go out when the baby is older. My best friend stops breast feeding (after a year) next month. We are planning a big weekend but the baby will be looked after by her husband so she can recover gently. There wont be opportunties to be spontaneous once the baby comes along. When you do decide to have a nite out, plan it well.

Good luck with the pregnancy. P.S. I JUST LUV cuddling BABIES!!
 
A golden rule: Don't do drugs in the same house as them or the house you live in or be under the influence of them.
 
All my non parent friends who gave me advice or offered their opinions after my kids were born have found themselves eating their words after becoming parents. Be careful, the friend who said -"I'll never move my stuff around the kids will learn not to touch it", has had to replace the video recorder 3 times in the last year thanks to her youngest, the one who said, "I'll never put my child in care," has her children in care 2 days a week.And the worst thing you can say is when I have kids I'll .... because unless you have kids, I'm sorry, you KNOW shit about raising kids. You may think you know now but wait until parenthood! Everything changes
 
l see absolutely nothing wrong with getting the occasional buzz if you are 100% sure it will not affect your parenting ability. Right now I am 8 months pregnant and my due date is Nov. 9th. Up until around 4 months of my pregnancy I had planned on having an abortion and continued using certain opiates. After deciding that I wasn't going to have the abortion, I tapered myself off of the opiates in order to eliminate any chance of wd in the baby after birth.

Opiates do not affect my ability to function and lead a normal life in any way. After the baby is born I see no problem in my getting a pill or two and coming home to just chill out with my son. It will not make me any less of a parent, IMO. As long as my son has everything he needs, then I think I deserve to have a nice warm euphoric feeling atleast once and awhile. I refuse to get out of hand with it though, and I will never let it take priority over my child.

After all I've been through and will be going through with the birth.. I think I deserve a little something! :)
 
There really isnt anything wrong with sparking an occasional joint after the kids are asleep or such. Pot is basicall harmless as long as your in control of yourself and your environment at the time. Anything habit forming I think is risky just because you are taking the chance of becoming dependent on the drug, even if it is the smallest of chances. I have several friends whos aunts/mothers are addicted to pills or heroin and even share their drugs with their children and I think its dispicable. My good friend's mother sells him pills, doesn't even give but SELLS them to him. He is basically addicted to any and all opiates and drugs in general for that matter.

I know about as much about raising kids as I do rocket science but the only thing I'm sure about is that having another human being's life that you are responsible for is a simply enormous. Best to limit the factors as much as possible that could get you off track or fuck it up.
 
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