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"Ashley Madison Agency"-Dating site 4 married ppl lookn 4 other marrieds 2 cheat with

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"Ashley Madison Agency"-Dating site 4 married ppl lookn 4 other marrieds 2 cheat with

Now Before yall be like, how is this any different than craigslist, etc, if you dont know Ill explain it to you. I just heard of it today, and im just........No words.Aight,

Ashleymadison is a site for married people to meet other married people to have affairs with. It is specifically made only for married people who want to have find another married person to cheat with. Dont get it twisted--It aint to help organize threesomes or swingers or couples sex. It is for men and women who are married and want to cheat on their spouse to find another married man or woman who will have an affair with them. It aint some kind of "marital aid" site that helps couples have better sex or some shit or that type of thing that helps couples who want to experiment and add another couple or person. No, its only for folks who want to sneak around on their man or woman, and its there to link them to other ppl who want to do the same.

I aint stupid, i know theres all kinda kinky shit in this world and craigslist and personal ads and all that wtfever, this aint the only place ppl can do this, but its totally with one purpose, devoted to helping cheating by married folks, so its a little different at least to me it seems that way. becuz unlike a random freaky-sex bazzarr like CL or w/ever, this site is made with just one purpose in mind and that is to link married people who want to cheat on their spouse, with each other. One quote from one of their ads: "You're in a relationship, right? Want to have an affair anyways?"

Their whole idea is "Sex on the side" and another quote "Life is short, have an affair." Very much like its a cool, sexy, fun, harmless kind of thing to do. Iunno yall. I aint no fuckn right wing conservative type of broad. I aint somebody who is super judgemental about this kind of shit. But this site makes me kind of sick. Yea, I know, I understand. People cheat, it happens. for how ever many reasons. It aint like im saying "Hey, cheatin happens, but as long as its behind closed doors its OK by me!" Cuz i dont got no respect for cheaters, but I am able to understand that ppl got their own personal bizness and it aint mine. It aint about the fact that this is openly admitting and puttin it freely that cheating happens. It aint like my problem is just the fact that all of a sudden it aint a hidden shameful thing but now a cool fun "empowered' thing or some shit. Becuz personaly I dont care for cheating in any way at all, whether its a unspoken tabboo or somethin that everyone talks about, BUT-To put it wayyy out on front street like that, and present it as some kind of fun, desireable thing that everybodys doin, amd really promote it instead of just acknowlege it, is a little bit more, you feel me? Its one thing to accept that like it or not, people will cheat, but to actually condone it and promote it like that is a little much for me.

But this thread aint here to get in a debate about is cheating OK--Its how do you feel about the fact that we got a website now that is devoted to helping married people cheat, and puttin ads on TV and the radio to promote it? I know it sounds funny like, Oh, the children!!! O noes!! But honestly, another thing that I just thought of too is that with the publicity this is gettin, i wouldnt want my kid to hear that radio ad and get the idea that cheating is some kind of normal, cool thing to do, cuz "we all need a little affair now and then!" 8(

So....Do you think this site is fucked up? Why or why not? Do you feel like this is any different than sites like craigslist, or is it the same thing and I am just gettin disturbed over nothin? Why , why not? Now we all support free speech here Im assuming....So I dont think they should like shut down the site or sumtn. I aint saying "OMG, get that shit off the internet right this moment!"

I just kinda feel like the fact that there is a site like this and esp. that its gettin so much mainstream promotion on TV shows (apparently on dr phil good morning america the view and a bunch of other popular ones) , is a sign of something kind of sick within our culture here in the US. The fact that this is seen as normal and somethin worthy of encouraging is a symptom of our nations fucked up and distorted views of sex and love, IMO. So, how do yall feel about it? Check out the site, tell me wat u think....Heres a link to the main page and the FAQs
 
The fact that cheating is encouraged by this site is wrong in itself IMO.

