Often times, initially when someone says something like, "We don't accept personal checks," my first impulse is to say something like, "Ok will you accept an impersonal check?" Usually I keep my comments to myself, with 2 exceptions: 1. when I write or 2. if I happen to be in a wicked and silly mood at the time or hell 3. When I'm with my group of friends that all get high, THEN I don't have to censor myself quite as much. Those people are more likely to laugh at my silliness and not take offense.
Now, recently I've gotten comments from a couple people (from another site) that indicate they are miffed because I haven't contacted them. Often times, (more often than not) the reason is men state on their profiles that they just want lots of wild and freaky sex. I realize that sex is the main reason most men are on that site, but that's why I too am up front and honest about exactly what I'm seeking in my profile: a match for a part time romantic affair. Why? As I explained in my profile, I can't get turned on just like that. I have to be turned on by someones mind first BEFORE getting sexual.
I realize too, that part of the problem is that I tend to be an exhibitionist, hence the reason for the pics of tits and ass over the years. I think tits and ass are pretty to look at, especially when taken at the right angle, the right lighting, the right pose. The camera tends to make one look 12% heavier than he/she is. I am an artist. I know what looks good and what doesn't, so I have fun trying to do something with that talent, when I can.
Shopping for a sex partner takes time. Since men are capable of getting turned on a lot faster than we are, that difference between the sexes can be frustrating for both. When I think back on how I used to be, the raging hormones starting so young lasting until I was about 27 or 28, I guess I can understand a little more where men are coming from, only I was a bit more picky about who I went to bed with.
If there wasn't an acceptable partner around, which often times there wasn't, and when I wasn't in a relationship, I remember the frustration of unfulfilled horniness. Still, at the same time, as experience taught me, that was preferable than screwing some guy merely because he happened to be good looking and available, or just plain available. Lesson learned. To me, no sex is preferable to lousy sex.
I have met someone off the other site that I think is for real, and will probably hook up with, although it's been so long since I've been with anybody, I confess I'm nervous. I don't usually date younger men either, but if he's got a dynamite personality, that makes me want to find out more. Is he that way in person too? So, back to my original point, my silliness. I saw how some guy answered the other site's question what his ideal person would be like, and he answered, "My Ideal Person: A WOMAN WHO IS NOT ABOUT DRAMA AND WHO LOVES TO FUCK."
When I read that, my first thought was,"But is a woman that fucks dramatically acceptable?" Of course, I kept my smart ass question to myself. I wasn't thinking that to make fun of him, it was just my silly, playful side coming out. Still, I'm not one to lead a guy on and had I written my question to him, that would have given him the wrong impression. I tend to shy right away from men's profiles that state they want lots of sex right now and no game players. Ok, fine I respect that, but I'm not going to pretend that I'm going to fuck someone right off the bat either, cause I won't.
About a little over a year ago, I bought a sports car, and I LOVE it! It goes FAST, and yes that pic is a pic of the speedo inside my car. That car can go from 0-60 in 5 seconds, just like most of the young studs on this site under 30, no doubt. Although in my teens and 20's I preferred foreplay, I didn't have to have it, and could do the 0-60 gig in 5 seconds, lol. Once I hit my late 20's though, my mind changed.
I'm a lot more like my Mom's car, a 1998 El Dorado with a V8 engine and once it's warmed up, it can and will book. That's how my body is now. I'm an older model, I've got some mileage on me. I've been around the block a few times, and I'm no longer like the brand new sports car right off the lot that performs hard and fast in mere seconds. No, this mind and body, is an older model with more mileage, great engine, but you've got to warm this baby up first before driving it. For me that equals a little romance/sweetness, someone that can carry on a conversation which reveals his fun personality, and (although not required) a guy that can make me laugh scores mega brownie points.
In fact, looking back, funny extroverts were often who I went for when I was very young, because I found those qualities lacking in myself. Don't get me wrong, I've always been a nut in a cute kind of way, but was just never able to express it until I was friends with someone for a long time. I admired those extroverted types that could just go up and talk to anyone and immediately were well liked. I'm still an introvert, that's just who I am, and that's ok. Both types have their good and bad points, so I like quiet guys too, if that is both of us aren't so quiet we never communicate in the first place.
