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At what age would you consider most people to be mature mentally?

tokenname said:
I agree with most everyone..
it varies from person to person..

**When you start asking questions instead of doing all talking.

**When you realize you hardly know anything...

**When you've finally realized how grey those black and white lines
used to be.

**When you learn to care for somebody else more than yourself..

The age range for when this happens is too wide to pinpoint an answer..

Some of us were forced to do it way too early....
others never even attempt it.

I think it's a choice you make tbh.

~token
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Great post
 
jazz hands said:
I'm surprised that there aren't more people chiming in about how drastic of a shift they felt around age 25. I definitely felt it, and it seems to be pretty common among people I talk to about this topic.
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The biggest shift I made at 25 was getting in good shape and trying (probably too hard) to be in a committed relationship. Once I got into a relationship, everything sort of went back to the way it was, but I was in a relationship.
 
There is no magic age of when maturity occurs. It's all subjective. What makes someone mature anyway? Living on their own? Paying bills? Is it a frame of mind or attitude? I think everyone defines it a little bit differently.
 
I'm only 21 ... so I guess I have a few more years left until the "magic age" of 25 :p
 
age of 25 isn't a bad estimate. For me getting out of university was really shocking and having to deal with real problems really changed me. I think as well, a great sign of maturity is when a person starts to think about the 'whole' rather than the individual ie. thinking of others before themselves.
 
Your brain stops developing at age 25, logic should tell you maturity should set in.
 
I'm 21 and I'm just a big goofball, I'm not lookin for a relationship so I could care less. I love women, but sometimes I think I'm borederline asexual, cause sex and relationships just don't interest me, which enables me to not give a fuck and to be myself.
 
Maturity/Wisdom is not a destination to arrive at on any arbitrary point in a persons life. We are ALWAYS leaning, developing, maturing and wising, it is a process ongoing throughout our entire lifespan, we will never reach a state of all knowingness nor of complete cognitive responsibilities so the question is therefore when are most people mature/wise ENOUGH, which begs the question FOR WHAT? I believe on average a person of 8 years old to be wise/mature enough to use knives, the oven, get to school and home on their own, maybe have a pet they're responsible for feeding cleaning up after etc A person of 14 to be mature/wise enough to have a part time job, A person of 25 to be responsible for the well being of a dependent person (child or elderly relative for e.g.) For a person to be mature/wise enough to handle all the responsibilities of an "adult" like a job, finances, relationship, children, mortgage, insurance, household, etc. like absolutely EVERYTHING, I would guess 30? Don't know, I'm not there yet.
I define maturity as sort of like the acceptance of personal responsibility and the ability to live up to those accepted responsibilities. What they are specifically depends what you want to do with/get out of life. It may not be a realationship,child,and mortgage that's just an example, it takes a while to figure all this stuff out, it doesn't need to be rushed imo.
 
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Some people never mature, but as a general average, I've noticed that women on average are mature enough for sexual activity at about 21 or 22, some may be a bit younger and mature enough though.
 
I think there's a massive double standard on women with this being "mature" enough to have sex idea. Why is it that when a male gets to his early teens and his hormones come rushing in he can just go yes, this feels good, do want. and explore his developing sexuality. And when a girl reaches her early teens, and she's horny as fuck too everything is new and exciting and she wants to go yes, this feels good, do want she CANT because she is bombarded with silly ideas from society that tell her she is supposed to want to save it for some mythical magic moment, and its supposed to be perfect and if she were to go with her feelings and express them she is told she will later look back and regret it. WTF Boys express their sexuality as comes naturally and we are conditioned to repress ours with a mounting sexual anxiety over expectations that everything has to be perfect first time, and on top of that the so-called moral implications of being human and having normal human appetites, which apparently makes you a slut. If a boy goes out on a date and the girl puts out she is a "slut" The boy having done the exact same thing goes without any mention of moral judgements on his behaviour and may even himself reguard the girl as dirty or slutty irrespective of the fact they have both engaged the exact same act. I think that exploring your sexuality as it develops is desirable for both sexes, as long as if any experimenting with others coming into play is practised safely with peers who are also consenting. (obviously not someone who would exploit their sexual naivety beyond its nature rate of development for their own gains ).

Bit of a rant, but sexuality is not something to feel you have to be ashamed of simply for the crime of being female.
What girls(and boys) should be taught imo is the self confidence to explore sexuality at their own pace and not to allow anyone to push them into something they don't want and equally not to allow ridiculous hypocritical double standards to hold them back with fear or shame which may arrest their sexual development.

Sorry, but raised by strict religious parents taught me I was evil if I felt attraction to anyone before I'd finished school and gotten married, that if I touched my own body or even thought sexual thoughts Jesus was there, listening and judging, and condemning me to eternal hellfire. It was stressful and I am angry about it. The next generation needs to be free.
 
Libby said:
I think there's a massive double standard on women with this being "mature" enough to have sex idea. Why is it that when a male gets to his early teens and his hormones come rushing in he can just go yes, this feels good, do want. and explore his developing sexuality. And when a girl reaches her early teens, and she's horny as fuck too everything is new and exciting and she wants to go yes, this feels good, do want she CANT because she is bombarded with silly ideas from society that tell her she is supposed to want to save it for some mythical magic moment, and its supposed to be perfect and if she were to go with her feelings and express them she is told she will later look back and regret it. WTF Boys express their sexuality as comes naturally and we are conditioned to repress ours with a mounting sexual anxiety over expectations that everything has to be perfect first time, and on top of that the so-called moral implications of being human and having normal human appetites, which apparently makes you a slut. If a boy goes out on a date and the girl puts out she is a "slut" The boy having done the exact same thing goes without any mention of moral judgements on his behaviour and may even himself reguard the girl as dirty or slutty irrespective of the fact they have both engaged the exact same act. I think that exploring your sexuality as it develops is desirable for both sexes, as long as if any experimenting with others coming into play is practised safely with peers who are also consenting. (obviously not someone who would exploit their sexual naivety beyond its nature rate of development for their own gains ).

Bit of a rant, but sexuality is not something to feel you have to be ashamed of simply for the crime of being female.
What girls(and boys) should be taught imo is the self confidence to explore sexuality at their own pace and not to allow anyone to push them into something they don't want and equally not to allow ridiculous hypocritical double standards to hold them back with fear or shame which may arrest their sexual development.

Sorry, but raised by strict religious parents taught me I was evil if I felt attraction to anyone before I'd finished school and gotten married, that if I touched my own body or even thought sexual thoughts Jesus was there, listening and judging, and condemning me to eternal hellfire. It was stressful and I am angry about it. The next generation needs to be free.
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+1..great post..

I still stick with my original opinion..
i'm 33...30 was no magic wake up call..
maturity is a choice you make..
i definitely know ppl who are older than me..
who i would never consider mature..
and ppl younger than me..whom I would..
my own maturity varies from day to day..
tbh.

~token
 
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I think one of the biggest misconceptions is that humans mature by time rather than through the challenges of the scenarios they're confronted with.
 
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