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Being a junkie & Having junkie friends.

i have junkie and tweaker friends, but im not a junkie or a tweaker... im just a stoner who frequently enjoys the delights of hard drugs. being friends with these people is a little dangerous for me because I could see myself becoming used to seeing meth all the time and dope all the time, which can only lead to bad things, and hence, i stay away from those people as much as possible despite their long-standing friendships with me. its interesting being the stoner ina group of tweakers and junkies though, you get to see the dynamic between junkies and tweakers, and its funny seeing how they react to each other.
 
The vast majority of junkie relationships ive had have been worthless and manipulative,but there are exceptions to every rule. One of the people I was tight with when strung out is still a close friend of mine, and whether we were trying to score or kick, we both always had each others back. I understand that this is an extreme anomaly, but I think it just reinforces the fact that good people are good people and shit people are shit people. Whether theyre junkies or lawyers. Drugs may put people in difficult positions where they would compromise certain values, but they dont change your heart
 
I have a friend who was there with me when we first started getting into opiates. It was his dad who sold us oxycontin and pills back when we were 15-16 years old, and now at 22 we've both been off the opiates for a year. It's crazy what the drugs do to you, though; when we were 18-19 we stopped hanging out as much, and that's when he sold me $40 worth of pills that he swore were opiates (they really turned out to be prescription NSAIDs). I stopped talking to him for about a year or so, but at the end of our addictions we were using each other again since I had a car and he had tons of connects. I lost contact with him when I started suboxone treatment, but a year and a half later and about 6 months after I finally got off the subs he hit me up out of the blue one day and told me about how he had 7 months clean. To this day he's been completely sober in AA for a year while I'm living in a new city and have been clean from all the opiates for just as long (although I do drink alcohol when I go on dates). I have other friends that I've used with and I still keep in contact with, but they're a far cry from ever being actual junkies so I don't count them.

As for everyone else that I knew from the using days? Haven't talked to em. They're still getting high and have no reason to talk to me. I would gladly be friends with them if they reached out, but I doubt that would ever happen until they get clean, or at least stop using like junkies.
 
BawsStatus said:
it doesn't work. i HAD a junkie friend, who was also my connection. and we'd nod every time we hung out. ever since he's been out of my life, i nod a lot less.
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^in a nutshell, this. I nod not at all, however.

I loved my friend and he loved me. We enjoyed nodding together. We also enjoyed rolling together. His voice and his facial expressions and his conversation enriched my experiences a hundred fold. Our friendship was so meaningful to me that when he began to use me to get heroin, I accepted it. I let lies slide. I must have misplaced a dozen or so twenty dollar bills. I accepted whatever happened because he was important to me and I wanted to keep our relationship.

Once he took my ATM card though. I couldn't cover for the missing money and my family finally found out and then I lost my friend. Our relationship dried up and blew away.

It was the best friendship I've ever had with anyone. It wasn't the longest or the truest friendship. In fact it was short lived and ugly.

But it was the best.
 
Effuzion said:
I have a friend who was there with me when we first started getting into opiates. It was his dad who sold us oxycontin and pills back when we were 15-16 years old, and now at 22 we've both been off the opiates for a year. It's crazy what the drugs do to you, though; when we were 18-19 we stopped hanging out as much, and that's when he sold me $40 worth of pills that he swore were opiates (they really turned out to be prescription NSAIDs). I stopped talking to him for about a year or so, but at the end of our addictions we were using each other again since I had a car and he had tons of connects. I lost contact with him when I started suboxone treatment, but a year and a half later and about 6 months after I finally got off the subs he hit me up out of the blue one day and told me about how he had 7 months clean. To this day he's been completely sober in AA for a year while I'm living in a new city and have been clean from all the opiates for just as long (although I do drink alcohol when I go on dates). I have other friends that I've used with and I still keep in contact with, but they're a far cry from ever being actual junkies so I don't count them.

As for everyone else that I knew from the using days? Haven't talked to em. They're still getting high and have no reason to talk to me. I would gladly Hbe friends with them if they reached out, but I doubt that would ever happen until they get clean, or at least stop using like junkies.
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Really?! "Hi son! Do you and your friends wanna come inside and rail some OC's? Godd stuff right?! bring money next time!! First ones free! See ya later guys!" LOL
I'm sorry I mean I've gotten high with peoples parents before but selling you the shit at 15?!

It's hard to be friends with other junkies when you're using because there's always gonna be the times that they're sick and need to get well and you really don't have enough drugs to spare or vice versa....I've met a lot of people using that if I met under different circumstances, we probably would've be great friends
 
Nah he didn't sell em to his son, but he did give some to him for getting customers. It all started with said friend stealing the pills from his dad when we were experimenting, but once his dad found out, he didn't get mad: instead he offered to sell them to us and our friends for much more than he paid at the pharmacy, but still decent prices as far as OCs go. And no, these guys weren't trailer trash. They were a suburban family living in a nice house.
 
I've managed to stay friends with most of the people that I knew before I ever used dope who also now use. It's a small group of people compared to the total number of junkies I've known, some of whom behaved really scummy. This group of friends numbers six including me. At one time or another we've all had problems with each other, and various people, including myself, have gotten out of touch, sometimes for more than a year. We've been using for eight years.

My experience using heroin has been atypical, I aco wider myself blessed in the secular sense of the word to be a functional junkie, going and finishing high school after dropping out due to cocaine use, going to and graduating with great marks from college, holding on to friendships with non-users, going to work, etc. No dicksizing attempted, I expect that I am still functiona mostly because of pure luck and chance, with my attempts at discipline contributing but only in a minor way. Non-exceptionalistic about my good fortune, because I can still lose everything, and statistically speaking the longer I go functional the more likely I am to fail to sustain any success and crash and burn.

The other folks in this group of my close junkie friends are also to one degree or another functional as I am at the moment, most quite functional indeed but one very un-functional. We haven't stolen from eachother, though we have had problems paying eachother back for money lent. But all in all as junkies that are also friends go, we get on very well and I consider myself to be lucky to have had such an unlikely and uncommon social interaction.

So I would say its very possible to be friends with another junkie and have both a true, non-addiction based friendship and to not backstab eachother or otherwise fight/scam. That said, it seems to be very unlikely to have the rare, exact combination of personalities and random chance events required to sustain such friendships, at least based on other peoples' experiences listed in this thread. So it is possible, but very unlikely, to have real junkies as real friends for a long length of time.
 
szuko000 said:
I have an attractive female friend whose a junkie. The things guys do for her are stupid, she uses everyone and they just accept it. Some guys literally give her money for no reason other then she might sleep with them or throw them extra affection, it's stupid. She tries to pull that shit on me and gets pissed when I dont or I force her to pay me back.
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My running partner was a girl I considered to be a good friend as long as I was paying. She rarely had any cash and when I ran out of money, I would simply go home. Some time later, she had no car and would ask me to come over to drive her to so and so's house to cop. She would tell me she had xx amount of cash and I would say I had maybe seven dollars and she lived about 17 miles away. I would go to pick her up and she's counting change - arrhhgghh. It's gonna be one of those nights. Instantly I knew she's going to this guy's house and some sexual act would be performed to get the money she needed to score.

All for a couple hits? I'm not down for that shit. I told her you wanna cozy up to some geezer than go for it. Don't ask me to drive you back and forth and then I gotta get home. Have him come to your house, it's not worth my time. She quit calling me because I wouldn't do any more driving for her.
 
I know man, I can't believe the amount of money I spent to party plus support somebody elses habit. If it were an equal distribution of cash, then I couldn't complain right? But when I'm footing the bill 95% of the time, I had to just stop it.
 
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