badfish45
Bluelight Crew
Hey all
28M been single for about 3 years now. Mostly have been taking time to work on my mental health, strengthen relationships with friends/family and find new hobbies. I spend a lot of my time reading, gaming, training muay thai, producing music, skating and just being outside. I do like going out but am more inclined towards introversion. I do drink but not very often. Mostly just smoking weed a couple of times a month and periodically taking MDMA, LSD, 2cb and occassionaly ketamine.
Ive recently been wanting to put myself out more again. On one hand im pretty happy with my single life but cant deny that meeting another person in any capacity would be nice, as I definitely am someone who does well in a relationship, casual or serious, and I do get lonely at times.
Ive spent the past year working on going out more and talking to strangers. I try to get myself out to shows, skate parks, social events and occassionaly go to the barcade near me. Ive gotten better at talking to strangers and women im attracted to, its definitely resulted in a few new friendships. I try my best to just be authentic. I seem to still have trouble meeting people or getting women whos numbers/socials Ive gotten to follow up on dates. Im definitely not being overeager or overbearing with my communication over text (I generally keep texting pretty relaxed until Ive gotten to know someone better). I havent really met anyone through my direct social circle, and online dating has just mostly been a bust for me.
Im curious if anyone has any advice with how to be more productive with this aspect of my life. Talking with strangers definitely isnt my natural instinct and takes more motivation but I am able to do it, it just hasnt seemed to result in very much. I do get anxious with girls im attracted to but am generally able to still go through with talking to them. I try to be pretty true to myself and go to do things I personally have an interest in (such as going to metal, goth and electronic shows) but also try to put myself out there in new places too (such as a bar).
Im definitely not on some incel/redpill bullshit, and I do like myself quite a bit, this whole procees has just been getting frustrating and im curious what other peoples experiences here have been
28M been single for about 3 years now. Mostly have been taking time to work on my mental health, strengthen relationships with friends/family and find new hobbies. I spend a lot of my time reading, gaming, training muay thai, producing music, skating and just being outside. I do like going out but am more inclined towards introversion. I do drink but not very often. Mostly just smoking weed a couple of times a month and periodically taking MDMA, LSD, 2cb and occassionaly ketamine.
Ive recently been wanting to put myself out more again. On one hand im pretty happy with my single life but cant deny that meeting another person in any capacity would be nice, as I definitely am someone who does well in a relationship, casual or serious, and I do get lonely at times.
Ive spent the past year working on going out more and talking to strangers. I try to get myself out to shows, skate parks, social events and occassionaly go to the barcade near me. Ive gotten better at talking to strangers and women im attracted to, its definitely resulted in a few new friendships. I try my best to just be authentic. I seem to still have trouble meeting people or getting women whos numbers/socials Ive gotten to follow up on dates. Im definitely not being overeager or overbearing with my communication over text (I generally keep texting pretty relaxed until Ive gotten to know someone better). I havent really met anyone through my direct social circle, and online dating has just mostly been a bust for me.
Im curious if anyone has any advice with how to be more productive with this aspect of my life. Talking with strangers definitely isnt my natural instinct and takes more motivation but I am able to do it, it just hasnt seemed to result in very much. I do get anxious with girls im attracted to but am generally able to still go through with talking to them. I try to be pretty true to myself and go to do things I personally have an interest in (such as going to metal, goth and electronic shows) but also try to put myself out there in new places too (such as a bar).
Im definitely not on some incel/redpill bullshit, and I do like myself quite a bit, this whole procees has just been getting frustrating and im curious what other peoples experiences here have been