Are you going through a tough time?

When things get bad, just think about how worse they could have been. Count your blessings, I know it's redundant but it's true. If you have the ability to cope with it, then it isn't that bad because eventually it will all be behind you in a place where you no longer let it affect you. Letting things hurt you means that you've let them won. It's something I've only recently learned to do, and it has literally made all the difference in the world for me.

 

i get stuck in a terrible loop if i start to think about how bad things can get. because then i get worried and stressed out that they will get worse. or i will end up getting mad at myself for making a mountain out of mole hill which is not much more useful than being depressed.

 

Don't think about how things COULD turn out, think how they could HAVE turned out.

 

Or rather, how they did.

Things almost never wind up as bad as we expect. Once this is realized (I'm still working on it ), eventually expectation itself falls away.

I like the idea of actually making a list of the things that are going well. Just from the ones that I can pull off the top of my head have me amazed at my incredible fortune. Sure, I have difficulties, but while they are noisy as hell, they are vastly outnumbered by my quiet little blessings. Thanks for the reminder badfish!