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Are you happy?

if i list the positive things in my life, all signs would point to happiness...

i have a loving bf who is very special to me.

i have a fairly well paying job that i enjoy.

i'm pretty much out of debt.

i have saved over 700 dollars towards our move to oregon.

my family is in pretty good health.

i have everything i need.

all these things SHOULD say that i'm happy, but there's one thing that brings me down.

i can't give my bf a kiss everyday.

hopfully that will soon change and i will achieve complete happiness.
 
I'm not sure if I'm "happy" so to speak. I guess I'm content, bordering on complacent.

I'm done with school, have a job I like (but not making any real money), no baby mama drama type bullshit so to speak. I thought I'd be happy.

But I'm sooooo bored! :(

I'm about to start paying back student loans and that's gonna be a bitch for the next 10 years. All for a piece of paper that says I'm kinda smart.....geez.

Bordom can't last forever can it???
 
FoxyKel said:
Inspired by psilocybe's thread "Are you actively pursuing (or living) your DREAM in life?", I'm curious to know - how many of you are simply living for that dream?

I see a lot of people getting caught up trying to 'become' who they want to be that they miss out on enjoying who they already are. Often by the time they 'become' who and what they want to be (if in fact they ever reach that point in life - a lot don't!), they often find that they have a limited time to enjoy it.

Are you happy with yourself and your life as it stands today?

- |{elle
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Well, to be honest, for the most part, I'm satisfied with the way I'm going. I do have one large negative thing in my life. I'm playing with fire and hopefully I can take care of that situation before something bad happens. Other than that, I'm taking care of school and working. I'm saving a good amount of money while helping out my mom also. I'm assuming I'm living the life of your average 20 year old guy. I mean I have goals, but nothing incredibly specific. I really in the end just ask to make a decent living where I can enjoy my life.

-poste
 
^^ I wish i could patent a pill to cahnge that attitude :\


But right now, I'd have to say Yeah, I'm pretty damn happy. Of course I'm at college and there is VERY LITTLE to worry about, and a LOT of fun to be had.

Life through the good and bad, just keeps getting better (as unoriginal as that sounds)
 
Am I happy? Hell no, only drugs make me close to feeling happy. I'm not a drug addict either, just a guy with a shitty job and shitty life. Hopefully my mentality(and life) will change as i get older (i am 19 now).

As Henry said in Dreamcatcher, there's always the Hemmingway Solution.
 
Drugs don't make a person happy, they just dull the pain of reality... and your life wont change until your attitude does. :|

- |{elle
 
I'd like to start by sending some love towards dance4life: a liver transplant? That's some hardcore shit there. Your attitude is amazing, you'll definitely pull through fine with self-belief like that.

On a more prosaic note I'd like to offer to hook fizzy up with some nice boys if she ever decides that where I am is the place she needs to be. (And it is dammit! Come and visit and live here with me! It'll be cool).

On-topic: yes, I am. I am deliriously happy. Happy like I'm peaking on E, all the time. And I'm stone sober. Everything seems to be falling into place, after such a long time. Things are working on all levels. I'm really confident. (And for BKR - I went through a long time, years, of feeling like you do. It is possible to get through it and find what you want. It just takes time).
 
I think that I am SO confused in my life right now that I cant decide if I'm happy or not.

I'm facing a huge life changing decision in the next few days and thinking about it is taring me up inside. I am happy in the sense that I know I have plenty to be greatful for: health for me and my family, food in my stomach and shelter in which to rest. But it makes me very unhappy to think of all the stupid little mistakes i've made and how dearly I'm paying for them now. Over the last five years i have managed to drop out of a prestigious university, sink myself hopelessly into debt, witness my parents' divorce, and the latest good news: i just got convicted of a felony over 1 (yes one!) pill of ecstasy.

Anyway, now by the end of this week i have to decide whether to stay here in southern california and do god knows what with my life or move to Virginia and work in a family business there. Its a good opprtunity for a lucrative (I hope) future and some self respect and vindication. But on the flip side i will be leaving my girlfriend whom i love and also missing the chance to see my little brother through high school and being there for him in times he'll need me. All this is a much bigger deal than in sounds, to me.
I'm so torn that I dont know what to do. I dont want to hurt my gf, i want to be there for her and my brother but i also want to make a life for myself

Anyone with some insight please feel free to respond.