So, to the guy that sent me an email asking me why I'm so insecure, would you care to elaborate on that? I don't mind an honest question, so long as it's not merely a sugar coated attack from harboring a resentment against me for whatever reason. Also, I DO enjoy playing the game "Monopoly" once in a while. Darn. I guess that makes me a game player, yuck, yuck, yuck.
Now, recently I've gotten comments from a couple people (from another site) that indicate they are miffed because I haven't contacted them. Often times, (more often than not) the reason is men state on their profiles that they just want lots of wild and freaky sex. I realize that sex is the main reason most men are on that site, but that's why I too am up front and honest about exactly what I'm seeking in my profile: a match for a part time romantic affair. Why? As I explained in my profile, I can't get turned on just like that. I have to be turned on by someones mind first BEFORE getting sexual.
I realize too, that part of the problem is that I tend to be an exhibitionist, hence the reason for the pics of tits and ass over the years. I think tits and ass are pretty to look at, especially when taken at the right angle, the right lighting, the right pose. The camera tends to make one look 12% heavier than he/she is. I am an artist. I know what looks good and what doesn't, so I have fun trying to do something with that talent, when I can.
Shopping for a sex partner takes time. Since men are capable of getting turned on a lot faster than we are, that difference between the sexes can be frustrating for both. When I think back on how I used to be, the raging hormones starting so young lasting until I was about 27 or 28, I guess I can understand a little more where men are coming from, only I was a bit more picky about who I went to bed with.
If there wasn't an acceptable partner around, which often times there wasn't, and when I wasn't in a relationship, I remember the frustration of unfulfilled horniness. Still, at the same time, as experience taught me, that was preferable than screwing some guy merely because he happened to be good looking and available, or just plain available. Lesson learned. To me, no sex is preferable to lousy sex.
I have met someone off the other site that I think is for real, and will probably hook up with, although it's been so long since I've been with anybody, I confess I'm nervous. I don't usually date younger men either, but if he's got a dynamite personality, that makes me want to find out more. Is he that way in person too? So, back to my original point, my silliness. I saw how some guy answered the other site's question what his ideal person would be like, and he answered, "My Ideal Person: A WOMAN WHO IS NOT ABOUT DRAMA AND WHO LOVES TO FUCK."
When I read that, my first thought was,"But is a woman that fucks dramatically acceptable?" Of course, I kept my smart ass question to myself. I wasn't thinking that to make fun of him, it was just my silly, playful side coming out. Still, I'm not one to lead a guy on and had I written my question to him, that would have given him the wrong impression. I tend to shy right away from men's profiles that state they want lots of sex right now and no game players. Ok, fine I respect that, but I'm not going to pretend that I'm going to fuck someone right off the bat either, cause I won't.
About a little over a year ago, I bought a sports car, and I LOVE it! It goes FAST, and yes that pic is a pic of the speedo inside my car. That car can go from 0-60 in 5 seconds, just like most of the young studs on this site under 30, no doubt. Although in my teens and 20's I preferred foreplay, I didn't have to have it, and could do the 0-60 gig in 5 seconds, lol. Once I hit my late 20's though, my mind changed.
I'm a lot more like my Mom's car, a 1998 El Dorado with a V8 engine and once it's warmed up, it can and will book. That's how my body is now. I'm an older model, I've got some mileage on me. I've been around the block a few times, and I'm no longer like the brand new sports car right off the lot that performs hard and fast in mere seconds. No, this mind and body, is an older model with more mileage, great engine, but you've got to warm this baby up first before driving it. For me that equals a little romance/sweetness, someone that can carry on a conversation which reveals his fun personality, and (although not required) a guy that can make me laugh scores mega brownie points.
In fact, looking back, funny extroverts were often who I went for when I was very young, because I found those qualities lacking in myself. Don't get me wrong, I've always been a nut in a cute kind of way, but was just never able to express it until I was friends with someone for a long time. I admired those extroverted types that could just go up and talk to anyone and immediately were well liked. I'm still an introvert, that's just who I am, and that's ok. Both types have their good and bad points, so I like quiet guys too, if that is both of us aren't so quiet we never communicate in the first place.
So, to the guy that sent me an email asking me why I'm so insecure, would you care to elaborate on that? I don't mind an honest question, so long as it's not merely a sugar coated attack from harboring a resentment against me for whatever reason. Also, I DO enjoy playing the game "Monopoly" once in a while. Darn. I guess that makes me a game player, yuck, yuck, yuck.