Advice Anxiety when Dating or even Flirting

[Dreamflyer]

I'm a guy who has suffered with this since a young teenager. I finally seemed to outgrow it after being in a couple of good relationships with some great women.

Well, now I've been single for many, many years and mostly by choice. I went through a few really dramatic relationships around the early 2000's that ended very badly.

Well, I'm starting to enjoy making small-talk with members of the opposite sex again. But I get those same butterflies in my stomach like I'm 13 again. I actually enjoy that feeling to a degree, but it has been known to develop into anxiety/panic and that's my biggest fear.

Thank you all so much for listening!
Much Love,
Dreamflyer

 

[ghostandthedarknes]

Those butterflies are a good thing. Let's u know you're alive and with someone u enjoy.

 

[THECATINTHEHAT]

That’s normal, I think mostly everyone gets that to one degree or another.

 

[Opi_Kid_Rock]

I experience that and I’m looking to try and overcome it as well but not sure how to begin. Practice talking to them I guess. Can anyone else speak to success over the matter?

 

[ghostandthedarknes]

 

[Dreamflyer]

I experience that and I’m looking to try and overcome it as well but not sure how to begin. Practice talking to them I guess. Can anyone else speak to success over the matter?

It takes a little time, but when you get into a more serious relationship and start to see each other much more often, a lot of initial anxiety starts to go away.

Happy Dating!
Dreamflyer

 

[G_Chem]

I’ll be real. While he got the number, I don’t think he sealed the deal. Is there a video of him going out with the chick? Lol.

It seemed she was trying to use her friend as an out.

-GC

 

[ghostandthedarknes]

I’ll be real. While he got the number, I don’t think he sealed the deal. Is there a video of him going out with the chick? Lol.

It seemed she was trying to use her friend as an out.

-GC

It may be a fake video but the principle is solid. Nothing better than truth. Jmo tho

 

[ghostandthedarknes]

@Dreamflyer asking because of ur handle. U into lucid dreaming?

 

[SpiralusSancti]

For anxiety reasons sadly (I think) I’m better in seducing woman while I’m high. Once we end up together and get to know each other a bit that anxiety melts away.

 

[Dreamflyer]

@Dreamflyer asking because of ur handle. U into lucid dreaming?

Oh. totally. I've had them naturally since I was a little, and as I learned more about then online I got a lot better.

A sad thing happened when my dad passed away about 5 years ago. My dreams had become very lucid by then, and he was in a lot of them. It felt as though he was right in front of me, but I knew that he wasn't, and I sort of de-programmed myself from lucid dreams from that point on!

I have had several enjoyable ones since then, but not nearly as many.

Dreamflyer

 

[ghostandthedarknes]

Oh. totally. I've had then naturally since I was a little, and as I learned more about then online I got a lot better.

A sad thing happened when my dad passed away about 5 years ago. My dreams had become very lucid by then, and he was in a lot of them. It felt as though he was right in front of me, but I knew that he wasn't, and I sort of de-programmed myself from lucid dreams from that point on!

I have had several enjoyable ones since then, but not nearly as many.

Dreamflyer

Lucid Dreaming by Stephen LeBerge. Good read

 

[Neuroborean]

In my opinion, if you don't get any of those, then you're not in love and you're probably not gonna be in love with that person,
I mean, I'm patient and I don't expect love at first sight, but if I don't feel a bit flushed after talking with an attractive woman, and some endorphins+adrenergic push...
uhmm perhaps I just wouldn't proceed any further.

 

[MadHatterMike]

Oh ya..I take it as it's the hormones getting ready honestly. Sometimes there is a lotta them saying yeah buddy.

 

[crazyhairman]

Yea alive and not a psychopath.