And for those of you that are truly happy, I am happy FOR you. Its good to know that happyness still does exitst out there in a world so full of bad news.
 
Wow... what a big question to ask oneself :\

My immediate reaction is to say "kind of".

I mean there's nothing particularly wrong with my life... it's just that there's very little spark at the moment. I guess my boring job and the fact I'm supporting my partner at the moment (ie. feeling trapped in aforementioned boring job) has a lot to do with it. My life is very routine: work 9-5, Monday to Friday, watch tv most nights, take drugs on the weekend, start the cycle over again.

But I have a lot to be grateful for, really. My relationship is going fantastically, after a period of turmoil recently; I have a roof over my head and enough money to pay our bills, a nice car (albeit one I"m still paying off :D ) and plenty of friends.

I'm just ... I don't know... there's something missing. Spontenaiety? Passion for what I do? Ambition? Something to work towards except paying the gas bill? ........... something like that :(
 
Just a simple yes.

Things are working out, falling into place. I am happy because of many reasons in my life and the people closest to me know why - and I'm also happy just because I am.

True that I don't have a well-paid job, that I'm always spending majority of my time at work; and my problems are still there. But I've weathered the downs that came my way - and the bottomline is that I'm happy.

:)

xoxoxo bisK
 
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I'm happy in my relationship, but really in nothing else at the moment. I kindof feel lost. I really want to go back to school and get a degree but I'm not sure doing what. I think I want to do computer animation but that is not definite. The place where I live is boring and too expensive for us. We did find a nice little coastal town on the east coast of VA that we want to move to, but that could take a year (probably more) before we actually save up enough to move. My one really close friend moved and I never get to see her anymore. And the friends that I recently tried to make turned out to be judgemental and gossipy (the gossip wasn't about me but *was* about everyone one else that they came across and I HATE that!) and I finally couldn't deal with it anymore and stopped hanging out with them.

There really isn't anything majorly wrong except that I see my life flying by and it's nothing that I wanted it to be. It's simply boring. My basic needs are taken care of but that's it. I want to learn...travel...make friends...change the world. Only I don't know how. :\
 
Strawberry_lovemuffin said:
I'm just ... I don't know... there's something missing. Spontenaiety? Passion for what I do? Ambition? Something to work towards except paying the gas bill? ........... something like that :(
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i feel the same way. i'm happy sure...but there's something that is well, missing.

maybe it's the feeling that i'm not gettin anywhere in my life right now. whether it be school or work...i feel stuck. :|

i'm happy, but i'm not satisfied. :\
 
I am completely happy now that I have my son in my life. However I am not happy with where I am at, my jobs ok but I want more money :) PLus I hate thje fact that I am living back in NY but needed my parents around for the baby.

So yes I am very happy but there are a few things I hope to accomplish to better my position in the working field.

~LP
 
No. And not being so makes me realise it is the first period in my life that I have ever not been happy.

I believe there are 2 types of happiness that I experience. Or used to experience.

Firstly I used to have a mild, but pleasent feeling of happiness running throughout me all the time. This is more of a feeling of well-being, since it is not effected by my feelings at anyone time.

Then I used to have emotions of happiness that fluctuated dependant on my mood (obviously derived from external stimuli).

However, for the last 6 months these have both been missing. And only now that my feeling of well being has gone can I note that if ever existed.

You only can appreciate the natural harmony of life when it is gone, and how in actual fact all those problems you had were simply more experiences to live.

Now I feel like this, I can no longer find worth in much. Having said all that, I actually seem to be getting a bit better these past few days, so still live in hope.
 
I'm rather unhappy today... but I know that some day, with my knowledge and who I am as a person, I'll have a very great family filled with love and happiness. That's what I look forward to.
 
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that was irony
 
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Not really happy at the moment, feeling pretty lost, just kind of hoping that if I reach my goal to get back into school I'll feel better, but Im beginning to think I'll have to find something in the meantime.... anything.
I dont think my partner is the person im going to be with for the rest of my life, as much as i would want it, i just dont think its the best thing, and its hard to know what to do about it. We live together so I cant just pick up and leave or anything.... as much as i want to get away......
my full time job just isnt fulfilling, although I should be excited about my second job, im just not. I just need a huge change.....
I felt pretty ok about my body even though im a lil bigger, i think curves are sexy, until i heard about some people i know bitching about me....
I dunno I just feel lost, empty... and I feel like theres no one in my life at the moment that I can talk to......
 
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