Had a look at the site, "life is short, have an affair" I personally find this very nauseating.
If you're married, stay there, if you dont want to be married, then leave. Cheating on your partner (and joining a site which enourages it).. Well I dont agree. Just my opinion.


Just read the FAQ's.. The FIRST question is

Q. Does Ashley Madison encourage infidelity?
A. No, Ashley Madison does not encourage anyone to stray. In fact, if you are having difficulty with your relationship, you should seek counseling.


WHAT??? What about the quote on the FRONT page " life is short, have an affair". What a complete contradiction.

Goodness me. I could go on for ages, but I wont, I will just express my opinion as asked by lacey k. Just. Plain. Wrong.
 
This site is just wrong....

But hey.... i wonder how many people sign up to that site to see if they can find there spouse on it....I know if i did, i would get proof she cheated on me... Than take the kids, Move outta the country and get alimony from the cheating bitch.
 
I've heard radio commercials for this site.

It's fucked up, for real.

I think folk that use the site are trifling mother fuckers, but at the same time, it is there business.
 
My op: Indifferent. Personals to the same effect have been around for a very long time; someone who's going to cheat is going to do it through the local rag or through word-of-mouth or through plentyoffish or through Ashley Madison. The media channel is but a symptom.

That said, I utterly despise their ads. Nor do I have any love for cheaters or homewreckers. I just think that you either give a shit about the integrity of your relationship, or you don't.
 
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That site sounds fucked up but people are going to sign up for sites and cheat anyway even if it's not a site like Ashley Madison that says it's designed just for people to cheat, and it's just marketed as a regular dating site. I don't think it's a good thing that the site is saying that cheating on someone who you're married to in a supposed monogamous relationship and having affairs is no big deal at all or that it's sexy.

I'm not sure if it's cheating but my friend's dad is REALLY into doing phone sex with college aged girls and cybering and the webcam thing and he's married and 60. I found out about this since my friend would find webcam images of women on his dad's computer or I'd be over hanging out and his dad would be in the married but flirting yahoo chat room. Or another time the dad wanted to make a long distance call and it was to one of his college aged women to have phone sex with and he was going to do it in his car and his wife got angry and he played it off as a regular phone call that was long distance and she said he should just use the land line and he insisted that he simply had to make the call on his cell in the parked car in the driveway. 8)

I have friends that cheat on their partners/husbands or who did once cheat in the past and their partner/husband knows about the cheating and either doesn't care and they wind up evolving into having a don't ask don't tell open relationship years later since they both still love each other and do not want to separate, or they separated for awhile and then later got back together and the person that cheated no longer does at all and they are completely monogamous.

People are going to cheat however they can even if they're not going to a site that's specifically designed for that.

I've seen lots of personal ads on various sites and usually if someone says how they have to be discreet or want to be discreet, that either means that they're cheating on someone or married, closeted, and cheating.

I've heard of people having sex with someone who they don't know is married at all as they aren't wearing a wedding ring or don't tell, or just lie about it when asked, and then after sex that person turns around and says "Oh hahahaha, BTW I'm married!" I had an experience sort of like that but it turns out the guy was just really dating and sleeping with multiple people at the same time and not actually in a monogamous relationship with anyone.

I've heard how if this happens that it's not your problem since even if you did know that they were married that you are not the one who is cheating. I've never been in that situation but I'm not sure how I'd feel about being someone's piece on the side or their paramour.

I have one friend that did want to cheat with me, since his partner would have affairs with other people and just didn't give a fuck, and I said no since nobody is forcing my friend to stay with a partner that cheats and I did not want to be a homewrecker.

I agree with TF that if you're married/partnered and not in an open relationship and whoever you are with thinks that you're monogamous if you're just going to cheat anyway you should leave them or get a divorce if that's possible.

