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Any Guys here with Low Sex drive??
- Thread starter belfort
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the problem is, having a low sex drive will make u depressed lol..kind of a vicious cycle and its a problem thats not easily remedied unless u want to go on TRT..
the_ketaman
Bluelighter
Methadone is terrible for my sex drive. Im 24 and been on methadone since I was 19 & while just methadone isn't as bad as a full on IV heroin habit and even worse with an added benzo habit like I had, it still sucks though. I'm gay and the one who does the fucking in my relationship so it can be a nuisance. Its nothing too bad just not as keen for it as often as maybe I should be.
I only get really, really horny if I use meth unfortunately. And I've managed to develop a habit with IV/smoked methamphetamine now which is far more destructive than the opiates or benzos. Meth has messed me up pretty bad. I almost always engage in risky sexual behaviour when I shoot Meth. Its something I struggle to control. Its like my brain is transplanted with another one after a shot. The thought of consequences goes out the window.
No wonder meth is poison to the gay community :-(
I only get really, really horny if I use meth unfortunately. And I've managed to develop a habit with IV/smoked methamphetamine now which is far more destructive than the opiates or benzos. Meth has messed me up pretty bad. I almost always engage in risky sexual behaviour when I shoot Meth. Its something I struggle to control. Its like my brain is transplanted with another one after a shot. The thought of consequences goes out the window.
No wonder meth is poison to the gay community :-(
Here too. I just turned 39 a couple days ago. The last year and a half or two i ha e not been very interested n sex. Im married by the way. My wife and i habe been together 17 years.
I have a number of issues that i believe are conrributing to my lack of "appetite" for sex. Ive been sufferi g from depression and severe anxiety for a a number of years now and its not getting any better. The depression not so much, but my anxoety is getting worse.
We ha e three kids, the oldest a freshman inhigh school. I have some other medical problems that have caused me to bounce around a number of jobs the last four years Between that and my GAD, generalized anxiety disorder, have led to my lack of sex drive.
I have a bad knee and shoulder that need both need surgery. They cause me a lot of pain, for which ive been on a number of opiate pain meds. Im currently use fent patches to battke the pain, but they do t work a 100% of the time. Some times not even 50 to 60% pain reduction. So between the anxiety and the pain, or fear of more, i ha ent wanted to have sex. This doesnt make my wife happy. Her sex deive currently is pretty high and constant.
We have even discussed other sexual partners. I have even given her the green light to "look else where" to fill her sexual needs. She hasnt taken the opportunity to seek "help" in the matter, as far as I know. I told her to let me know first if she decides to bed some one else. Right now i would rafher her get her fix with some one else and come home instead of this leading her having a full on affair and ask for a divorce. This is getti g of the subject, so back to the matter at hand.
My sex drive is so low that I dont evwn want to masturbate. And when I do, I cant even finish "the job", even with visual stimulation. So, if i were you i would try to identify what is causing your lack of interest.Are you married, or single and dating? If married can you, do you discuse it with your sig. other? It might help.
Any way, good luck fixing your problem.
I have a number of issues that i believe are conrributing to my lack of "appetite" for sex. Ive been sufferi g from depression and severe anxiety for a a number of years now and its not getting any better. The depression not so much, but my anxoety is getting worse.
We ha e three kids, the oldest a freshman inhigh school. I have some other medical problems that have caused me to bounce around a number of jobs the last four years Between that and my GAD, generalized anxiety disorder, have led to my lack of sex drive.
I have a bad knee and shoulder that need both need surgery. They cause me a lot of pain, for which ive been on a number of opiate pain meds. Im currently use fent patches to battke the pain, but they do t work a 100% of the time. Some times not even 50 to 60% pain reduction. So between the anxiety and the pain, or fear of more, i ha ent wanted to have sex. This doesnt make my wife happy. Her sex deive currently is pretty high and constant.
We have even discussed other sexual partners. I have even given her the green light to "look else where" to fill her sexual needs. She hasnt taken the opportunity to seek "help" in the matter, as far as I know. I told her to let me know first if she decides to bed some one else. Right now i would rafher her get her fix with some one else and come home instead of this leading her having a full on affair and ask for a divorce. This is getti g of the subject, so back to the matter at hand.
My sex drive is so low that I dont evwn want to masturbate. And when I do, I cant even finish "the job", even with visual stimulation. So, if i were you i would try to identify what is causing your lack of interest.Are you married, or single and dating? If married can you, do you discuse it with your sig. other? It might help.
Any way, good luck fixing your problem.
Searching4truth
Bluelighter
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I'm 28 and I'm married, I'm faithful and she's attractive but she wants it like every night and 50% of the time I'm turning her down and the other 50% I have to force myself to get into the mind frame. When I smoke a bit of MJ, it helps me to get there. Alcohol does too but I don't like to drink much. I like psychedelics but I've done LSD twice and the last time was August? Maybe once per month, I'm the initiator. I thought I was the only one in my age range with this issue. It's only been like this for maybe a year. I've been to the doctor and my T levels are normal. I'm not sure what to do or even if I care to do anything about it. I care about her. If that means letting her go, then...
Bagseed
Bluelighter
is there a law somewhere that says that men have to be horny every day, or can't go without sex?
having a low sex drive is hardly an issue, only when you are overly self conscious about it.
having a low sex drive is hardly an issue, only when you are overly self conscious about it.
nope, you arent the only one but it probably seems like it as this is not a 'manly' thing to talk about...the problem you are having is the same problem i have is that most women want sex fairly regularly and i am just indifferent to it for the most part..sex isnt the main ingredient in a relationship but most relationships need it to stay connected..ive had to force myself with the last 2 girls i was with, the last one could tell i wasnt into it...yohimbe works a little bit in boosting sex drive but also increases anxiety..
lol have you ever had a gf that has a normal healthy sex drive?if your sex drive is lower than normal, to the point where you almost could care less if u have sex or not, then its a big problem in a relationship..most men have a very strong sex drive so for men who dont, they start to see that something may be wrong with them or out of balance or something..lol..besides, having a healthy sex drive is not only important to pleasing your girlfriend, it often motivates you in other areas, job, status etc etc..
Bagseed
Bluelighter
^ yeah I see where you are coming from, but I still don't see why a low sex drive in general should be seen as something "not normal". if it causes problems in a relationship, then the problem lies more in how the situation is being handled. Maybe better communication would be in order, to sort it out?
I'd agree that having no sex drive at all might be problematic, but I fail to see the problem with not wanting to have sex every day.
but I don't know, I'd still make a girl happy, even if I'm not that horny, just because it is fun to do.
I'd agree that having no sex drive at all might be problematic, but I fail to see the problem with not wanting to have sex every day.
but I don't know, I'd still make a girl happy, even if I'm not that horny, just because it is fun to do.