The most fucked up sex sites I've seen are the barebacking PNP bug chasing sites where people who are completely healthy want to become Poz or in some cases they probably already are and have multiple strains of it. :(
 
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well seems to me these people are gonna cheat, website or no.

but still, fuck whoever thought of that
 
Phew, aight...Glad that yall agree with me. Becuz this forum is known to be pretty liberal about "free love" and Im glad that ppl still seem to have some kind of sense of ethics about a topic like this .
 
I hope the people who create the site unknowingly have their spouses sign up and use it to cheat on them. Ok, not really, but it's sort of what they deserve.

BTW, looked it up on wikipedia... it reports 5.2 million members?! WTF????? Gross.
 
It's filthy, deviant, evil and absolutely genius.

I've been hearing ads for this for a long time (my bf listens to Howard Stern). It's fairly despicable, but to make profit off of something that people are inevitably going to do is a great business idea. The fact they can sell it so innocently - "life is short..." is wild. I wonder what kind of mind came up with this.

And I wonder how many people have caught their spouses. Oh man.
 
OK well now that I aint makin the original post no more Ill put more of my opinion into this..The shit is sick.

The mainstreaming, normalization of cheatin in our society really disturbs me. Little by little it went from "People cheat, and we dont talk about it, its hidden and taboo" to the less severe and more understanding "People cheat, and its a terrible thing that may ruin a marraige, and can destroy the one who got cheated on, but we have to be open about it and talk about it, becuz the cheater made a terrible mistake but still has feelings" to "Cheating happens to most of us, its pretty common, it sucks but hey wat can you do, its just how men/women are naturally wired" to "Everyone cheats, its unavoidable, its natural, we cant help it, its human nature" to "Cheating , its just as common as taking a shit, and since its so wide spread, we might as well just accept it. If ya cant beat em, join em!" and now its just pretty much a fad, that "everyone" does, and I aint sayin we should do some scarlet letter shit and shun these ppl, but to openly accept it and make it be a totally completely normal type of socially acceptable thing aitn the right answer neither.
 
This is morally outrageous.



It would take all the fun out of cheating if both parties knew what was up ahead of time.


Without the taboo, hell. What's the point?
 
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It's filthy, deviant, evil and absolutely genius.

I've been hearing ads for this for a long time (my bf listens to Howard Stern). It's fairly despicable, but to make profit off of something that people are inevitably going to do is a great business idea. The fact they can sell it so innocently - "life is short..." is wild. I wonder what kind of mind came up with this.

And I wonder how many people have caught their spouses. Oh man.
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Seriously. I'm not married, but if I was and suspected my spouse of cheating on there, I wouldn't be above making a fake profile or asking a friend he didn't know to be a decoy. I seem to recall it is free for women to join but men have to pay (go figure).

Obviously this is morally reprehensible, but someone's majorly profiting (profiteering?) from this enterprise. I don't quite wish I had thought of it, as adultery cannot be condoned.

Lacey, you make a very good point about the normalization of cheating and adultery in our society. I've observed a lot of relationships and marriages crumble because one partner was unfaithful to the other (some couples have an "agreement" and as long as that isn't coerced, I don't care) and it really does threaten the ideal of the family structure to think of marriage as a throwaway proposition.
 
Sign of the times eh. Seems you'd have to be a bit cavalier to risk posting a profile on there w/ the risk of getting found out. Hell, you could start another business just trying to track down the profiles, then sell the dirt to the cheating basterd's spouses. Or work out a contract to get a split on the ensuing divorce loot, yeah.

In all likleihood, most people realize this and it's probably not unlike any other "get laid quick" scheme. People want to believe that they can just shell out some duckets and get laid on sites like this. But most of the profiles are probably fake anyway, and just serve to get people signed up and paying. This is just speculation however, though I shudder at the thought that it's totally legitimate.
 
Cheating is never right, but cheating is gonna happen, no matter what we do. This, however, is just disgusting. Encouraging people to cheat with other people that are cheating themselves? WTF? I'm all about polyamory and open relationships and whatever if that's what you're into, but this is just wrong on every possible level. Cheating is always the wrong answer. Always.
 
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